First time single mom

[brittak92]

My daughter is only a week old, and I'm not with the father. But he has been staying with me, just up until I go back to work. He is driving me crazy. He will not do anything unless I tell him to. He sits on the couch holding her in one hand, and his phone in the other. When she cries he shoves the pacifier into her mouth, even after she continues to spit it out while crying. I ask him to just watch her for a few hours while I sleep, but she cries and as a mother I can't listen to her cry for that long. So I end up getting up to feed her and change her because he will not do it. I don't know what to do... I don't want to start a lot of fighting but I'm so aggravated. He's been so useless. Any advice? Please?

I know this doesn't really belong in this forum but no one really looks at the other ones.

[brittak92]

I sit here and watch him feed her and I try so hard not to say anything. But she looks at me with a face that says mumma save me. And starts crying...

[proudFTMTeTe]

^^i agree if this is his first he doesn't know what to do its not natural to men like it is with us I have to show my bf how to do the things I need him to do with the baby but I don't have him change her because men don't know how to clean that area properly just my opinion but as far As feeding I had to show him n with holding her correctly etc now if u showed him n he still not helping then yes he needs to go no point of keeping him around but if u haven't shown him yet show him n give him a chance

[Emmilee_Kate]

For most women being a mother comes natural. That isn't the case for a lot of men. Maybe it's that he doesn't know how to soothe a baby. Perhaps try walking him through the motions. I had to do this with my husband.

[brittak92]

I feel bad, because he is taking the initiative to stay with me and try to help. He just has no common sense of how to take care if a baby.

[abbb01]

I agree seems like theres no point in him even being there for ur daughter right now and hes just stressing u

[Bentleysmommy18]

Tell him to leave! You don't need the stress! If your doing everything anyway he has no reason to be there especially if he's not even taking care of her properly