Is she? What is the chance of her being pregnant?

[jaxat2112]

My my girlfriend and I had protected sex with some foreplay before I put on a condom, but it was just kidding and so on. I'm guessing I had a little precum because it always happens in little amounts. But I never broke her hymen, and even came. I wore a condom and made sure it was on good. It was like a week or so before her planned period, I dont know if that has any effect. Anyways. She never got her period last week and we are kinda freaking the hell out. I didn't have any sperm in my urethra for the precum to pick up, and I pee'd multiple times that day during class. So whats the problem? She has been stressed out over ACT's and finals and worrying about this as well. She does track for an hour and a half after school everyday and swims competitively at night for about 2 and a half hours. I mean, it boggles my mind because I was careful, used a condom and didnt even ***. Also, when are the days that she is really easy to get pregnant? Thanks, a lot. I'm not ready for a kid, nor is she. We get good grades in school and are a great couple, this cant be ruined by a kid, not yet. Any links or anything would be good, i'm willing to read. Maybe we'll reconsider having sex. I definantly learned my F**king lesson, haha. Thanks guys!!! I'm so scared, I cant sleep or eat. I am so stressed out. We are great kids and a great couple. I just dont want to have a kid yet. Please help, I know this question may be asked a lot.

[jaxat2112]

She got it today, praise the Lord. THank you everyone for your help,

[Trice37]

I agree with proud_mommy87,  with your girlfriend being as active you described it could be the activity plus the stress of not knowing.  If she is not pregnant, let this be a great lesson to both of you, and please if you are going to do it, make sure you both are fully protected because having a child is a blessing but it is a lot of work!  It's more than a notion.  I think you both will be ok.  Also remember if she is (I don't think she is) pregnant, it is not the end of the world and there are lot's of options for you both.  Just don't panic and think this through.  Again, it is not the worst thing in the world so don't get over anxious about it.  Also, good for you and her that you both are good students and sounds like you both are very active.  So that is something to be proud of and keep striving for your goals!  Be safe and good luck!

[jaxat2112]

Thank you. We'll talk about whatever we plan to do. I cannot thank you enough, much thanks to you.

[proud_mommy87]

To ease your mind some, she sounds like a very athletic girl, which can delay your period. Stress will also delay a girls period. I wouldn't stress about it too much right now, but in about 2 weeks, ask her to take a pregnancy test just to be sure becauce there is always that chance that she could be pregnant. I would just keep focusing on school and not worry too much about it at the moment. If it scares you that much that she could be pregnant, imagine what it feels like to actually see that positive pregnancy test. If y'all are going to be sexually active, she definately needs to get on bith control because condoms alone are not efficient. They help, but are not as effective as birth control. I know first hand the difficulties that come with getting pregnant at an early age. I got pregnant with my daughter when I was 17. I had just started my senior year and had my daughter 3 weeks before graduation. I had to put my college plans on hold for a while so that I could learn to be a mom. It was the hardest lesson I have ever learned but the greatest thing that ever happened to me. Her dad and I are not married yet, but we have been together for 7 years and she is now almost 4 years old. If I could go back in time, I wouldn't change a single thing. Although it was hard, she was well worth it! We are now expecting our second baby in June.

[jaxat2112]

We agreed to stop until the time is right. I've been doing tons of research the past few days. This has definantly the most stressful time of my life. Thank you. Any information I can get is great.

[smjmekg]

To add on to what gillianl said...peeing does NOT prevent sperm from coming out, the "precum" aka pre ejaculate DOES contain sperm, they are not in your urethra for semen to pick up they are in your semen. You and your gf should educate yourselves on the reproductive system, before you decide to have sex, so you know what happens for sure.

[gillianl]

tell her to get on birth control is she does not want to get pregnant.  Condoms alone do not prevent the risk of a pregnancy as many women know.  I don't think she's pregnant if you say you never ejaculated and you used a condom i would tell her to wait and see if her period is just late or take a test to be on the safe side.  Otherwise i would wait and see if she misses her next period, stressing can also delay a woman's period she has to relax.  I hope you both get the results you both want, and i hope she does see about BC