Preterm labor @22 weeks and loss of fetus..Why??

[Shannybaby78]

On June 11th my son was born at 22 weeks.  All scans at 20 week U/S were fine.  Then I developed hydronephrosis of my right kidney and was in horrible pain.  Ended up in the hospital for two days on fluids for dehydration.  Not even a week later I started bleeding and rushed to the hospital  where I was already 8cm dilated.  No one can explain why I would have preterm labor.  The dr said it had nothing to do with the hydronephrosis.  The only thing the hydronephrosis did was prevent me from feeling the labor pains because I was in horrible pain already.  We are still awaiting autopsy and genetic testing results from our son.  Is there anyone out there who lost their baby after the first trimester?  Also, has anyone else ever had hydronephrosis during pregnancy?

[PENNY1705]

IM SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS:(

[tarrah87]

i am so sorry for your loss i know exactly how you feel. you are in my prayers. this is going to be a rough and hard time for you and the father of your baby. i lost twins at 21 wks it was the most devistating thing that has ever happened to me in my life. my entire pregnancy was fine until my 20 wks scan they found out they had twin to twin transfusion but we couldn't get the treatment needed for it bc i also had an incompatent cervix and went into early labor b4 we could do the treatment. good luck to you and if you ever need someone to talk to you can msg me ne time. and as someone else told you above i would recommend a cerclage for future pregnancies bc you never know it could happen again. i had a cerclage during this pregnancy and had a beautiful baby girl. but you will never forget your little one that you loss. it's hard to go through something like this but good luck to you.

[nickieb85]

I hope you can get back to it asap!

[Shannybaby78]

Thank you to everyone for your kind words and prayers!  They have mentioned an incompetent cervix but we have to wait for test results that were done on the baby before determining.  Preliminary blood work done on me makes the Dr think something was wrong with the baby.  I had the hydronephrosis and became very swollen all of the sudden.  I had a TON of amniotic fluid for only being 22 weeks.  It was all very sudden and crazy and frankly traumatizing!    We named our son Theodor Albert after his great grandfathers who are in Heaven with him now!  

Thank you to everyone again, for your support it means a lot!

[Lance06]

I wanted to send my prayers to you and your family and tell you how sorry i am! There are some women on here who have been through this, one that I know of is Asking4AMiralce...her name is Amberlee and she went through this last year.

[justice6920]

I too have never been in your situation but just wanted to tell you how sorry I am for your loss..... You and your family will be in my prayers!

[Michele, Katy, TX]

I also have never been in your situation but wanted to tell you how truly sorry I am.....I wish I had words but I don't.  I am just so sorry and will be praying for you and your family.

I know that for future pregnancies, they can put what is called a cerclage (sp??) in your cervix.  It's basically a stitch to keep this from happening again, assuming the problem was an incompetent cervix.  And it has to be done in early pregnancy because once your cervix has started dialating, there is nothing they can do to stop it from what I understand.

Please take care and know that we are all thinking about you.....

[Linzola1]

I personally have never been in your situation, but I want you to know I am thinking and praying for you and your family. God Bless

[martikadragoon]

I'm very sorry for your loss. Do they suspect IC (Incompetent Cervix)???

my mother lost my little sister at 20 weeks pregnant and they never were able to tell her why.

I haven't experienced this myself, but one think I think I would say is let yourself grieve and mourn. Give yourself a little time before trying again. Some parents try right away as a way to "replace" the child they lost. my mom did with my younger brother and sometimes wishes she would've waited a little while longer. (she got pregnant 6 weeks later) I am very, VERY sorry for your loss, and with any future pregnancies make sure they keep an eye on your cervix.

[amandacole]

First let me say I am so very sorry for your loss and  I know personally that NOTHING and NO words are comforting to you right now. About five years ago I too went into labor at 26wks. I went to the restroom and there was alittle pink when I wiped so I tried to get ahold of the doctor. However it was the weekend so I just went to the ER. By the time I got there and got undressed for them to check me. (I will never forget hearing these words) You are fully dilated and I can see her head. From that point on it was complete confusion. I was rushed to labor and delivery. They did all they could to stop it but it was just to late. I was rushed to the OR for an emergency C section. By rushed I mean they were running down the hall pushing my bed and I was signing papers on the way. My little baby girl was born alive but her lungs were not developed. She only lived for 10 hrs and 21 mins. Because it was a live birth I had to have a funeral for her.  It changed my life in so many ways. And it took a VERY long time before I was able to make peace with it. I truely understand what you are feeling right now. Allow yourself time to grieve. You will be in my thoughs and prayers. I hope you too will someday find peace with this. Big hugs!!!!!