Mom n law ?!

[boricua4u]

My mother in law seems to think that she will have my little one EVERY WEEKEND! I just feel like that is a little too much. Am I wrong about this? I mean, I want him to be with her a lot, but every weekend just sounds like she would be taking care of him and not me. I work and go to school, so that time alone makes me feel like he won't be with me enough. Not having him on the weekends just is not happening.. I don't want to cause conflict, and the way she is I know if I say something there will be a problem. I feel like its my husbands place to tell her WE are not comfortable with the fact that he would he gone EVERY weekend.. Any opinions on this?

[Lesley27]

My daughter has only once went to my moms for a night and it was cause i was working at a all night provincial fundraiser and i was working the night for it... and she has never been anywhere else overnight... my MIL babysits here at my house most of the time and its at her inconvienance casue we are on a farm... and if im in town for something i need her to babysit for she may go to her house but for the most part she is here... i dont feel comfortable with her staying overnight and i dont want her to...and my daughter is gonna be 2 in a couple months...

[DNP47]

I have a mother in law like that, and she would say similar things when I was pregnant with my first. 7 years later, she has watched them MAYBE 10-12 times in their lives, and for an hour or two at most.

There is no way anyone besides me is going to have my baby every weekend, thats absurd.

Maybe she isnt being totally serious? I cant fathom that she would actually think this.

[boricua4u]

Yea.. and I am not comfortable with that at all.. its not sitting right with me at all and I told my husband and he was sayin he doesn't see that happening.. but he's not really replying too much when I say that sounds like a bit much. I guess we will cross that bridge when we get the b/c I'm only 25 weeks, but I'm really having a hard time not thinking about it

[mandy_28]

Ummm I wouldn't be ok with that.....she thinks that the baby will be over with her for the weekend meaning you would drop him off and pick him up on that Sunday??

[Msme3]

You have every right to feel like that! Especially with a new born. Who cares how she feels! Worry about your own feelings cus she obviously doesn't care about yours as a new mom! Tell her or have your husband tell her she's welcome to watch the baby when he is a little older when u feel comfortable being away from him and let's start with a date night every once in a while (once a month?) then see where it goes! But every weekend seems like way to much! N your right with work and school ur time is limited enough but coming from a stay at home mom there's no way I'd even let my kids go every other weekend no matter how much of a break a need! The only time away I've spent from my kids was when I was in labor with my second  daughter and the me t time will be when I go into labor with this one

[mrssandefur]

I agree it would be your husband place. Does she work? If not maybe suggest that a couple of days through the week she keep him while you're working or at school then instead of her having him when you'd be able to she'd have him when you would be busy anyway AND free childcare.

[mrssandefur]

I agree it would be your husband place. Does she work? If not maybe suggest that a couple of days through the week she keep him while you're working or at school then instead of her having him when you'd be able to she'd have him when you would be busy anyway AND free childcare.