please help?!?

[ProudMommyThree]

Hey ladies I hate to get on here & vent. So I'll keep it short & simple. I'm 7 weeks pregnant. & my child's father and I has always had an on & off relationship. During the breakups and makeups I believe he has lost a lot of respect for me. Or that doesn't appreciate me anymore. At this point I want to leave for good. But what should I do now that a child is involved? I'm so mad at myself for giving my child a father that's a complete jerk. :/Any advice will help, no matter how sweet or harsh.

[ChristinaKay27]

Thats how it always happens then later on down the line he will try and come back but by then its a little too late and then you wont want him back...thats life for ya

[ProudMommyThree]

Way easier said than done, but I know it must be done. It seems as if he won't realize what he's got until I'm gone..

[ChristinaKay27]

Leave him alone because you're going to do the child more harm than good by staying if he does not respect you. Love yoursekf enought to walk away. I been there done that and I know its easier said than done but you can do it and it definitely takes time.

[ProudMommyThree]

thanks Mreeah & Elena01. You ladies are both absolutely right. I'm definitely gonna give him his space because me pressuring him to act a certain way is hurting me as well. I just hope he shapes up. I understand his fear but his lack of sensitivity to the way I'm feeling really hurts & pisses me off! He wanted this baby, not saying I didn't but we could've wait in my opinion. I love him & I know he loves me but right now we are really at odds!

[elenaway01]

And yes encourage him and ull c how hell be so happy just don't stress him out cuz trust me he cares but in his head he's thinking I rather her leave me n not worry but f that let him Noe this is his child to n u dont need him but want him n don't let him go that easy just be calm happy and focus on u then hell notice ur not nagging him n he's gunna wonder and slowly let him in ur life again but encourage him to be the man u want and if he loves u like I think he does he will

[elenaway01]

No give him space ur stressing ur self out and can even lose ur baby becuz of this before three months any little thing can get u a mc stay calm give him space and he's gunna come back but dont overload him with things guys are different just relax focus on u and ur baby that's what's important

[Mreeah]

I would try talking to him and seeing if you guys could work out. I was with a guy like that, & i felt so unappreciated that i would question why i was even with him/ kept going back. Leaving him was the best thing ever.
I know its harder for you since youre pregnant but looking at things in the long term...will you guys be on and off still?
Sometimes its better to let things go...having a civil parenting relationship is better then you or him being unhappy in a relationship. Kids just want to see their family be happy. To be loved & supported.
They know when its a lie too.

[elenaway01]

And dont call him a jerk remember he's in shock the more your nice the better hell act towards u stop belittling the father of ur child or ull never work when u see him excited about the baby encourage him don't pop his bubble

[ProudMommyThree]

Ive talked to him. I even told him it was over & he didn't seem to care too much. Do I cut him completely off until the baby gets here or do I still encourage him to attend Dr appts & etc..

[elenaway01]

I'm going through almost the same thing. The difference is I'm not putting pressure on my man. He's excited were having a child and is trying and I Noe if I nagg him or talk smack he's gunna lose that happiness so instead when we argue I stay quite and he calms down lol I tell him watt I need and tell him its for our family I tell him I love him and I'm thankful he's trying and he's really committed hell buy me thing out of no where goes to baby appointments he's stepping up remember don't pressure him or become clingy or hell run b sweet every thing changed now

[Tristen1haani2]

Try and talk to him and see how he is feeling about u and tell him how u feel and go into the situation from there be honest don't beat around the bush cause it will either eat at u or make things better or not