AF did come im giving up i think

[sabella_doub]

So only a few days ago did AF come knocking at my door step and now i feel ttly bumed i mean maybe im not right to be a mom maybe thats why it wont happen thats what my mind keeps telling me it says give up..yes after only trying twice.. but my BF said that we should give it another try when he comes home from leave and my heart says to TTLY do that becaue i know how much we want a family together and to not give up but my head and my heart have some serious conflicting ideas. WHAT DO I DO DID ANYONE ELSE FEEL THIS WAY AND IF SO WHAT DID YOU DO

[mamaof4410]

I agree with Kyliem87. Stop trying atleast mentally. Your going to wear yourself out. Just relax and enjoy "making a baby" this includes spending quality time with your partner, going out. Enjoy eachothers company so it doesnt turn into a "job". That takes all of the fun out of it. I had been trying for 5 months and when I wasn't getting pregnant quickly the way i had before my mother in law told me to stop trying. I did just that. I guess from relaxing and not being so tense about it helped. I tested 4 weeks later since AF decided not to show her face ( I was 2 days late). And got my BFP. Sometimes stress is the best birth control. Good Luck to you. Relax and enjoy yourself.

[Kyliem87]

I would deffinately not give up you're still only rather young and have plenty of time...anyways it's fun trying so when it happens you'll feel even more excited, you won't take it for granted cause it took you that little bit longer to get there.  When your mans back enjoy each others company and don't just focus on making a baby it can strain your relationship and even make a seed for resentment it took me 8months to concieve and unfortunately i miscarried but I'm going to try again but going with the "if it happens it happens" approach, no contraception but no "we HAVE to do it tonight i'm most fertile!" as i don't want my partner thinking he's a machine and only programmed for when is best to conceive good luck and have fun trying!

[snagglepuss1]

I'm right there with how you feel, and experienced exactly the same feeling after losing my first 3 pregnancies. I wanted to give up and say that's it, but the ache in my heart for a child forced me to carry on and it worked in the end....I have 3 children now and am currently ttc my 4th. Had a mirena coil removed Jan this year and despite the regular periods I've been having every month since, I am convinced each month I am pregnant only to have af show up. I wish there was a switch to just flip thinking about getting pregnant and during the dreaded 2ww, so we don't think about it at all, it's so much easier said than done hey!

[Minigingerbread]

I am right with you. In fact there a quite a few ladies here in the same boat as you. I've tried for almost a year, with a miscarriage last year. And my clock is ticking fast. I'm 30 soon! I feel like just giving up. Maybe a baby is just not meant for me. Nobody else understands me because people around me are getting pregnant with a snap of their fingers. But there are many wonderful ladies here who understand exactly how we feel. So feel free to rant to us because we all know how hard the road to ttc is. We just encourage each other cycle after cycle, and exchange occasional tips. Hang on there, be strong! There's really nothing we can do, nor know the reason why, but to keep trying. You can read my other post. 170+ replies as of now. Baby dusts to you!

[Clysta]

Don't give up. It's not surprising in the least you've not fallen pregnant yet. You can not assume it will happen right away though. Sooo many women do this. Remember it's normal up to a year or longer. Very few couples will conceive the first few times they try, and it doesn't mean something is wrong with you nor that you're not supposed to be a mom. Less than 50% of couples conceive in the first 6 months. Just don't expect so much each time. Enjoy the time with your partner and let things happen. The more you expect it to happen the harder it is when it doesn't. Don't read and look into every symptom. Often doing this will make them worse than they are, delay your period and mess with your body.