depressed

[Cassie19957]

I feel so alone in all of this. I'm 31 weeks and the only support I have is from my family. My babys dad and I still date but he isn't involved at all. He hasn't gone to any appointments at all. And now the only chance he has to see the baby before it's born he says it's a waste of money, his family says the sam, even though I'm the one paying for it. I'm so sick of doing this alone. I've told him over and over to be more involved but he hasn't.  We don't even have names picked out bc he never suggests or wants to talk about it. I'm the one that told his parents. I sent all my ultrasounds there for them to see.i even messaged his mother and asked who would like to watch the ultrasound.  But if they and lol think it's a waste of money then I honestly don't think they should have the privilege of seeing him/her. I feel like if im doing and going to everything alone, then it's just as well for me to be alone. I even told him of he doesn't go to this ultrasound then we're over. Not to mention he hasn't picked up 1 thing for the baby. I dont know what to do anymore. Most of the time I just sit and cry thinking I've let my baby down :'(. Any advice?

[Cassie19957]

Thanks everyone. I'm trying to stay positive but it's not easy. I've been dealing with him like this since 5 weeks. And my family only found out t 22 weeks. And his at 26 weeks.and we're always fighting which doesn't help at all. He tells me I'm pushing away bc im always complaining.but he's been pushing me away since we found out and I wouldn't be complaining if he were actually involved and there for me

[Lexinew10]

Im going through something similar to your situation. & in the beginning I use to let him not being involved & just being rude get to me but then I realized when he is ready he will want to be involved you wont have to force him & I dont need him. So now idc anymore I have to worry about me &  the well being of my child. Try not to let him & his family stress you out.  Stay strong & be the best you can for your blessing!

[mommy2aprincess14]

You just have to think about the baby right now and once he/she gets here you won't have time to worry about him or his family because what they have to say doesn't matter, just keep your head up your almost there I know it's hard now but your doing everything you can for your baby. In the end the baby is all that matters. Goodluck to you and your family it's going to be his lost no one else's

[Cassie19957]

And according to him I don't want his family involved...I've been trying to get them involved tho. And he says he is but idk everything else seems more important. Just makes me sad thinking he/she won't have its father

[melcarin]

Forget him. Get child support from his sorry ***!  If he doesn't want to be involved then that's his loss. If you're already doing it alone then do it alone. You don't need him around. Just know there are men out there that would love to have a child even if it isn't theirs. You don't need a jerk like him

[Rye2]

Thats so rude....im so sorry you have to deal with people like that. Dont think your letting your baby down all that matters is If your doing whats best for you and your baby..if he doesnt want to be involved right now do you think hell be involved when the baby comes? Probably not..so do what will make you happier! Good luck with everything girl