Baby shower for second child?

Question

I haven't done a registry yet because I don't think I'll need one.  Do you usally get a baby shower after your first baby?  Especially since this baby is the same gender as my first one and only 2 years apart.  What happend with those of you who already have children?  I know that you'll sometimes get a shower if the baby is a different sex as the first or if it has been a long time since you had your last one.  I was just wondering if I should do a registrey or not?

cminamyer · Answer

Yup, that's what I think I'm going to do, thanks ashie!

ashiepooh · Answer

lol if you just explain that, i don't think it would offend them! And if they say they truly really want to buy you something, go ahead and make a list of what you really need, and offer that to them to buy! =)

cminamyer · Answer

Most of my thoughts are the same as everyone else's, no baby shower for this one... Especially since I won't be going home.  I think I might do a registry just to remind myself what I need, and if anyone asks what I need they will be able to look it up online and just order it there so they don't have to buy it, bring it home and then ship it.  Thanks to all of you for your comments, I live in Hawaii and all or our family's are on the mainland.  We did do a big party for my daughter, one in Cali and one in Michigan and we had to travel for them.  We lived in Washington DC at the time.  So I think it would just be alot easier to tell all of my family thanks, but we've got everything.  Do you think that would offend anyone?  Especially since I really, REALLY don't need any clothes!  Because we had to pack everything back up and ship it or fit it in a suit case for the first shower that's what everyone got us.  I have more clothes than my daughter could have worn and I kept them all for this little girl. 

Again, thanks to all of you I was feeling pretty much the same but wanted to check.

GRose · Answer

As much as I wish I could have a second baby shower, it just isn't done. A few of my friends at work have mentioned having a shower for me but they are all younger and don't really know that a second baby shower isn't usually done. I would love it if someone threw me one but I am not expecting and will not register until I know if someone is doing it.

ashiepooh · Answer

Here is what I did with my son, because with my daughter we bought all unisex stuff until 6 months old, and even still had some ahead of that.  I had a "Bowling Party" baby shower.  We all went bowling, and I just asked everyone for diapers and wipes!  That way the husbands/boyfriends all bowled and some of the girls did, but mostly we were all talking about our babies and eating food.  SO you could do something similar to that.  Or ask for a few things you may need that is updated or so.  

We'll be doing the same for this little girl!  A "Bowling Party" baby shower..  SO all the guys can bowl, and I can hang out with my girlfriends, and the kids can even bowl.  We also have friends from out of state coming who haven't seen everyone in over a year!  =)

You can always do a Welcome home party, so everyone can see the baby, and you can ask them to bring diapers and wipes.  That way it's not something too expensive.

KM604 · Answer

My sister-in-law didn't really have a baby shower for her first because he was a premie, but they did like a Welcome Baby type thing a few months later.  Then her second child was 5 years later and it was a girl and they also did a baby shower.  Then 5 years after that she was pregnant but with another boy, so they did another shower because by now her first son is 11.  My in-laws are also hispanic and they can find a way to make a party for anything, LOL, so her situation may have been different.  I guess it would be up to you, but if you don't really need anything than maybe it isn't a big deal to not do one.

Mumita · Answer

I don't like baby showers and I am really not looking forward to a baby shower for me, so I'd only do one and that's it.
I don't know why I don't like them, its probably because of all the silly games which I will forbid to anyone that throws me a baby shower.  I preffer the co-ed baby shower.

kikicoates78 · Answer

Well I would thionk it would depend on your friends and families thoughts, since they are the ones ultimately throwing it for you. This is my third, BUT my husbands first, and my boys are 14, and 9, oh yeah and this one is a girl! So there was never a question that yes I will have a baby shower, but if we are able to get PG again like we plan within a couple of years, qwe probly will not. Although somthing at your home that you could throw that one of the other ladies in my May 09 baby forum said was to have like a cook out/picnic that she is hosting, it is gonna be co-ed and they are calling it a diaper shower. I thought that was pretty clever! 

My thought is; it is a new baby it deserves some kinda party ;)

sweetangel7 · Answer

I tried to read up on the etiquette of this because I know at my job, people always do the first baby shower BUT no-one attends or does anything for a second shower...so, I have been trained that it is a no-no.  Different etiquette sources such as Emily Post seem to agree on some things and disagree on others...Basically, the gist of what I read was having someone host a celebration of baby is absolutely fine...not a 'shower', they seem to say that you should not mention gifts however if someone wants to bring a gift, you should accept graciously.  Some ideas that they had were a tea party, pampering day for the mom to be, brunch...it should be different than a shower.  They also said guests should be limited to family, and close friends only.  

I know I didn't give you an answer but at least I got you some info on line that you can think about =)