Aa
Seriously people are crazy.
So the sperm donar to my baby has been posting stuff on FB. Yes it is to get an arise out of me but he seriously is delusional. A little background he is a pos alcoholic. Claims he hired a lawyer to take FULL custody from me then threaten to kidnap her from hospital. All the while he had someone slash my tires on my suv. Had his family threaten me at work. Nd thats not even the half of what he has put me thru nd i am already high risk nd been in preterm labor twice that they stopped. The only reason i am keeping him from her cause he is not fit to be a parent due to his problem with alcohol. He cant go a day without drinking nd has been arrested 4 times for dui nd has a court ordered interlock transmission in his car. He is a piece of work. Anyhow i drank one night nd ended up pregnant but he has fake drs notes saying he couldnt have kids. That ge was sterile. Well after the fact he bragged about them being fake cause he wanted a kid nd didnt care who he got pregnant. Nd once i found out i was preggers he automatically told everyone it was his. He doesn't know if I had been with anyone else but funny he assumes its his. Complicated situation so as you can imagine I've been pretty secretive about when she is due. Where she is born nd my dr. But somehow somebody keeps tellin him everything so ive shut everyone out. Not knowing who to trust. So I've picked out a name nd to be honest idc if he likes it or not. My body. My baby. My choice. N we were never together. Never will be. Ever. So where I live it's mothers choice nd nothin he can do about it. He claims he will be in room when she is born nd even invited his mom nd grandma to be in there. Lmao. Excuse me my own mother isn't going to be in room. This is MY VAGINA nd umm pretty sure I'm the only one who does have a say who sees me push a baby out of it. Anyways he posted on FB that he will not have his daughter named what I picked out nd he would make sure thru court her first middle nd last name would be changed to what he sees fit..... Hahahahahahahahahaha. I'm sorry but does anyone else find that comical. Cause I sure do. He 1 honestly thinks they will hand a newborn baby over to him 2 he's an alcoholic. 3 he honestly invited his family in the room when he doesn't know dr hospital or the fact he is safety list. He steps foot in hospital he will be escorted out. Plus in the state I live in he has NO RIGHTS WITHOUT DNA. So he is a nobody til he takes me to court. Nd 4 he honestly thinks he can take me to court to change her name cause he doesn't like it. He has even had stuff monogrammed for her with the name he chose. Which is stupid in his End cause pretty sure I am the one who fills birth certificate out. Lol but I'm almost tempted to come up with some ugly ugly name nd tell his little spy so he can worry even more about her name. Jus to be a brat. Sorry ladies I needed to vent. I jus can't believe some people are that crazy.
I will definitely look into that. Cause I know in my divorce they could use FB posts as evidence so I would say I can have his used against him.
Sorry you are going through this awful ordeal, check to see if your state has a harassment via electronic means law. I know here in Illinois they do and you can have FB and Phone messages printed or have the authorities do it. Maybe your state has one too.
He is an idiot. A complete nd total idiot. But I'm a very resourceful woman nd you don't mess with me when it comes to my kids. He even tried to pay my ex husband to give him info.
God that is crazy. He sounds like a complete idiot. He cant even take care of himself by sounds of it, how is he planning on looking after a newborn himself? And th fact ur at th end of ur pregnancy and uv had to deal to with that th whole time is amazing tht u havent had th baby already. I bet if u turned round and handed him ur baby he would sh*t himself lol. Uv defo done th right thing and moved away cos he sounds like he wouldnt give up. Good luck x
Idk he sent a so called friend of mine to my house this morning to see if I had baby yet. Lmao. So I told them a bunch of made up crap for them to go back nd give him false info. Nd that's what gets me is he cares so much about this baby that he wants to take her from me but yet he causes all this drama while i am pregnant with her. Unnecessary stress. But the funny thing is he wants her so bad he doesn't care what it does to me while I'm carrying her. Nd he even told someone he doesn't care what happens to me as long as he gets the baby. Nd I have documentation on the threats at my work. But he is somewhat smart he makes threats thru other people so he can't be held accountable. Like my tires beig slashed he bragged about havin someone do it for him. So basically he can do what he wants nd get away with it cause its not him directly doin it. But I've got a few surprises for him. Cause jus as he does I have people he thinks he can trust they are willing to testify against him nd all he keeps doing is giving them info for me to use against him in the end. He told my brother that he was coming to hospital regardless of what I said. This was yesterday. My brother told him that he showed up the hospital will have him arrested.. As far as I know he doesn't know what hospital nd considering I'm a private patient he can call every hospital he wants nd won't find me. I'm jus over the drama. I refuse for my baby's life to start out like this. Cause he's immature.
Is he trying to make you go into labor early? Christ.... Best of luck to you momma. And the threats weren't enough??! Or do the police want proof of them? I'd almost tell you to get a guard dog or two in case he shows up to your place somehow. This is crazy that isn't going away unless it ends badly...
