need to vent

[chrissymccann23]

So i drove across the country for my baby shower and about 30 people rsvp'd, well only 10 showed up. 400 dollars on a shower and people cant even be bothered to show up and it ***** that some of them were my family. Then i open the gift from my mother in law and my husbands family and it is a travel system. That i didnt register for. Because i already have one, and it was clearly for a boy when i am having a girl. And upon looking online on where to return it i find that it is the cheapest one the store carries. Like 10 people went in on this gift. I am dumbfounded that my husband and i having a new baby isnt as important as black friday shopping. I am cutting about 20 people out of my life as of today cuz they just are not worth my stress.

[AngelaAdams]

My baby shower is a week from today. And I'm SO worried this will happen to me too! I don't know why, because almost everyone has rsvp'd out of 60 ppl invited. But I guess its cause I always expect the worst. So then when something amazing does happen, I can be surprised! If not, no big deal. Sorry that happened to you btw.. :(

[RecMom21]

I totally get it. I have family that has let me down in the past and looking at these posts, I've decided not to even bother. I hope it all works out for you.

[expectingma4th]

If i were u i wld be hateful right now u threw ur own baby shower that cost u money for the ppl u invited its not like u just threw a casual party u invited ppl that u thought wld want to help celebrate the child ur expecting its a big deal in ur life .. hello dont sa ur going to come if ur not going to

[anxiousmommy2be]

Omg...I would be pissed off myself! I don't understand why people say they are going to show up to an event and don't.. I know things come up but sheesh! They should want to support you and this happy time in your life..this makes me nervous because my shower is next weekend and I'm afraid of the turn out all because there's this big concert going on at the same time..if they choose a concert over my shower I'm cutting them off just like u lol..they should respect your moment!

[ladiluck]

I think you have all the reasons to be mad hell if it was me I would be Pissed off...I also feel like if ppl don't understand your anger then they shouldn't comment because you're not looking for someone to put you down when it was suppose to be your special day and you put all your hardwork into it. Like I said you have the right to be Pissed off if it was me pregnant and all I would've caused hell...lol

[Gishie37]

I can relate. When I had my baby shower, I had alot of no shows as well. I was tight on money at the time and my aunt said she was going to help with the food. She didnt even help with anything! She was just all talk! And at my baby shower, she's talking about how she's helping plan her co-workers shower. It made me upset because she couldn't help her own family out and she's bragging about the decorations their gunna have for her co-worker.

[megadams]

I really think the worst part is them not showing when they said yes. I had enough "no shows" at my wedding earlier this year that could've been almost 2 less tables! That's a LOT of money, so I feel your pain.

I also got a lot that was not on my registry, some people just do what they want/can afford.

[NMascali]

People have a registry for a reason. And for people to not even acknowledge it is frustrating. I just had a shower and it was perfect. Im sorry yours wasnt what you had planned. Especially since you had to travel so far away. And I think so many people not showing up after saying they would ***** too!! Do what you feel you need to do to be less stressed. Don't let people put you down. They don't know you or your situation.  Good luck to you!!

[chrissymccann23]

Keelie if you knew my inlaws you would have a different opinion on the matter. I saw what they bought on black friday, and if you.cant afford something then dont come. I am spending my money on food and things for these people when it could have been going to baby things. Would you go to a wedding and put 10 dollars in a card when you know your meal costs 50? Its etiquette. Not childishness.

[brit333]

I can understand being frustrated about them getting you boy stuff knowing you are having a girl. That's rude. If it makes you feel better for my shower my in laws got me a book for our daughter and it's a book for like a 7 year old boy... So I know what you mean. But I don't understand why people rsvp if they aren't going to go. That's a lot of food and preperation going into something that was wasted. I hardly got anything on my registry. It's a pain to do and no one bothers to look at it. Hopefully they send baby something for Christmas :) but I've learned people will always let you down no matter what. Try not to hold a grudge tho. It's not good for anyone. It stinks yes but life shows you who cares and who doesn't in a time like this

[keelie81]

You're sounding rather childish and entitled imo.  First of all you baby shower is during the holidays things come up so maybe those people had a viable excuse not to come. And even though the travel system was the cheapest maybe thats all that all those people could afford to get I mean d a m n it is right before Christmas!  They didn't HAVE to get you ANYTHING you should be thankful that they even got you anything at all. Cutting people out of your life because of something like this is stupid and sounds to me like you would be doing them a favor by doing so