I think you might have hit the nail on the head when you said you don't have many friends who have been pregnant, so this seems like a unique situation that now she's also doing. Like, if you took up origami and suddenly she was doing it too - it would seem awfully copy-cat.
But really, most women will get pregnant in their lifetimes. So it's kind of an anomaly that you have a situation where you have been alone in this pregnancy - it does happen to most women.
As time goes on and your friends change from the ones you have now, to the ones in the future - and they will be moms with kids - you'll maybe feel more comfortable around other women with kids - because most women have them.
Best wishes. Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery.
It's just so crazy frustrating. I'm also incredibly passive aggressive so I've never called her out on any of this. It is likely Complete coincidence that she's also pregnant but she definitely would have conceived after she found out I was pregnant and I can't get it out of my head that she stopped using protection on purpose.
By steal my thunder I just mean all the excitement feels slightly deflated now. I'm 29 and honestly never thought I would have kids. I also don't have very many friends who have been pregnant, and none where I live now so it was an experience that was uniquely mine. And now I feel like I'm sharing it with someone that I don't even like that much... it's probably selfish of me to feel that way but I just can't help it.
Watch Single White Female now lol.
I had a roommate who had been my friend for years before we moved in together she was my best friend. I became too suffocated by her because suddenly everything I did she did too. She chased the same guys I did, plus more. We worked the same jobs and had the same friends. 7 years after we moved away from each we barely talk and there is a ton of built up resentment. Get out on your own with your boyfriend before it becomes even more toxic
Once your lease runs up, it sounds like it would be a good idea to part ways.
I can't tell from your post what "thunder" of yours she is taking by being pregnant herself - but the two of you don't seem like compatible friends.
Oh ya, I forgot. She even changed practise and has the same doctor as me now.. not by my recommendation either...