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Family vent... :(

Ok so I am just starting to get fed up with my family... I live with my aunt, uncle, 2 brothers, mom, and 12 residents (my aunt and uncle run an AFC home.) So its always crowded... I share a living room in the basement with my mom... Well everyone here is constantly fighting and arguing, and its like nobody cares that I'm pregnant and don't need the extra stress. My aunt is the most helpful, the only one I get along with here really... But she is a very busy lady as you can imagine. My uncle tries to be helpful but he is bitter at the world and we are constantly bumping heads because he always has to be mad about something, anything! And he does not believe that stress can do anything to a person physically. Him and my brother got in a fight and were slamming doors and **** and I made a comment about how there's never a dull moment around here. He yells "what's your problem, its not like you've never seen this before!" I'm like "yeah, but not while I'm pregnant!!"I started to say how stress could cause me to have a miscarriage and he walked out and slammed the door. Plus he is just inconsiderate and asks me to do things that I can't do very easily, like running up and down the stairs to grab things for my aunt and lifting things that are heavy. I'm like "hello!!...you're asking a pregnant lady here" and he just gets pissed off because I won't do it. Now my brothers are the same way. One brother made me sit in the most uncomfortable chair at christmas dinner, and when I politely asked him to switch because of my back pain, he said "um no??" I said "todd, I'm pregnant. This chair is killing me" and he said "and?? I don't give a ****" so I just got up and left the table. Plus he says things and makes me cry when I have tried telling him that my emotions are all over right now. He doesn't care. My other brother is mentally disabled and constantly tells me how I ruined my life by getting pregnant this young. My mom is an addict and the most selfish person I have ever met in my life. In the basement I sleep on a day bed and she sleeps on a fold out futon. She has been bitching about the futon ever since I moved in here like a month ago and constantly says "you never even sleep at night, you really should trade me beds, this futon is killing my back" and I'm just like wow...I'm pregnant with your first grandchild and instead you want ME to try to sleep on the futon?? Not only that but she NEVER talks/asks about the baby unless I bring it up first and the conversation is always short lived. And those are the least of my worries. I have to constantly lock all my money/valuables upin my aunts room because if not she will steal them in a heartbeat. She steals from everyone here, she has taken money out of my purse, thousands of dollars from my aunt, money out of my brothers pockets in the laundry and so on. I have never asked her for ANYTHING my whole life, and the ONE time I need her to be a mom and support me emotionally through my first pregnancy, she can't even do that. Now as I said earlier my aunt and I get along the best. But she has so much anger towards my mother for being such a ****** mother, sister and person in general, that EVERYTHING she does, my aunt ******* about to me. And it is getting old. I mean it gets right down to her shaking her head and saying "ugh. She didnt put the tie back on the bread, of course not, shes too lazy to do ****** anything around here" and so on. And this all just goes on allll day long, everyday.

Now I went and looked at an apartment last night, and it was perfect! The landlord said she would make a final decision by Friday. If I get it, I will be in...but not until next month sometime. :( I am so stressed and lost, idk what to do!!!
Sorry that was so long, all my friends dropped me since I got pregnant so you ladies are the only ones I talk to about my problems!
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2020005 tn?1628125976
Unfortunately some older people honestly DON'T think you can miscarry from stress (even some doctors will argue that now), and most older people also think us younger ones "milk" pregnancy, and whine and complain, it's just the way they are. Especially since when they were younger, they'd do anything under the sun while pregnant and didn't think it would hurt. I would try not to take offense to your Uncle, it sounds like there is much, much too much stress on them right now, I'm sure it does get hectic. I agree, probably the best thing to do would be to move out, and get on your own and try to relax as much as you can! Good luck!!
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4513508 tn?1357051722
God Loves All His Children But I'm Not Going 2 Preach @ Yu . Most Of My Advice Is Godly-Based But If Yu Ever Need 2 Tlk , My Inboxx Is Always Open & iWill Give Yu My Best Convo/Advice On Ah' Level Comfortable 4 Yu . NOBODii Deserves 2 Be Alone <3
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Oh no you didn't offend me lol I just feel like prayer doesn't work for me:'( And thank you it means a lot!
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4513508 tn?1357051722
Okaii Well iRespectfulli " Wish Yu Luck " & Apologize If iOffended Yur Atheism . Regardless I'll Still Have Yu In My Prayers & iHope Everything Works Out In Yur Best Interest <3
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Yeah that is true, no offense but I don't believe in god so praying never works for me, and I am always stuck here because I don't drive or anything:( and I live in a dangerous city to take the bus anywhere alone.. and honestly sometimes I wish I did have faith but I just can't wrap my head around it. So I feel so alone:( and if god didn't put us through more than we can handle then why do people commit suicide..... Not to start a religious debate but just saying lol. :/
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4513508 tn?1357051722
Pray On It , Try Yur Best Not 2 Stress (iWuld Honestlii Ignore Everybodii Or Try 2 Be There As Less As Possible) Have Patience , & Remember God Will Never Put Yu Through More Than He Knows Yu Can Handle .. Yu Jus Gota Have Faith :) & I'm Sure It's Hard But If Yu've Made It This Far , Yu Can Make It Through WUN More Teensy Tiny Mth 2 Claim Your Independence , New Life , & Overall Deserved Happiness . Yu Seen Very Strong & I'm Sure Yu Will Be Alright <3 Baby Needs Yu 2 Be ;) & Like They Daii , Yu Neva Kno How Strong Yu Truly Are .. Until Being Strong Is Tha Only Choice Yu Have :)
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Oh I would definitely not raise a child here, I'm trying to get out asap. I will come for short visits (like a couple hours) and that's it. I don't need the stress and my baby certainly doesn't... Thank god I am at least in my second trimester so miscarriage is unlikely now.. willing to do whatever it takes to get this apartment!! She says there is one other person interested, and is coming to see it Friday, and that she promised she wouldn't make a decision until Friday night...idk if she's just using that as a trick to get me to rent asap, or if I should really be worried! My aunt rents out houses and says she has used that trick before so idk. Just hoping like hell!!!
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True if you do get the apartment you will have to be there an extra month but would you rather wait the month and stick it out or have your child living there?? I know what i would choose.. No child should be in that enviroment and neither should you!! Ur aunty seems the only decent one. Ur brothers i would not give the time of day to and wouldnt bother with ur mum either no offence. But if u do move out please promise not to ever to back to that you deserve much much more than that and so does ur baby
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4513508 tn?1357051722
Praying Yu Get That Apartment . If Yu Ever Need 2 Tlk , Yu Can Send Me Ah' Msg . Our Situations Are Slightly Different But Relevant .. Stay Strong & Always Put Yu & Baby 1st <3
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Yeah exactly!! I mean its not like I'm asking them to cater to me just because I'm pregnant, but at least have some respect and realize that I can't do as much as everyone else and need SOME accommodation. It's like they don't even care..and I don't really have anywhere else to stay right now, I am so hoping I get this apartment!! But even then I'm stuck here for another month:(((((
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**no pregnant woman should be asked to sleep on a fruton.. Sorry dumb phone
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I pray to god you get the apartment. I cant believe you have to live like that. Its disgraceful as for your mother sorry but she is selfish.. Not pregnant woman should be asked sleep on a fruton. And u definately should not be doing jobs for people especially going up and down the stairs. Do yout family have any respect? Ur pregnant for crying out loud they need to get a grip and start respecting you. U need to get away from there hun.
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