i'm so sorry to hear this, i'll keep your family in my thoughts and prayers...
if u need anything i'm here to talk ash.
Oh my goodness! That is the saddest thing I have heard in long time. I can't even imagine how and what she's feeling. Her and her family are in our prayers.
That makes me cry hearing this. I cannot imagine. And I mean that I cannot imagine......I am so very very sorry. Please tell her we are all praying for her. May God give her comfort in her time of need........I wish I had words, but I just don't........
I'm so sorry! She and her family are definitely in my prayers! Personally, since I've had 2 losses, but nothing like this where I actually delivered to term...there are no words that can help right now. Just be there for her...through her ups and downs!
I am crying for you, for her, for the baby---- I AM SO SO SO sorry!
I am so sorry for your whole family. I can't imagine how hard this must be on all of you. You will all be in my prayers.
Bless your hearts! I am tearing up right now, I will pray for your family!
I'm sorry I don't have advice, but my heart goes out to you and your family! Please let her know that we are all praying for her and she will be in our hearts!!
My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Oh my! This is an absolute nightmare! There aren't words or anything to say how horrific this is and I will ask God for the right words so that I can pray for everyone involved!
Thank you ladies! We just got back from the funeral home, to plan out the funeral. And I was trying my hardest to keep it together for her in there, and I couldn't. She is way way way to upset to make a decision and her mom and Grandma are trying their hardest to get the best of everything.
She told me to take all of the diapers she had, and clothes and I feel so bad. I know she doesn't want to see the stuff, but I would rather her take all the clothes and stuff back to get money for her! Should I just hold onto the stuff for her?
Oh my goodness! I'm so sorry!! She is in my prayers right now!! I will continue to pray for her as she goes through this tough time!!
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this extremely difficult time. I'll ask God to give you the courage and strength to get through it.
Take is from her and hold onto it, maybe later on she will want some of it back to remember her precious baby. What a tragedy. I honesty could not imagine losing a baby. I just read about a old friend of mine who I havent spoken to in a long time had a baby girl and she died in her sleep right next to her mommy at only 7 weeks. Things like this make me sooooooooooo sad to hear about. My heart aches for her.
As mother who held my son in my arms while he took his last breath, there is nothing you can say to her. Even when people try to comfort you it feels as though they are mocking you, but you know in your heart they are not. The best thing for you to do is give her space if she needs space or be there every moment she wants you too. Some days I just pushed people away and other days I needed everyone around me. I suggest that she find a support group, I attend a group for parents who lost infants and this has been my life saver. She will find comfort in her Baby Angel. Her little girl will never leaver her side. Baby Angel Cooper makes sure of this and so will her sweet one!!!!
One more thing, do not tell her that God only gives you what you can handle. This is a severe slap in the face. I would lay low with the religious talk, believe me it hurts more than it helps.
I am here if you need to talk or if you need any advice. Just as you though I am still lost for words, there is nothing that can bring her comfort expect for time. Please let her know that there is no time limit on grief.
Awwww Im so sorry to hear that. There really isnt any advise I can think of other than be there for her and let her know all the support she has.
I am glad you saw this thread. I was hoping you would......I also hope Asking4aMiracle sees it also.
My heart is with you all........
Thank you! I actually heard her cousin tell her that god only will give her what she could handle, and I wanted to smack her cousin in the face for that! I will let her know about a support group though, that is a wonderful idea!
I will hold on to all the clothes and stuff for her, and wait for her to ask for them back! The last thing I would want to do is dress my baby in something that was hers, and have her cry because of it!!! =)
The sad part is, we have to wait up to three months to find out why she passed
Do not give her stuff away. Just simply pack it up and one day when she has another beautiful little girl give it back to her. Believe me she would be honored to dress her daughter in the clothes of a Baby Angel.
If you have not already just pack everything away, anything you might find her house. Bottles, toys, etc and just hold onto to it. My sister did this and packed everything in Cooper's room, that way when he becomes a big Angel Brother we can use it in is honor. They way I know she would too.
She is not going to ask for help. The last thing she will want it is to impose. Just be there for. Help with grocery shopping, making dinner and even planning the arrangements. Her life is going to be very hard for a very long time. She does not need to be worried by petty decisions.
I suggest that you and your family read books on grief that way you know how to talk to her. The smallest most innocent thing can hurt like a dagger in your heart.
I would be more than happy to give you my email address if you feel like you or your sister in law might ever want to talk. I will send you a pm if you want. I do not want you to feel like I am trying to control this situation, but this is still a fresh wound for me and I know what she can and cannot handle from personal experience. A good support system will make you or break you. And you are already of to a great start. You might not get any credit immediately, but me believe you are not going unnoticed.
omg i do not know what to say..i am complelty speechless....i am soo sorry you and you family are going through this...i am espically sorry for your sil! MY prayers are with everyone...i am soooooooo soooo sorry!! I wake up afraid everyday that something like that will happen and i cant imagine how i would get through it...i have no words for you to say...just be there for her..but again dont forget to take care oof yourself anf that little one you have inside you hun!! My heart goes out to everyone!! Again so sorry!
Its taking every part of me to stop myself from crying. Please give my condolences to your SIL, Im so very sorry & you are all in my deepest thoughts & prayers.
Slept tight Sophia Joleen xXx
Thats so sad. It always makes me tear up when I hear about a baby, parent, or family member who's had this happen to them.
I am so very sorry that your sil and your family has to go through such a terrible tragedy. I will be praying for all of you.
What an awful awful nightmare. I am so sorry that she (and your family) has to endure this. :( I have been wondering how you have been, too. I hadn't seen many recent posts from you.