abortion or not

[KamTownsend]

I'm slowly starting to just give up. I don't want to give up on my child. But its just so hard to deal with this alone. My boyfriend nd his family wants me to get an abortion. But my biggest fear is going through with the abortion, and then him leaving me in the end. I would be so hurt, everything that I ever love in my life gets taken from me. And my boyfriend is someone I love deeply I just don't want to have double the.pain if he was to leave me after the abortion. I'm afraid of what I might end up doing to my self. But then if I have the baby he says he will be there. But its not to much of him I'm worried about its his mom allowing him to her for me and my child. This is so much for me. If been looking for advice everywhere. I can't stop crying and honestly I just want to die and not deal with this. But I don't want that. Because I want to have my baby and love and care for it.

[crstl11]

Look at it like this he has 40 weeks til the baby is born so that gives him plenty of time to grow up. No need to make a fast desicion if u have the baby and feel like u van do it u van always adopt there OS no need to kill the baby cause I don't know what the future holds he may decide to come back if not it just shows u how much he really cared.(not much if he do.t come back huh)

[hansen20]

just remember if you do keep your baby, YOUR KIDS WILL ALWAYS BE THERE NO MATTER WHAT!!! BUT MEN THEY ARE IN AND OUT OF OUR LIFES ALL THE TIME. my mom told me this and boy is she right!! not only that i got pregnant a year ago and my ex tried telling me to get an abortion but i picked my child over him. i did miscarry though and thats just cuz the baby had really bad issues and i miscarried at 9w2d pregnant. but im pregnant now=) again with a different guy that i love so much and im 39w1d pregnant now. i was a single mom of 2 for 3 years both were under the age of 4 years old. you can do this if you put your mind to it hun=). it just sounds like he dont want to take responsibility of his actions!

[mushie156]

I was in the same situation I'm now 39+1 my bf gave me the option either him or my child... I chose my baby.... I had two abortions in the past one almost seven years ago... Never got over it.... My bf hasn't ben there since I'm keeping my baby girl... God wouldn't give me a blessing if i couldn't handle it... I'm doing it alone my fam and aren't close... At the end of the day its your baby.... And if you have to chose between your bf and a child that growing in you I say **** the bf I feel no man would tell his woman to abort his seed.... Especially knowing the having unprotected sex can make a blessing....your not alone whether he leaves you or not.... You see a person true colors when reality hits.... Thats his lost not yours!!! Now my bf calling me wanting me back... I can't I realized I'm better off..... Please make the best decision for you not for others its.your body.... You have to live wit it not them.... Emotionally

[Aaron_N_SophiasMommy]

YOU need to do what YOU feel/think is the best choice for YOU! Honesty not to sound harsh or mean but even if he leaves you, you won't be the first or last woman to raise their child(ren) alone. If there's any doubt in your mind about abortion then my suggestion would be DON'T go thru w/ it.

[Shirano]

You can do it without your boyfriend. The way I see it is that if he wants to be apart of the babies life he will make it happen. If not you just depend on your support system..

[Ccarter313]

Boyfriends arn't always forever you child will always be there you will be able to watch them grow and learn and with a child comes unconditional love I had my first baby when I was 15 my boyfriend was in jail for a year and I did perfectly fine it has it's ups and downs but it's deffinitaly worth it but, it is your decision no one else's

[KamTownsend]

The big problem is His mom is sending him to Georgia with his father. So what do I do from there.

[crstl11]

Look u are young and u know what u want so just remember that boyfriends will come and go but that baby will always be there and will be yours u want that baby u said so so just have faith that the boyfriend will come around and go on with the pregnancy. Good luck to u. U seem to be bright and intelligent u will make the right decision I have faith in u.

[Shirano]

You have to do what is best for you and the baby. It sounds to me that you wouldn't be okay with yourself after an abortion and understandably so. They are hard and things can go wrong and you could get hurt. Your boyfriend said he would be there for you with the baby so I really don't think his momwill stand in the way. And honestly she will most likely come around because babies have a way of doing that to people. But either way you can have this baby and raise them on your own if it comes down to it. You will be a great mother because you already love your baby so much. Don't let others push you into a choice you don't want.

[fluffycho30]

"Because I want to have my baby and love and care for it. "
Kam,  read your statement over and over again! You said it all!  Firstly, you are a very blessed lady to be able to concieve, so you need to do whats best for you and your unborn child! No woman  wants to go through these things alone, but you are not the first and not the last. Maybe get some professional advice to help you deal with you and your baby. What matters is... you and your baby. It is a decision that you will regret for the rest of your life!
I wish you all the best.

[mommie_3]

Its obvious that u are very confused about your situation. Plz plz don't get an abortion unless u r absolutely sure its what u want. Abortion is very hard to deal with. Not just by urself but even with someone. Its def not easy. Having a baby is also hard but once u become a parent, u find a way to make it work. I was 15 with my first, 17 with my second and now im 21 with my third. Its been a long bumpy road. And nothing is easy. And I was def in ur situation but I did what I felt was best for me and mu child and I gave her life. My family and his family ended up loving her unconditionally. And he is no where around. I met a man when my daughter was 13 months old and have been with him since. We got married and now on our second child together and he claims her as his own. She knows who her biological father is becuz I told her the truth and don't want to lie to her. But my point in all this is do what u feel is right for u and ur child. The rest of ur life will fall into place. Don't let someone leaving or staying effect ur decision.

[Spiket77]

You are going to get a lot of posts that say you should keep the baby and that if you don't want it... then you should put it for adoption. That is all very noble but it is your right to choose.

I'm going to say...Please think about this without the loosing the boyfriend factor. I know that may be difficult but it is your decision and you need to base it on how you feel about being a Mother not about how you feel about the Dad. I hope that isn't too harsh.

It sounds like you are battling depression too. If you have access to counseling via school or your doctor...then look into it. If you don't, then call your local health department. They have programs to help you and give support through out your pregnancy.
Keep the baby if you want the baby and get assistance. The BF and his Mother don't seem like good support and I would steer clear of them if you decide to keep the baby. Unless of course...they come around and apologize.

[camerinj]

I think you know what you truly want ...you said you want to have and care for this child. An abortion is not something you can take back if you start to regret it. If your bf doesn't stay with you, there are still other resources to provide support. If he doesn't care about you and your baby enough to stay, you will find a real man who does, I promise. Don't get pushed by anyone into a decision that you ultimately take all the consequences of.

[ftmkelowna]

by the sounds of it, your gonna regret aborting baby more then anything.. you can do it weither your boyfriend is there or not.