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1877875 tn?1422446857

I need help..

I don't know what to do, I feel so unstable! My daughter means the world and more to me and she isnt even here yet. But idk if keeping her is the right decision. My mom and I fight ALL the time, she calls me a ***** and tells me I'm selfish and I can never do anything right. She makes me not want to be here anymore. But my baby girl is what is keeping me here and what is keeping me alive. I wrote this to her on my blog:
I’m sorry mommy is putting you through all this, Im sorry that she might take her own life. You’re better off without me sweety. You’re better off in a home that you have both parents that love you and that can take care of you not just me. I’m sorry you’re father was never there for you to hear his voice. I’m so sorry baby girl. Just remember mommy loves you more than anything in the entire world. She doesn’t want for this to happen, she wants to show you she really loves you. She’s sorry for being selfish but she can’t do this anymore. She is miserable and everyday she reminds herself she is only alive for you. Mommy doesn’t want to bring you into this world when she is unstable, she wants you to be with a family that has a good head on their shoulders. Just please baby Ava girl no matter what happens remember mommy loves you more than you even know <3

Please guys help me and help put my mind in a better place. Because right now it is focused on giving my baby girl up which i really dont want to do! I know I can be a good mother to my child, but I dont want to bring her into a house of constant fighting
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I think for yourself keeping your baby girl is the best for you. I understand that you don't want her raised in a world of fighting but maybe things will change once she's here. I think if you give her up it'll cause you to become more sad and actually be the worse thing for u. Follow ur heart. I believe ur the best thing for ur daughter. You'll be a great mommy. The choice is urs though.. a rough one too. You seem like u have mad love for her though.. if I were you, i would keep her. :) good luck.
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2001997 tn?1333888744
you are love by so many.... faith and the lord has giving you a gift that so many of us in the world cherish forever.
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1984089 tn?1349482899
I am so sorry u are going through this no one should have to but u can get help with leaving your house being on your own their are programs that do this thell them u are in a emotionally abusive home n u need help u are afraid for yourself and you unborn baby girl shes what matters i have been through it if u ever want to talk i am here just message me
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1935407 tn?1339234114
Dear 1st of all let me tell you this... i love your baby girl name... Ava... that was a name i plan for my baby before i know he was a boy... Ava for girl and Aidan for boy... i get Baby Aidan but only up to 21weeks.. i been thru still birth and i can tell you even Baby Aidan just half way to full term he is such a beautiful baby boy i have ever seen in my entire life.. check on my photo's if you are my friends.. or accepted my friends request if we haven't yet be friends.. so believe me Baby Ava its going to be the most wonderful amazing angel of yours... DON'T GIVE UP ON HER DEAR... SHE WILL BE THE ONE WHO GOING TO SHOW YOU HOW AMAZING THIS LIFE WOULD BE...!!! HAVE FAITH IN HER PLEASE... hugs... Rachel....
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1877875 tn?1422446857
I want to say thank you to everyone who commented on this post. Im still not 100% sure of what is going on but I will definitely keep you all posted. I am feeling a little better today but Im still no where near where I should be. After balling my eyes out last night my baby girl kicked and it seemed like nothing else in that moment mattered. I love my baby Ava girl <3
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2024054 tn?1332471883
Calm me down u are loved and strong I'm sure u will make it through please message me
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2024054 tn?1332471883
I cried when I read this, just a week or so ago I was saying the same thing, believe me ur not alone .. 1 thing for sure ur baby girl needs you, and when you soon see her beautiful face and look into her eyes she will bring so much joy to you. Make out a plan for urself, write it out and start calling places that would help you like dhs/wic 411.. these girls here are amazing so if u ever need to talk message me.  Also get some counseling I hate it but it does feels good to get thing's off your chest.. take a walk, a walk always seems toncalm
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There are so many things and organizations that can help u take care of your baby..And even help u get out of your mom house so she can be born into a stable environment.I say look into all your options such as WIC,food stamps,section eight,a voucher for your baby to go to daycare,and many other helpful sources before u make a solid decision that u might regret in the long run.I think keeping your baby will put u at a very high point on your life u didn't even know u could reach and looking into her face will give u a reason to be the best u can be.Good luck:)
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please call a help line in your community.  There are great people who will help you with your physical and mental health and financial as well.  Just think hard before you do anything that you can't take back...that is never the answer.  Things have a way of working themselves out and you'll never know if you don't live through them.  Do what's right for you and get help...please.
good luck..will check up on you :)
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I think for yourself keeping your baby girl is the best for you. I understand that you don't want her raised in a world of fighting but maybe things will change once she's here. I think if you give her up it'll cause you to become more sad and actually be the worse thing for u. Follow ur heart. I believe ur the best thing for ur daughter. You'll be a great mommy. The choice is urs though.. a rough one too. You seem like u have mad love for her though.. if I were you, i would keep her. :) good luck.
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Distance yourself from anything that makes you feel miserable....when you have your lil girl you'll become the only one that she looks upto....and believe me, when you have her to think about and protect,,you'll become the strongest woman in the world....nothing will break you.
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