OT; rant cause i need it!!!!

[shadowserpent]

Sorry to post this but i really have no one else to talk to and im so fed up!
Ive had to hold back my feelings and pregnancy hormones for this whole pregnancy and i think i may explode soon, and thats not good becausde the person i want to explode about is my boyfriends mother!
shes just so incredibly rude, stupid, uncqaring and mean it drives me nuts!
I took her in and i didnt have to at all, and all she ever does is ***** and complain, and act like its the worse place on earth, walk all over me, say i cant share her food but she eats mine, uses me like a damn taxi service, and now soemohow even though my kitties are outside all the time and her dog barely leaves the damn house( he even pooos and pees in her room!) she managed to bring home fleas!
my cats are spotless not a flea to be found, but this women says she just couldnt tell her dog not to go in the bushes(hes on a leash btw) cause hed be sad?
now i have to bug bomb while im 7 months pregnant and that cant be healthy!
add onto that the glares, rude words, and the way shes oh so freaggin nice when my boyfriends around and evil when he leaves the room......
and on top of this all she snaps at my kid.
and i cant do a darn thing because she supposedly has brain damage..... which tests cant prove, and her doctors ALL tell her to see a shrink.
shes on a waiting list for assisted living right now but it could be months more, and also because she lives with me...... i have to share a room with my 5 year old son and soon. a newborn too?
cause she cant share a room with my kid because he makes her head hurt?
im losing it here!
ROAR!

[heatherlynn22]

i'd keep a voice recorder or video cam on you at all times when you're around her after a week or even a few days sit down with your bf and let him listen/watch how she is and tell him to get his *** in gear and do something about the way she's treating you in YOUR home. that's absolutely ridiculous that this woman can't act her age and just be appreciative for your kindness. your pregnant and don't need the headache and stress of a nasty, bitter old mil.

or give her the evil pregnant glare. whenever i'm mad at someone i do the evil pregnant glare and that seems to quiet them down real quick. lol

[JoyRenee]

I'd tell her to either get rid of her dog or find someplace else to stay. I know you said she could stay but you need to protect your home (not necessarily your physical home---but just home... oh, you know what I mean!).

[luv2bmommy]

arent mother in laws lovely? lol im sorry you are going through this, tell her shes just going to have to suck it up, whatever it is that shes got against you. that you will not let her ruin even a minute of your day no matter how hard her miserable butt tries to. and as for her snapping at your kid? ooooh no! Kids are kids, and if he makes her head hurt so bad well then hey Im sure she knows where the door is. but let her know she will NOT talk to your child that way and that if she treats you that way that you will start treating her the same. hope it gets better. but it might do you some good to freak out on her just once, might be what she needs!

[shadowserpent]

oh and im a nice person and when she started freaking out one day about not being able to find a place to live, i told her i wouldnt let her be homeless and she can stay untill her spot open up on assisted living......so i sort of screwed myself i guess because i cant just be like get out!@
yes shes on disability and makes ALOT, yet is always complaing about being poor..... im also on disabilty but i make 700 a motnh compared to her 1,400 and im helping take care of my BF because hes in the middle of getting disability, and she also helps pay for him but i also have a 5 year old son whos dad doesnt help at all....
my BF is a wonderful guy, he just has social phobias like me, and it makes him really upset because he cant get a job(but neither can i so i understand) and because they keep screwing him around on his disability hearing.
but im so unhappy and the tension in the air is palpable.

[shadowserpent]

i dont know how to broach the subject with him, without making myself out to be against his mom.
this is the very best relationship i have ever had, and we havent even been together a year, i got pregnant by accident because the doctorsd all failed to tell me that birth control pills and prozac dont mix.
also i have aggoraphobia and panic attacks, but had it mostly under control when we met and got together, but now that im pregnant they took me off my meds and hes seeing me at my very worst, and its gotten so bad i cant be alone at all, and hes forced to be with me all the time!
or one of my friends has to, and i know hes frustrated, hes gained alot of weight because he doesnt taek walks because i cant be alone, am high risk and taking it easy, and i know hes unhappy bit trying to do right by me.
i feel like if i tell him everything about his mom it will send him over the top and he will leave me, and i do love him. i do not know if he loves me though, i know he likes me and loves me slightly but i dont know if his feeling are as strong as mine, and im really scared.
he has talked to his mom a few times he caught her being mean, or unfair, but it doesnt do a bit of good, she doesnt listen at all.
i know once she moves things will be so much less stressful so im trying my hardest to hang on untill then, but its something new everyday.
and i dont want to lose him.

[martikadragoon]

OMG kick her the h*ll out of your home! Sweetangel is right about him having a serious talk w/his mother, but I feel she may deny it.

You and BF need to talk and NOW.... Tell her to use her money from the state (I assume she gets disability of some sort?) and get a freakin hotel room!

UGH Ppl like that drive me CRAZY. I'd never let someone even an elder come into my home and treat me that way, they'd be out on they're *ss before the door completely closed from them walking in!

Sorry for the stupid BF's mom.

[sweetangel7]

Your boyfriend should have a serious talk with his mother, and since her behavior is so poor, he needs to clarify that she is a guest in YOUR home and needs to act accordingly if she wants to continue to be a guest.  Your bf should understand that his number one priority right now has to be you and the unborn baby...if your bf's mother is acting evil, that is not good for you or baby...and brain damaged people don't act evil they are cognitively and sometimes mentally/emotionally impaired.  It sounds like a bs excuse for her to be a b*tch!  Good luck!