wow !! my friend girl is Mad at me just because o won't listen to her

[springblessings2014]

I'm married and I used to leave with my husband for so many years right . And  friend girl says that I really need my mom to be with me 24 /7 at leat for 6 Months coz I gonna need her help . AND I'm just thinking different I want to enjoy my journey the begging of my motherhood at my own with my husband. I don't get why she is saying that I'm so wrong .  She's mad coz I say I don't need to have my mom all my pregnancy and labor . and after labor .  I feel I can do it ay my own as a normal human being that learn from beginning.  

[springblessings2014]

I understand beautiful ladies . See this is ridiculous why should I stay my whole pregnancy and even at labor and when baby born to keep my mom for more than  a year just because that's the right way according to my friend girl"!!!  When my mom barley talk to me everytime we stay together  and zero compliment .. everyone say to me how cute and nice I love with my bump and she doesn't even say nothing what type of love is this ? And when she see others pregnant s she say nice things to them .  I'm glad today she is leaving the house for good .

[lkaykirk]

My mother in law is coming for a week then my mom. But it's just to help around the house and with the dog. And my cousin wants to come clean and nd spend time with me so she is coming for a week. But her main reason is to see the baby and spend time with me. But I'm the one taking care of the baby. And I didn't ask for them to come they just wanted to come help out but my mother in law wants to come like every few weeks and I don't know how I'll feel about that. Right now I don't want her to come that much.

[Jade_Elouise518]

I asked my mom come for a few says after my first was born. After the first night I told her.to.go.home bc it wasn't that bad. Once I got.comfortable with changing him everything else was a piece of cake.

[Schmalzy]

My mom moved in with my sister when she had her twins and so My mom wanted to come move in with us when we have our baby as well. I had to kindly tell her no and that she could come visit but she doesn't have to move in.  My husband is taking time off when baby gets here and we are both very excited to do everything and bond with baby just as a family. So I totally understand you.  :)

[springblessings2014]

Oh ladies you are amazing thanks a lot you really feel me . You way you talk is totally right thanks again for understanding me . I won't forget your great advice . God bless you ladies

[GxoK]

If u aren't close to ur mom, all having her around will do is stress u out. I've had two kids so far and my mom wasn't around for either. I did just fine. I'm now pregnant with my third and my mother and I r just now coming to a point in our relationship where we can talk to eachother regularly. But just bc I talk to her doesn't mean her presence is necessary for the success of my pregnancy or my well being during this pregnancy...c what I'm saying? Who cares if ur friend is mad. She obviously needs something different from her mother than u do. If she needs that type of emotional involvement from family members to feel supported and stable, that's her gig. If u don't, then cool. Just tell her thanx for the advice but u feel comfortable in ur abilities to do this without constant help.

[tamagojo]

It could be a cultural difference? I know that in Japan the new mother goes to live with her family for a month after the birth of her child. Maybe your friend has a similar tradition and can't see there are other ways of doing things?

[YaryMommy]

I tell myself that taking care of a baby it's common sense stuff because of our mommy instincts.

[springblessings2014]

Exactly . Plus I'm not close to my mom were not too friendly . Now my mom all she cares is about her grandkids . So I don't need and I don't have the feeling of having her with me ... and I don't know why my friend girl judge me for that ....

[Mansi44]

It's nothing like that. I was alone for my whole pregnancy and at the same time I was managing household and job too. If u think you can do it alone, nothing is hard.

[Mansi44]

It's nothing like that. I was alone for my whole pregnancy and at the same time I was managing household and job too. If u think you can do it alone, nothing is hard.

[Staci_Day]

I didn't need any help at all! I am ftm and knew pretty much nothing about taking care of a newborn but it all came natural and I had no problem at all! She isn't necessarily right for saying that. I mean some mommas prob do need help and some need no help at all.