Nah that's ok I'm sorry too , when it comes to post about this I get a bit passionate...I guess because I know how hard it is to make that decision and would have liked more support when I was trying to decide
Things got heated. Sorry lol @deekie
Babymaia that's much better then " it's your fault for having sex
Hope all goes well! I will be praying for you and your babies!
Abortions are physically, mentally, emotionally and spirituality devastating. Trust me I know. At least if you go through with an adoption you know you've given a miracle to another family instead of living with the guilt of "getting rid" (sorry didnt want to say that but its the only way to get my point across) of your baby. Either way, like I said before the decision is up to you. Wish you the best of luck xx keep us informed
The decision is up to you. If you feel as though your ready to have another baby go for it. If not there are other options. Do what's best for you and your baby and the father if he is in the picture. Either decision you make you will have to live with and it wont make you a bad person if you pick either to keep the baby or have an abortion. You know what you can handle and will make the best decision for your family. Don't let people make you feel bad for the decision you make. The more people you tell the more influence over your decision you will be giving them. Think of your family first you will know what's best to do. Good luck.
It's no one's "fault" a person gets pregnant, and I never understand why the "blame" is always on the mother. Even if a person does everything responsibly there's still a chance of getting pregnant. Let's face it, we're all adults and abstinence really isn't a feasible option for most people, as humans we're sexual beings. While of course it is not us who will be making the decision the point of this app is to support one another in all situations. Especially if someone is asking for help, it does no good to make someone feel horrible when they're struggling with tough decisions. By all means voice your opinion but as I said earlier, do it in a constructive way that doesn't have to make someone feel alienated for asking their question in the first place.
The joke is your name but I wont get started on that. It's her own fault she's pregnant again, she knew the consequences of having sex. Keep it or dont it's not upto us.
The joke was the fact that you misspelled beautiful and like I said in the above post you can still voice your opinion and still be supportive and helpful
Deekie, your an extremely opinionated rude person. How dare you use a posters name in vain against there daughters "my beautifulgirls" and say "yeah I bet your "beautiful" daughters are happy" HOW DISRESPECTFUL! Just because someone has a different opinion to you doesn't give you the right to attack or be rude to them. This poster asked for opinions and that's what people are giving her! She obviously knew there would be haters, we don't need you trashing her post making rude comments to others. Pmo!
And it's not a baby it's a fetus and it's not even like it's a fully formed fetus yet it's an alien that doesn't even have arms or legs yet.
" it's not his or her fault that you got pregnant " " it's unfair to keep the first baby and not the second " seems like you are guilting to me. Regardless of your opinion there are better ways to say it without being a cow. She needs support not to be belittled
I am not guilting anyone just stating the truth, she asked for opinions, life is not always on your side, I'm not belittling her situation, I'm sure she's having a really hard time. And I'm thinking of the baby who doesn't have any choice and say in this, but she is an adult who can make the decisions. I will always side with the defenseless baby! And I stand by my opinion, whether you think it's idiotic or not it won't change. I wish the best for her and her babies.
I'm sorry,but, while everyone may be entitled to their own opinion there's no reason to guilt someone who is already struggling with a decision into thinking they're a bad person because they had had sex. Everyone's situation is different, birth control may not have been an option or may even have been faulty. The poster was asking for options and advice , not to be bashed for something she's already stressing over. Voice your opinion constructively if you want to be heard and not have your comment be called idiotic. I always defend those I feel are being "picked on" for lack of a better term which is why I posted on this thread in the first place, in direct correlation to your post Hawra
I just wanted to add if it's dangerous for you to have the baby, abortion would be the right decision in my opinion, and just FYI calling other people idiots doesn't make you someone people would want to listen to! Respect other people's opinions! Jeez!!
Yeah bet your "beatiful" girls are happy
I totally agree with Hawra2910.
I really hope you make the right decision .
My post disapeered it pretty much said it hasn't been proven or disproven that fetuses can or can't feel pain but blah blah blah if they can its not till the second trimester
That's in response to newmommys comment. She's already got a hard decision to make don't make it harder on her with craps you supposedly researched
The hypothesis that human fetuses are capable of perceiving pain in the early stages of a pregnancy has not received sufficient evidence to be proven or disproven; the developmental stage of research and instrumentation is so far insufficient to this task.
Some authors,[3] however, argue that fetal pain is possible from the second half, or even the second tremester,[4] of pregnancy.[5] In March 2010, the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists submitted a report,[6] concluding that "Current research shows that the sensory structures are not developed or specialized enough to respond to pain in a fetus of less than 24 weeks
Lol Tay you did a pretty good job at wording ot
I'd always choose adoption over abortion so many people can't have babies and would gladly welcome your baby as their own. There are support groups for adoption as well. Once your baby's earth starts beating he/she is alive n can feel pain. I had to do research on all this in the past. Good luck...
I also agree with Deekie,just didn't know how to word it!