Concerned Possibility

[Stuck123]

Okay, I recently overcame a big obstacle in my life when getting into a serious relationship which made the relationship I am currently go to another level. My concern is that we had unprotected sex 5 days after menstruating, then again 3 days after that and 4 days after that again twice. I know for sure he came inside all but the first time for sure, ( still may have though ).

I know that it is going out on a limb being that it's only been a week and half, but I got home from work last night and was drained, actually took a nap and that is not something I do. Then this morning something just felt different apart from mood swings ( wanting to cry for no reason, and for everyone to just leave me alone ), I'm extremely tired and got plenty of sleep last night, dont feel good at all being neasuated, kind of dizzy and I eat well.

My period is very irregular but according to last months I am not due to start for another 2 1 /2 weeks or so, and find it odd that I am getting slight cramping and all of the other symptons of it and something is just nagging at me that I am pregnant. Along with that I know it is to early to test but do plan on it in a couple weeks if my period doesn't appear. Just looking for information or anyone that may have experienced something similiar.

[Stuck123]

UPDATE:


So I started my period yesterday, not pregnant. He knows and I can see the relief in him so things are still going good, just wanted to let you all know. False alarm but he was thinking to so we were both on the same page. Thank you all again.

[Stuck123]

No, his friend ( guy he works with ) asked me if I was pregnant, I by no means look anywhere close to pregnant, I'm a really small girl. It was just very random. I know I am apart of the "shop talk." The rest of it was a conversation I had with my b/f in front of his brother and a couple of his friends. Just that he really hopes not and it but if I am then its reality and we'll have to do what we need to. He is really panick stricken over it I have tested once and it came out negative but with my period being irregular its a hard call so I am going to wait alittle while longer and try again.

[Brittney11]

So your b/fs brother said that you look like you are preggo. And your bf said you guys would be fine if you are?

[Stuck123]

Now I am really confused. We went out to his brother's yesterday and then his friends's I was pretty wowed when his friend out of no where asks me if I'm pregnant and that my b/f told him he hoped I wanted kids cause he wanted a couple more. As far as I am concerned with that comment it really isn't any of his business, though my b/f didn't say a word about it. Later on after we went back over to his brother he did bring it up again and how I should get put on birth control. Something I refuse to do because of how my body reacts to it if explained this to him a few times and then said condoms but he doesn't want to do that either. I feel more at ease about it and told him I am going to get a test, I asked him what if again and he said that he wasn't ready but we would be find if I am. It was just all alittle strange because his brother and a few other people were all standing around when we had the conversation. Kind of tells me that he does want to but he's just conflicted because of everything else going on. Any thoughts?

[Stuck123]

I am going to test this coming week sometime though my period still isn't due until the beginning of next week if it's comparing it to last months. We have talked and he is just really overloaded not to mention now his ex wife is going to try to go for more child support so he has a whole lot on his plate right now. We are fine though and will work together if I am pregnant, just a major reality check I think more for him then me.

[Brittney11]

Have you found out anything yet or talked to you bf

[Stuck123]

Wow, wasn't expecting a response like that. Actually that is the least of my worries, but it is a possibility. He's a very well rounded guy, went to college has a great job like I said before and is one of the more respectful guys I have ever met let alone dated.
I think that he is just having and overload, which that has a lot to do with the situation with his son and his ex wife. It's very complicated and really new to me so I am holding on to my patient. His son has severe adhd, he bounces off the walls on and off nonstop until he goes to sleep and its get up and do it all over again the next day. Is a good kid just lacking the attention and structure I think.


From an outside perspective I could understand where he isn't ready for more children. I'm not particular ready either but if I am I know I can deal with it and make the best of it. Just one of them 50/50 things. Definatly do have to say though he is a great father and if I am pregnant I dont see him bailing on me just because he doesn't want to deal with it. Things should calm down alittle bit after we talk, I was just surprised and caught off guard him bringing up after I decided it was best to bring it up myself feeling the way I have been.
Thanks for the support

[Dimond]

be storng.  i have a couple of friends that went thru what you are going thru.  if he indeed bails out on you that is if, you can handle it.  you'd be amazed how strong you can be when put on the spot.  it might be difficult for a year or two but so worth it.

[Brittney11]

just hang in there and you will know soon enough. My husband told me the same thing and to tell you the truth if you wait until you think you are finacally stable it will never happen. thats how it has happened to me.

[cminamyer]

I was the same way with two of my pregnancies. The only early symptom I got was being really really tired.  I took naps and felt really exausted for no apparent reason.  Each time I found out that I was preggers about a week later.  Good Luck.

[Stuck123]

I had 2 big shocks today, not sure how to take either one of them. I let my b/f know that I wasn't feeling good yesterday, very unlike me. Then today wasn't to bad, I went to work just fine but I got real neasuas, hot then dizzy like i was going to pass out. I went back to the restroom just in case and to cool off alittle bit and was just fine.

Well, after telling my b/f I wasn't feeling good I only herd from him twice yesterday. ( I work 1st shift and him 2nd ) He has a son from a previous marriage also which is nine so makes certain conversations of the serious nature kind of hard when he has him. I questioned not hearing from his last night and he stated that he just didn't want to wake me up having to work later then usual, and after my reply of not sleeping  anyways he made the comment, well as long as your not prego. He went on to mention birth control which I already told him i wasn't on before sex even become part of our relationship, and how he doesn't want any kids right now because he is not financially stable enough. ( that was done by text message, he had his son today and by the time he left he had to get ready for work so there was no time to talk)

Now I am just at a complete loss, it seemed like thats what he wanted. Like how you put it, he went inside me that many times that is usually done for a reason along with many other things he has said. It was written all over his face today and maybe even yesterday that he was worried bout it, or stressing over something. He doesn't have the greatest relationship with his ex wife which makes the situation with his son kind of difficult and I'm starting to wonder if that may not have something to do with his 360. I am even starting to consider the possibility maybe he started thinking about it before me. I was going to bring up the conversation tonight when his son wasn't there and instead he did.

I know things wills be okay if I am or not, like I said before the thought doesn't scare me or make me worry but now I am alittle more apprehensive because of his second thoughts. He has a great job and I work part time and am looking for something full time and / or pays better then where I am now graduating college. I guess this will tell me if I maybe putting it in my head but what I felt today was not normal for me by no means.
I'll keep you posted

[Brittney11]

The sicknes was the same with me i never got sick until after i found out that i was preggos and i tested 3 days before my AF was due and got a positive so just relax and wait. Good Luck and keep me posted.

[Stuck123]

I haven't gotten sick just feel like I'm going to and the dry throat feeling. We have talked about kids him more then me, I'm on the ground where I am ready to but kind of anxious at the same time, I just graduated college. I am by no means worried or stressed if I am, I actually am happy with the thought. I had a previous b/f want to get me pregnant and I was by no means ready for that then, caused me to be panick stricken and now I am really relaxed at the idea, just not liking the idea of having to wait to test. Thanks for your reply

[Brittney11]

I had the same feeling about 2 wks before my period was due. slight cramping, getting sick and extremly tired even though i didnt do much all day. And i am now 21 wks preggo. Are you and him wanting a baby? just asking because yall had unprotected sex and you let him go inside of you that many times.