1st Trimester

[JoyRenee]

A thread just for all of you in the first trimester. First trimester is up until week 14 of pregnancy. Feel free to discuss all of your 1st trimester questions and discussions here!

[MammaG8tes]

Right now not all but a lot of women on this site, including myself, are not here because they are having wonderful perfect pregnancies. Alot of them are scared out of their minds because there is a very good possibility that their pregnancies will not continue to term. I am definitely one of those people myself.  Everyone just wants a little reassurance and advice.  Most people want and need to hear in situations like this that it is in no way shape or form their fault.  I know it runs through everyone's head about what they could have done differently to make sure a pregnancy continued but like I said they all need assurance that there was nothing they could do.  At the point when a pregnancy is being lost it is in God's hands and He has chosen to take that sweet angel into his own arms.  After I went to my dr. for my first ultrasound and they told me that things weren't looking good I went in search of something, anything I could do to try and turn things around.  After searching and searching I found nothing.  There is nothing that can be done and if there were wouldn't everyone be doing it?  If this has happened to you, you know what I'm talking about. And then there is always that long agonizing wait and see period.  But then once you have come to the realization that there is something wrong and there is nothing you can do you feel helpless and all you want is for someone to comfort you. And it's sad when no one does.  This site full of women all going through the same things all feeling the same feelings.  I would hope that we would all comfort each other through these difficult times. Be a beacon for those in need. I know I've been rambling but I just had to say it.  Wishing you all the best.

[twvamama]

UPDATE:

Last night, I had period like cramps for couple hours, and then I went to the bathroom to pee. When I wiped, there were dark dark brown, almost black tissue like thick clots. I was horrified! I had never seen anything like it! I already had made an appointment for the next morning, so there was nothing I could do but wait. The night was long and I cried most of the time because I was so scared. My husband kept insisting we go to the ER immediately, but I told him, I'd rather hear the news (good or bad) from our doctor. And I wasn't in any pain.  

Next morning, we went to see my doctor, and I told her everything in detail. We did an ultrasound, and everything was normal and great. We got to see our baby's heartbeat for the first time. The first time I had the ultrasound was at 5 weeks so there wasn't much to see, but at 7 weeks, I saw the little bean with the little flickering heartbeat. The doctor confirmed that everything was fine, and said that all my spotting and cramps were fine as long as in wasn't severe pain and heavy bleeding. I asked about the bright red spotting, and she said that's fresh blood and she doesn't know why. All she could say was all pregnancy's are different, and she told me during her second pregnancy, she spotted for one month. It's the fetus latching on and the uterus expanding, and every body responds differently. But she understood, how all these chain of events terrified me. I am scheduled for another appointment two weeks later, to make sure everything is ok. Until then, she told me to take it easy, and no intercourse.

Being pregnany, I just became much more aware of everything going on in my body, and it's sooo easy to be paranoid and anxious. Having brown spotting on and off for a week, and the middle of the night bright red bleeding, and the weird black clots! sheeesh!

I hope anyone with similar symptoms who is panicing now, could take comfort in my story. (because I know I freaked out) I'll update again if anything else happen!

[Mommashelley1]

Dont think in any way I was trying to tell her IF she didnt go in it woul be her fault she had the M/C. I was imply stating what went through my mind when I had mine. I know its natural and theres nothing I could have or she could do . but you automatically accuse yourself of doing something wrong if you know you could have gotten help.

[twvamama]

I made an appointment to see my doctor tomorrow. I continued to spot all day. Just a little, but enough to change the panty liner every time I go to the bathroom. I'm so scared. I really hope that everything is fine. Thanks for your word's of encouragements.

[MammaG8tes]

First of all, if, God forbid, you are having a m/c at this early in a pregnancy there is just about nothing you or anyone can do to stop it.  It is nature and it means that there is something really wrong.  If it's not then you will be ok but you really should call your dr. or go to the ER.  If you are bleeding like that it is not normal and you need to get help.  I'm no expert but if it were me I would take myself in and get some help immediately.  Second, if it is a m/c don't you ever think in a million years that it was your fault and shame on anyone who tells you it is. Barring you're not smoking crack or drinking heavily or puting your body in harms way then don't ever think that.  If it is nothing then the dr.'s will tell you it's nothing but this to me doesn't sound like nothing.  So for your piece of mind please call your dr. and get some help and make them see you. If he/she get's irritated like your bothering him/her then find a new damn dr. it is their job and that is why they get paid the big bucks. Best wishes and my prayers are with you.

[Mommashelley1]

your doctors are there for a reason, your not bothering them their there to help. you need to call the doctor. all he can do is tell you your fine which is what you want to hear. you dont want to hear them say well if you had come in sooner. then your kick yourself forever bc you know it was your fault you didnt go in.