Mental health, drugs now pregnant!! And He wants an abortion :'(

[Daisyxmay]

Im 22 I found out 3days ago im roughly 5 weeks. Im on a forum of antiphsycotics and 120 of duloxtine a day which I havnt been on for a week or two now. My once loving boyfriend is set on me havng an abortion sayin the baba will have complications I have been on drugs for the last 4/5 years however havnt touched any for a week n wldnt dare now im pregnant. But im worried cld I have caused serious damage the last 4weeks? Or cld my meds?? As long as the babas healthy im keepin it! Iv got an amazing family n friends. The bboyfriends gone on non stop about money n I av to get rid of it or hel try n take it off me because of my 'health' (good luck to him my dad wld kill him :) no getting one over on my fam!) he tells me he cld cheat on me hes not the greatest fp... iv told him weather he stays with me or not I dnt need his money and I certainly dnt need his crap! But I cnt help feelin lonley :( I NEVER wanted to b a single mam acrapin the barrel :'( iv been nothing but beside myself the last three days with his hurtfull unsupportive wayss and even disgust myself by lookin into arbortion FOR HIM n I cldnt do it :'( but im in such a mess mentally im scared I cnt do this. with out his support. Any mamas out there mental health or not copin on there own? Its so daunting im scared :( x

[baby2014]

You have your family. They will give you more support than this jerk. I mean that he is being a straight up jerk and he sounds like he just wants to control you. This is your body your baby and If is going to abandon you and say things like that then I honestly believe he never loved you. A real man wouldn't say things like that. And my brothers girlfriend is a great mom even though she has some mental health issues. I also want you to keep this in mind that baby will give you all the love you will ever need. I mean that I never in my life knew the meaning of true love until I had my little boy. I've never wanted to be such a good person until he arrived. Children change your lives but they are such a gift blessing and miracle that you can't live with out them. A child is wonderful and I would go to the ends of the earth to protect my child. And my husband knows that If he leaves he will not take my child with him. He knows that I will raise and support our child and that I don't need him. But he loves us both that he would never do that. Show him that you are strong. You don't need that kind of guy in your life. You need a man that will be there for you and your child no matter what.

[NicoleW09]

Unless your meds have been known to cause severe birth defects, I think you should be fine. Like the accutane acne medicine, you have to sign papers stating you won't get pregnant while using and it clearly states in the packaging not to take it if there's a chance of pregnancy. Some antidepressants, etc can cause birth defects if taken throughout your pregnancy, but some are safe to use. Your best bet would be to pose this question with your ob. They would have a better grasp of what, if any, birth defects to be looking for.

[baby2014]

The first 8 weeks the baby isn't connected to your blood supply until it starts growing the placenta. Don't worry and ask your boyfriend to research about early embryo growth and the fetal pole.

Don't abort your baby. Tell him no matter what it is still a human and that you love your baby. Ask him how he would feel If he had something happen in his life that made him challenged would he want to be put to death.

I would also suggest him watch a video called the silent scream. I've seen it and it is heartbreaking. Also tell you would rather speak with your obgyn first and see a doctors opinion.

Don't worry quite yet. You could also tell him all creatures have different features.

Lastly my brothers girlfriend was on the same thing and stopped taking it the moment she found out she's pregnant. She talked to the doctor and they reassured her and her son is now a happy healthy 14 months old little boy

I say congratulations and wait to see what a professional has to say first.

[rebecca_sasser]

Girl u do not need him in the end u will have a beautiful baby and a great family to help u......i dont think any of the stuff you were doing will hurt the baby just do as u are doing now and stay away from it.....start ur prenatal vitamin it makes a world of difference......u dont need that man ib ur life if all je wants u to do is get rid of what u two created good luck to you and please keep me updated.....