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9636087 tn?1406212168

DNA TEST!!really!?!

So I just need to vent real quick because I am sooo offended nd I need to know if I am over reacting but last night while my boyfriend was sleeping I was talking to his mother about my baby shower and where we could have it nd we talked about it dor a little nd whos invited nd out of no where she says she wants to ask me something nd doesnt want to offend me nd she asked me to get a freakin DNA test to make sure its her sons baby!!im 7 months pregnant nd she said its my choice if I want to do it before or after the baby is born nd she expected me not to feel offended because she asked me nicely!!so I said ill get one but only if ur son wants it not if u want one because hes the only person I have to prove but ughhh like really nd she says oh.mabey thats why we fight because he doesnt think hes the dad ummm nooo we fight because he wont stop creepin behind my back am I over reacting??
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It sounds to me like you and your bf are Living in her house. So, no you should not be that offended if you are both mooching of her. This ofcourse is just a presumption.
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9142665 tn?1406075655
I would definitely inform him that she asked you to do this. Maybe sit the both of them down so it doesn't come across that you went around her told talk behind her back... even though thats what she did.. you can be the bigger person and basically let him know what you told her you dont have an issue with it if HE wants one and l ed t him take that up with his mom. Oh and she should definitely be paying for it since she has the doubts
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Well his mom is a b*tch then. No manners or respect from her side!
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I know how you feel. Even though I'm 100% positive that my ex is the father I'm getting one done because it's been thrown in my face that they think it might not be his. I'm making him take one so I can have the last laugh.
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I dont think ur wrong at all.in feeling offended.especially since the mother asked and not ur boyfriend. I would be a little offended too but as long as they were paying for it i would do the dna test so i can shove it in their face after and they will never try to deny my baby
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9636087 tn?1406212168
I dnt potray any wrong image im alwas home hes the one that goes out and does things behind my back she thinks because we are young thats why she has the right to ask wrooonnggg nd I dnt think he wants one because his mom didnt wanna ask me infront of him nd she wanted me to tell him that ahe asked for one cuz she knew he would get mad but idk why she would even ask if he knows its his baby shouldn't that be goos enough cuz I dnt even go out im alwas gomw no reason for her to say that
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8654668 tn?1412565128
That's not her place...The only persons opinion that matters is ur bf
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I'd be pissed too but here's a thought maybe he wants one but doesn't wanna say anything to you, so his mom's asking for him. Either way it's wrong but I've known several people to do that
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No your not over reacting. Maybe the real person that wants the dna test is your bf and he is scared to ask you him self so he must have gotten his mom to ask you. I wouldnt do it. In the same tone of voice i would say im not trying to offend you but im not getting a dna test while im pregnant to put my child at risk and when the child is born if you feel its not your grandson you can stay away... But im not trying to offend you... That should shut her up
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I'd be ******* pissed and offended and question the image you portray though? Why would she think you sleep around or cheat
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I would be really pissed. Your gonna have to take that test now. She sounds like a really nasty lady. Mothers like that will put doubt in their sons head just to get thier way.
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No my boyfriend's mom wants the same thing she thinks i cheated on him, he knows it's his baby So i decided if he wants one that's the only way I'm getting one
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Is funny when they start acting like that   ..when I had my child I was 16 and when my child was born she would make sarcastic comment like " whos the baby's father " who knows if this child is my son " i find it ridiculous from thier part just as every one else thats not her place to be asking you for anything and even If my sons father ask me too I wouldn't done it if I did I would've proof him and left him for doubting in the first place and taking others ppl as mothers advice ..Well hopefully everything turns out for the best good luck ;)
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I wouldn't pay attention to what she has to say. If you know that baby is his, and if HE knows, that's all that matters.
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That's ridiculous, she needs to know her place cause that aint it & stay in her lane! I would definitely feel some type of way too & have second thoughts about the shower cause that's offensive point blank.
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9636087 tn?1406212168
Thank u!!she said it hurt her asking me thia damn imagen how I feel than I was like thats wat I have to do for u to see my son as ur grandchild thats sad I was so close to saying ur son never used a condom in our whole relationship nd I wasnt on birthcontrol nd he knew nd I only slept with him soooo only the possibility is that its his im to the point that I dnt even want her to throw me a baby shower because wats the point u dnt think hes ur grandson
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My in laws joke around asking for one too. And im pretty sure if our son looks like me and my side of the family they'll definitely start talkiintalking and asking for one. But its my bf how can ask for one and I wouldn't even get one done, like I dont gotta prove to you sh!t. You knew what happened between us and youre doubting me obviously no trust therefore no relationship.
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Sons either . I'm like really ? When me and my kids father has been together 4 years and 6 months !!!
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Your not over reacting at all. I would be upset too! But like you said, its your bf's choice. If he thinks you should have one done then do it. But if not then I wouldn't do it.
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9309926 tn?1405447056
No your not. His mom has no right to tell you to get a DNA test. If he wants one he would of said something to you by now. Smh that messed up
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No your not over reacting at all . I'd be mad af to !!! My bfs mom tryed sayin my oldest wasn't her s
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You are not overreacting honey! It is not her place to ask you for a DNA test! She needs to mind her business! If the father of your child asks you for a test then I could see that better but for her to ask is downright disrespectful
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Nope I'd be pissed too
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