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So my ex and I are expecting our 3rd his 4th but he keeps pressuring me to get rid of our baby I mean he says we are to young to have this many kids and we barely can take care of them but we have boys n I'm pregnant with a girl and I really want here. My ex and I haven't been together in years but we continue to have kids together we had our two then he had one with some one else I didn't know until I was already pregnant again but yes we are young 20 and he just lost another job but I think it's just his way of saying I Dnt wana another child with u because I Dnt wana b with u smh idk I mean we argue about this all the time and I still can't think of one good reason that my baby should loose her life because of the mistakes we have made
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7721203 tn?1468443229
I agree with @keara1212 also.

and tell him if he doesn't want anymore kids at such a young age.. WRAP IT UP!!!! it amazes me how so many people blame children for everything!!! I'm too young, I'm too broke, blah blah blah.. well, they didn't ask to be here. so he needs to suck it up and MAN UP! pitiful... if not, I'd get child support. not to be greedy, but because it's obviously going to be that much harder for you to support 3 kids of your own.. plus him having one with someone else, and who knows how many more he'll have..

good luck girly!!! ((:
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9171754 tn?1412569817
Sounds like he just want to be a **** your pregnancy is almost over your half way there why would he even let them words come out his mouth  an your right she shouldn't have to suffer from mistakes she didnt make she can feel pain as well you'll do great put your child first an dnt ever think yu can't find anyone better because yu can an yu will keep your head up im 20 as well an expecting my first child  in December yu ever need someone to talk to yu can follow me on ig @stevensmommy111313 ill be there to talk to yu
Goodluck love an plz dnt let him talking yu into something yu dnt wanna do it'll end up being the biggest mistake of your life I had a miscarriage my last pregnancy at 13wks 4days and there's not a day that dnt go by when I dnt think of my child
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7721203 tn?1468443229
awe, I'll be 20w4d as of midnight.. 15 minutes!! lol

you can do this, feel free to add me & message me anytime!!! ((:
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Thank you all I'm in tears right now I needed this support I mean I know I can do it I feel that I can take care of my babies and I'm 20w4d I have a history of preterm labor so I'm taking the 17p shot that's the only things hendering me from being all I can be... The side affects are awful :(
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Search mommy groups near you :) remember to your kids you are the world even if you are young it doesn't mean you can't be a great mom. Look into support groups available for young mom's in your area as well. Your OB should be able to help you out with some advice in that area. Good luck with everything
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7721203 tn?1468443229
how far along are you..? you already know the gender, and he expects you to "get rid" of her?? either way, no matter how far you are, sounds like you need to put your child first, regardless of his opinion.

don't let your own personal thoughts of not being good enough for a man influence you into believing he's the best you can do!

a child does NOT make or break a relationship.. he should love you for you, first and foremost. I love my fiancé, we were engaged for a year before I got pregnant.. 20w3d now, but I'm not going to marry him or stay with him just because we have a child together.. it's so much more than that. having a baby with him makes things a little different, yes, but it doesn't influence me to stay with him.. if that makes sense??

don't worry about "friends" or him, worry about being the woman & mother that you are and can be for your babies! ((:
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Thanks for the advice and just to let u know I have tried getting him out my life I have a very low selfastem and at this young age 3 kids a lot goes through my mind I've been emotionally abuse for the longest before him I just can't see myself finding anyone that's y I admit I still try to pursue a relationship with him I never thought I was good enough for anyone honestly I mean I grew up being told I was adopted and the only friend I had was imaginary my kids are now my everything they are all I have my best friends and all smh I never go anywhere I never been a teenager though I had my first at 18 I just never had friends and still don't
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Well for starters if he didn't want to have any more kids then tell him to start being responsible before u get pregnant not that I'm judging u but u are young and about to have your third kid with someone who obviously does not respect you if u feel as tho u can take care of your baby and can give her a good life then that decision is ultimately up to you whether u have her or not but since u no the sex of the baby having an abortion is not an option but u could always go thru adoption if that was what you chose again I say think about what is right for the baby not just you and him also from one mother to another u need to drop this man from ur life yes he's the father of your children but that does not mean you have to still have sex with him and unprotected sex at that anything could happen not just a baby but an std of any kind us women today don't need Man to take care of us if you are grown enough to have kids than ur grown enough to take care of them and do what's right for them find a good man who loves u and ur kids
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I'd get rid of him before my child.
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