Thank you so much for the advice nd input. He's a real piece of work. Nd I've got my list nd the hospital already has him on high alert for the safety of their patients. Nd his family would be dumb to show up. I appreciate you all. :)
I'm sooooooooooo glad I dont have this problem cuz I'd be in jail...seriously. I wish you the best for your baby and hope you have a smooth delivery:)
You stay strong girl! Don't let him ruin you and your baby's happiness! I hope he decides to man up or just plain leaves you to your life with your babies. I wish you the best honey ;(
If it was me I would make him hurt showing him he isn't getting to me and when I give birth I will give the hospital a set of names of who can be there or who can even know I'm there. He wouldn't even know when I have her... Good luck with that crazy man! Oh and telling them an ugly name to make him mad that would be funny n make him go crazy lol
I completely agree. Nd I've kept my distance nd bein the mature one about everything. I jus hate that he has turned a joyful time into hell for every one around me. He questions my friends stalks them asking them questions. Has his mom call my work harassing me etc I'm jus fed up. Nd ill be damned he takes her from me. I'm far from unfit. I raise my 3 by myself pretty much. I know without a doubt he can't take her. It's threats to make him look big nd bad but truth be told as long as I'm alive ill do whatever it takes to protect her. Jus ***** having to deal with this when she is almost here. Nd I'm not giving her his last name which makes him even worse.
Honestly sweetheart you need to seperate yourself from the drama and do anything you can legally to keep him away unless he stops being a nut. He can't have the court take your baby away. Unless you're endangering your child's life they will never take a baby from the mother. But honestly honey you're your own worst enemy when it comes to him. Don't talk to him or tease him about the name or anything . Don't be immature like him and go down to his level. It's encouraging him. He's a scumbag and really he needs to prove himself and behave for a lo g time until you can trust your child alone with him. He's a poison to you and your baby's life and you have to not play Into his crap. Good luck lovely!
It sounds like you are doing the right thing. I didn't realize that you were at the end. I'm sorry you have to go through all this. It's not fair because it takes away from being able to enjoy your pregnancy to the fullest.
I feel like I'm doin the right thing nd if I didnt want what's best for my baby I wouldn't think to keep her from him but I don't feel like he should see her if he can't keep a beer out of his hand all day everyday. Nd thing is I don't need his child support nor do I want it. But I don't want him in her life cause he doesn't deserve it.
You are not wrong for doing what you are doing. He is crazy, and your baby doesn't need to be around that. I'm glad that you already seen a lawyer and got a plan. (: you go girl.
You are totally in the right, he seems like a crazy man. Do what ever makes you happy:) goodluck with the birth of your girl hope he doesnt stuff things up for you :)
Nd I do avoid him. He stalked me at work so I went on leave early. I avoid places his family will be. My brother had softball practice nd the dude showed up at his practice. Nd he got kicked out. He jus does **** to get info cause now I don't talk to anyone but on here nd he has no way of finding out anything. The only reason e found her name out was off someone I worked with baby shower invite.
Lol idk if he will lose interest she is due in 9 days. But he is a mess not knowing every detail about her nd he is jus mad I've left him out. I am by far scared of him lol he thinks he can intimidate me nd it's not working which only pisses him off even more. I jus think its all funny.
My baby's father threatened to take her from me a couple times in the beginning of my pregnancy. Then he left me and got someone else pregnant and lost all interest in my baby. Sounds like your baby's father is trying to control you and realizes you aren't going to put up with his sh** so now he's trying even harder to control you. Best thing is to just avoid him altogether for the rest of your pregnancy. There really isn't any reason you have to have him around. I'm willing to bet by the time your baby actually arrives he'll have lost interest
I've already spoken to the best lawyer in town nd he can't do anything he says he can or has. All e can finish request a DNA test nd around here the baby has to be at least 6 weeks old before they'll test. But he has to get me to court first. Which takes forever. Then DNA done nd it takes 6-8 weeks to receive results then another say month to get me back to court to fight for custody. Lets see he has already missed over 5 months of her life. Nd when he requests full custody. My lawyer is requesting e complete a year of AA nd he can have 1 day a week supervised visitation in a public location with a mediator at his expense. Lmao. He is not to come about me or the baby at any other time. Pretty much like an order of protection due to the threats. But before that can be granted we have to have DNA done. Nd seeing as how I moved. Changed my number nd my vehicle nd I changed jobs he will have to find me first. Is that ugly for me to be like that? My first 3 kids are by 1 guy nd i would never keep his kids from him but he hasn't threatened me or anything like this guy. So am I being one of those crazy baby mamas nd keeping his kid from him? Or do you see valid reason to do so? I don't feel myself is safe around him much less a baby. Nd he is on a safety list nd I'm listed as private with my hospital. The lady yold me he is considered high alert so I won't even be listed as a patient. The baby won't even have the right last name. So if he does find out nd comes there they'll have no record of me. Nd they said if he shows his *** he will be escorted out.
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