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Is your mother in law going to be in the delivery room?

mines driving me nuts but she wants to be in there lol.. What about yours?
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If My Mother In Law Is Comfortable With Being In The Room With Me I Would Love That Because She Deserves A Right To Be There Just Like My Mom Does.. They're Both The Grandmothers So I'm Perfectly Fine With It
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14653670 tn?1436286843
it is your personal decision. Most hospitals only allow 3 people at a time, but depending on when you are in labor really depends on who you want in there period....I labored late into the evening and I was quite content with hardly anyone in there. If it is a LONG drawn out labor process then maybe let her be in there for a couple of hours...but if you have ANY issues, let your nurses know...people listen to nurses....so you have a code for the nurse..when your MIL is getting on your nerves, then the nurse kindly goes-alright, we are gonna give momma some rest time lets clear out the room. Problem solved.
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7157499 tn?1411821385
My boyfriends mom wasnt in there. Neither was my mom and they wont be for this one either.
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I actually offered for my mil to be in the room. I get along with her so well and I knew she would be ecstatic if I told her I wanted her there. And as soon as I told her she was just making sure I 100% wanted her to be and made sure I was comfortable with it. She even keeps saying that she promises to just stay off to the side and not all up In my junk which I really appreciate lol. It will be my husband, my mom and his mom in there with me. But honestly if you don't want her to be then don't feel bad about it. It doesn't make you a bad person you're the one pushing out a baby do whatever feels right to you :)
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My bf's mom and sister just assumed too, she said yes only us, baby dad and your mom. Umm who put her in charge to pick my people?? I love her but dont feel comfortable with her in there, I've known her 2 yrs and yet I've known my mom my whole life and debating on her even being in the room. I want my bf for sure and thats about it. Im hoping they'll only let me have two people so i can pick my bf and my mom without getting people mad at me.
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Nope . & if she would offer iwould say no too. Haha. 1st time around my husband was there. 2nd time , my husband & sister was there . Now im planning to b there myself & only welcome my sister if she wants if not im ok being alone. After all , nurses & the ob are there to help you. & idnt want my husband there cause w.this pregnancy all we do is argue & idnt want any stress while im in labor so , im pretty sure ill do just fine w.out him!!
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Nope! I do love her, and her and my sil wanted to be there but I told them absolutely not. Its a very special day for everyone, true, but its also extremely stressful and more important to you and hubby than anyone else. So its totally okay to say no, but I agree, be VERY clear on the no part if that's your decision. Honestly I was in so much pain and was getting so stressed out i was glad it was just me and hubby. He knew how to calm me down and keep me in check and had there been others in the room I would've stressed about them too and that's just too much to handle. Not to mention that the rooms can get crowded fast, when you're about to push I had two nurses in there, my hubby, and my doctor. And for a good bit after it was all 5 of us (6 including baby) in the room, running around doing different things, its a little much for someone who's just given birth and only wants to cuddle with baby lol
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My mil wants to b in the room but i am not letting her only my mum and my fiancee are gonna b in the room
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I didn't mind mine being in there she was helping me as she had done natural births with no pain meds herself. My mom and hubby were also there but both of them looked very scared and lost Lol. My mom had us all c-section so this was all new to her.
I also said that I just wanted my hubby in there because it was going to be weird for my mil to see me down there but honestly when your in birth you could care less who's watching your just focused on getting through the pain and pushing this baby out!
I had no idea all of them were going to be allowed to stay in there but they did & that's the only reason they got to see because If they would have asked who I wanted to stay with me i would have kicked my mom and my mil both out lol.  
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I love my MIL to death, but there is no possibility of me letting her in the delivery room. She will baby me and tell me everything is going to be alright. Pretty much love me to death :-D. Which is nice, don't get me wrong, but that's not what I'm going to need when in labor. I need focus and direction. I feel like I'm just gonna wanna punch her in the throat and tell her to get out. Love her though :-)
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12155605 tn?1437372946
Mine really wanted to be there for my first but couldn't cause of the hospital and I ended up having a c section so it was me and her son but she was in the waiting room I know she would want to be there for this one but imma need someone to watch my daughter so she can come after I wouldn't mind her in there although she is annoying she is very supportive and helped me get thru my contractions and was massaging my back and that felt so good lol
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Absolutely not , I don't allow her to be there just my husband . its a day you would never forget so make sure your comfortable plus all the other Ppl don't help at all , all they do is stand back & watch there's no sense
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Nope!  I'm a ftm.  My mom and my fiance is the only people I want in the delivery room. Idk how I'd feel having my fiances mom seeing my woo-hoo.  After all my mom gave birth to me and wiped my butt so it's a little different lol!!
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Yeah mines wants to, so im letting her lol.
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Whatever you choose to do make sure your stern with your decision my mil was chilling with us while I was just in labor but when it came time to push I hunted for her to leave and let's just say she didn't catch on she saw the whole thing I didn't care at the time but now I'm kind of pissed that wasn't what I planned
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Heck no, I love her but no. She automatically assumed she was going to be in there but I told her no! She said to me in a stern way, " yes I am." I told her, "it's not up to you its up to me, how would you like it if I saw your lady bits up in the air?" Let's just say she got the picture. It will on be my SO and mom.
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She was with my second but won't be with this one!
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My last pregnancy my MNL && SNL was in the room as well as my mom fiance nd grandma this time I just want my fiancé in there
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7414320 tn?1391692496
Lol my mother in law use to get on my nerves with my first could even stand looking at her but I know she wanted to be in the delivery room so I let her just because she the grandma I guess but it's totally up to u if u feel comfortable with it I'll be letting her also with this pregnancy
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