Support needed - just found out I'm pregnant with my third

[kthess88]

Today I went to the urgent care for back pain (turns out I have a popped rib) in the middle of the doctor telling me What I should do for pain she said "and since you are pregnant you should stick to Tylenol for the pain" WHAT?!!?  pregnant?!!? I was shocked. I'm not even late yet! I didn't expect my period for another week!  

I have two kids already... Two boys 4 and almost 2.  I split with their dad a little over a year ago.  I have been dating someone new since Feb.  We haven't been together long and now I find out I'm pregnant.  I'm scared.  I'm worried.  I don't know what to do and I feel like I have no one to talk to.  I'm not ready to share the news.

I'm worried about what my family will say.  They see how much of a struggle it is for me being a single mom of two.  On top of that.. My current boyfriend is Mexican.  And I'm scared of how my white family will react. I'm worried they will treat this baby different.  I know that terrible.  And although my family is not racist and they really like my current boyfriend, my mom has always said she would rather me not have babies with someone outside of my race (I know that's horrible).  This only concerns me because it am so close with my family.  They are my everything.  On top of that.. It's another mouth to feed.  The financials of it all.  I'm living in a two bedroom condo.  Where am I going to put a third kid?!

I don't believe in abortion... But I don't know what to do.  I don't know how to feel.  I'm scared... I just want to cry.

[MiMe11]

talk to your boyfriend when you are ready, discuss your options.. tell your family after the two of you have made a decision. I understand all that you say, but what happens with you and your childrden is you/your boyfriend's decision. Your community and state have resources for unplanned pregnancy and adoption open or closed is the most reasonable option.

[jennyr1991]

Ur family might react different at the beginning but they will come around trust me.. If they love you they will come around might need time to put the pieces together because its a different guy ur having the baby with.. But have a talk with them the sooner the better.. Whatever you do dont abort the baby.. :"(

[kthess88]

Thanks for the advice.  I have thought about abortion a little, but moved away from it quickly.  The thought of carrying a baby for 9 months... And holding it my arms.. And then giving it away.. I just don't think I could do it.  Not to mention I have two kids already and explaining to them why we aren't taking their little brother or sister home would be very difficult and confusing for them.

[MiMe11]

I understand all of that. Talk with ypur boyfriend.. Tell your family, do what you are able a and give it your best, step aside when you can do no more and let Yah do the rest.. Yah bless