my vent ;/

[ashleyarenas]

Well my husband is a drinker! He proceeded in getting dressed nice to go with his friends and I said why can't I go with you, we never go anywhere together and he tells me you have too many kids. I have two daughters that aren't his but they both call him daddy. He's never said anything like this to me before :( and I said the girls aren't yours. He says I didn't make them with you like wtf and then he says maybe the one in your belly is no mine neither. And I just broke down like why would you even say that. He says that he is going to pay for a DNA test and he doesn't love me and wants a divorce. All because I asked to go with him this is how he acts. Now I'm alone laying in bed I'm so lost and I've done cried till I can cry no more.

[Sasakah]

Im gonna tell you this...GET OUTTA THERE ASAP! Him telling you that was just a manipulation to change the subject and turn the situatiin around on you and to make you feel guilty because somehow he already feels this way himself and if he cann make you feel bad about something then it will help him feel better or at least justify what he's done (behind your back) and/or is about to do later...done played this game so many times with my ex that at the end i would actually pray he would just go out somewhere instead of be in the same room with him...he was a tri-sexual from michoacan, mexico...(and i said "tri-sexual" because He would oftern get caught "tri-ing" (trying) just about anything...e.g...drug addict bag ******, prostitutes, neighborhood sluts, his other drunk male friends, mules livestock (SERIOUSLY, NOT KIDDING)

[specialmom]

I think this is solid advice. I'm really sorry you went through this yourself.  How are things now?  Did you break free from this pattern?  

[ciera1350]

I'm not sure how to find fake ones. I'm not sure how it works where you're at but here we have to pay for them at the courthouse.

[ashleyarenas]

I want to some how print off blank but fake divorce papers and stick them in his face and say you want a divorce there ya go and just see what he does.  He's Hispanic so I don't think he'll know the difference between real or fake papers.

[ashleyarenas]

**I can't sleep alone. Maybe here shortly ill dose off.

[ashleyarenas]

Awww :( ciera that made me tear up! I think I'm going to leave for a few days and just think about alot of things. Hopefully he sees what he has before it's 2 late. We been together going on 4 years now. I'll always do what's best for my girls:/ thanks ladies. I ep sleep alone

[reddmama]

Kick* in the butt

[ciera1350]

Wow I'm sorry but things like that are just unacceptable to say. I believe if you marry or even plan on being with someone for a while, if the other person has kids from someone else then they are now yours as well whether the other real parent is in the life or not. So first of all he should of known that by marrying you those little girls became his too, not just yours. Second of all, if he wants to deny the baby then girl that is his loss. I know how bad it hurts my sons dad got another girl pregnant at the same time as me and left me for her we had been together 4 years. I was devastated. But I focused on being happy for my son, and knowing I was gonna be an awesome mother without him and didn't need that kind of crap in my life. You don't need to deal with that either. Apparently he's more worried about going out with friends than taking his family out for a good time. It does hurt at first I'm not gonna tell you it doesn't, but with time you'll be stronger for it, and you'll find somebody who will love you AND your kids and give you guys what you deserve as a family. I'm sorry you have to go through this and I'm here if you need to talk. Keep your head up, you've done nothing wrong. :)

[reddmama]

Sorry girl that guys sounds like he needs a good lick in the butt! I hope everything goes well!  God knows the trials we face! I am praying everythingworks out for you! Good luck on your baby!