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So my bf has been clean since we found out about our baby 9months n today he slipped I was upset but I know its hard for him n I know he regeted it because he started crying n wanted to be alone but we talked n I was more upset about the fact that he wasn't thinking he didn't think of the kids n just used idk I'm sad upset n confused n don't trust him idk its all just a lot for one day anyone else bf like this or anyone going through this?
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8401343 tn?1411882745
My fiance was addicted to drinking and drugs, last time he used he almost killed me. That was Nov 2013. I put his *** in jail, there's a restraining order against him and he's on probation.I'm now 25 weeks pregnant, he can have a few drinks here and there but the first time there is any idea that drugs are in use he gets **** tested by me and by his po or aoda consoler. If he fails, one he breaks probation, two I will report a break in the restraining order, and three he looses me and his daughter. He would face 15+ years in prison for both charges, therefore loosing his job on top of everything else. He has to weigh his options. His freedom and family or drugs and jail. Hes been clean since Dec 2013 and it was a cold turkey quit. He had used method, heroin, coke/crack, pot and pills.
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8924846 tn?1410572901
Personally if he doesn't stop I'm leaving him
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8924846 tn?1410572901
Sorry addiction to drugs and alcohol
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8924846 tn?1410572901
My bf went through a really bad addiction to drugs (mainly pills), and I left him because of it. I helped him through his recovery and we didn't get back together til he was 100% sober and not dependent on anything or anyone. I'm now 19w pregnant and found out he's been drinking more and more often and smoking weed. I told him I was OK with him having an occasional drink as long as he felt he could control it. He stopped drinking all together when I found out I was pregnant, he stopped mainly because I can't drink. But he's been going behind my back and doing it on top of smoking weed again! I'm ok with weed but thats how it all started last time and he said he wouldn't. When I asked him about it he said he didn't think I'd care.....
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It blocked out the word s.u.c.k.s.
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Would you leave him alone with the baby? If the answer is no then I'd tell him that it's either his addiction or the baby...I'm sure once you actually meet your baby you'll have no problem putting your foot down on that issue...if you're already concerned then your heart is in the right place! And yeah it ***** because you might have to be hard on your bf but remember he is perfectly capable of taking care of himself, that baby is not and that might be a good point to bring up. I hope that helps!
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