ughh :(

[nichole75315]

16w4d... Fourth child. In the custody battle of my life for my youngest two. Currently going through an investigation with social services. My kids dad has never been consistent. I'm scared. I cannot help it... Ever. I'm scared the stress is going to take me over! Anyone else been through this???

[Toriiee]

im sorry to hear this...
but honestly my opinion i wouldnt let my kid go with the dad if thats happening...
i no i would want my childs father in their life but with this goin on at the moment i wouldnt want my child with him...

[nichole75315]

I'm still hiding my pregnancy so I feel you. It tests you beyond what you can imagine. But as mommies we have to stand up.

[nichole75315]

My daughter is 2 nearly 3 12-9-09. They did say the arm was accidental. See, he called cos and blamed me. He was watching my daughter because I was taken to the ER and on stroke watch. When I picked her up from him around 1am he mentioned her arm so I took her into the ER. They call it nurse maids elbow but he claims it was me. He's been convicted of domestic battery, and the harassment doesn't stop. I have enough supporting me but its nerve wrecking. They haven't said anyone will talk to my kids.... I wish they would. It's very sickening. I'm just doing my best to remain focused.

[lisas9]

Im seeing a family law solicitor next week. My ex was violent and gave me bruises and broken bones, is a compulsive liar and really irresponsible when he has the kids. His anger has flared up again ever since he found out that I was with someone else and expecting. I kept the relationship hidden from him. I just can't cope with it anymore so I've been advised to get a restraining order on him and go to court about the kids. Im not looking forward to it and know it's going to get nasty!

[KTowne]

My son had 9 broken bones by the age of 2 months, and we were being investigated as well, it ended up being dropped when a specialist spoke up for us saying that he thought for sure my son had temporary brittle bone disease, I can understand where you're coming from COMPLETELY when you say you think the system is failing your children. I've read online especially in young children, it's so easy to dislocate a child's arm, they can do it themselves (not on purpose, of course) How old is your daughter? I got so lucky to get a caseworker that helped me out so much, I just cooperated 100% from the beginning, was as helpful and nice as I could be to them, and they really tried to help me out, too. There are court appointed counselors that can talk with children if you choose to, and you can be present while they talk to your child, and they just ask them questions about life with mom and dad. My sister did this during her custody battle, and the counselor got to speak on the behalf of the children in court.

[nichole75315]

Thankfully no. My ex cheated on me with six girls. I didn't leave him until his newest fling called my son a retard. Moved on. Months later my daughter's arm was dislocated while he had her so I told him to take me to court. I have faith eventually someone will look at the facts. School, daycare, doctor. He's never taken part. This sat as I was dropping my youngest two off my son started crying as usual. Dad let him come home but kept my daughter. Ive managed to prove he's a complete liar and they still question me. I just hate knowing they will even waste time on something so obvious. I spend more time doubting myself then anything. It's so sad. The social worker thinks my son believes if he goes to dads that I won't love him anymore. But he tells me things like... That's not home. They don't love me like they love my sister. Etc. It just kills me. I honestly feel like the system is failing my children.

[KTowne]

Are you pregnant by the guy that you're fighting the custody battle with? I would go to your family and friends for lots of support right now. My husband and I went through a CPS investigation with my son, for something that wasn't our fault, and it was the longest, hardest time of my life, and my son is what got me through it. Don't let your kids see you upset, but get some strength from them, they really help. Maybe consider seeing a counselor to talk about it? I hope everything works out for you hun!!