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What would you do...?
I just had a baby girl 7 months ago via c section.. Yesterday I took 2 home pregnancy test and both were positive. According to my last period, im 6 weeks I do not know what to do... I don't want another baby right now, and I'm scared that my c section hasn't healed and I could have complications. But I dont think i can bring myself to have an abortion... What would y'all would do in this situation.. ?
Your incision is completely healed and the is a possibility you can have a vbac I had a very successful one. There is always adoption. There are alot of families that can't have babies that want one.
I think you should keep the baby, it's not his/her fault that you got pregnant, you are responsible, I would go to the doctor and ask about it, it's unfair to keep the first baby and not want the second one.
That is a very difficult decision. In my opinion being a mom means doing what is absolutely best for your child. No one knows yourself better than you and if you know you're not a position emotionally /financially /etc to handle two babies under the age of two I would definitely look into all your options, especially adoption. It is the hardest decision a mom has to make but again it's about making the best choice for the child. It is definitely not a decision to be made lightly though as some parents have waited for years to be told they've been chosen to be parents, so I would make sure that's something you could truly see yourself doing. If you think you would change your mind I wouldn't go that route as it would be heartbreaking for those parents. Ultimately this is a decision only you can make. No matter what mama, I'm sure you'll make the best decision for everyone in your family to have the best life they can. That's what we do :)
Ignore hawra and the idiotic comment. You need to do what is best for you. You c section wound should be healed and if you decide to keep it it will still be another couple of months before you start really stretching. Having an abortion is a tough call I have had one and it was the toughest decision I have ever had to make. I was 20 and was drunk at a party and the morning after pill failed. When I found out I was I decided against an abortion because it was something I have told myself I would never do but I changed my mind later because I wasn't in the right lifestyle and I wouldn't have had enough money to support a baby. So I had an abortion I hated myself afterwards but I realised about 2 years later that it was the right thing to do at the time and the right thing for the little bean that was inside of me.Having two young children at once is a pretty tough thing and if you are a single mum it is going to be even tougher. Over here in Australia there is a pill you can take as long as it's before 7 weeks that will make you miscarry and would say its less stressful then having an abortion. Otherwise you could always put it up for adoption but you do need to realise that that will also be a tough call to make .there are plenty of women who will be here to support you no matter your choice ignore nasty comments because they just aren't helpful.
And remember at six weeks the thing inside you is barely a tadpoles... And it won't remember or feel pain if you decide for an abortion.( if that's your decision defiantly ask for the pill if it's availiable wherever you are)
I'd always choose adoption over abortion so many people can't have babies and would gladly welcome your baby as their own. There are support groups for adoption as well. Once your baby's earth starts beating he/she is alive n can feel pain. I had to do research on all this in the past. Good luck...
The hypothesis that human fetuses are capable of perceiving pain in the early stages of a pregnancy has not received sufficient evidence to be proven or disproven; the developmental stage of research and instrumentation is so far insufficient to this task.
Some authors,[3] however, argue that fetal pain is possible from the second half, or even the second tremester,[4] of pregnancy.[5] In March 2010, the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists submitted a report,[6] concluding that "Current research shows that the sensory structures are not developed or specialized enough to respond to pain in a fetus of less than 24 weeks
Some authors,[3] however, argue that fetal pain is possible from the second half, or even the second tremester,[4] of pregnancy.[5] In March 2010, the Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists submitted a report,[6] concluding that "Current research shows that the sensory structures are not developed or specialized enough to respond to pain in a fetus of less than 24 weeks
That's in response to newmommys comment. She's already got a hard decision to make don't make it harder on her with craps you supposedly researched
My post disapeered it pretty much said it hasn't been proven or disproven that fetuses can or can't feel pain but blah blah blah if they can its not till the second trimester
I just wanted to add if it's dangerous for you to have the baby, abortion would be the right decision in my opinion, and just FYI calling other people idiots doesn't make you someone people would want to listen to! Respect other people's opinions! Jeez!!
I'm sorry,but, while everyone may be entitled to their own opinion there's no reason to guilt someone who is already struggling with a decision into thinking they're a bad person because they had had sex. Everyone's situation is different, birth control may not have been an option or may even have been faulty. The poster was asking for options and advice , not to be bashed for something she's already stressing over. Voice your opinion constructively if you want to be heard and not have your comment be called idiotic. I always defend those I feel are being "picked on" for lack of a better term which is why I posted on this thread in the first place, in direct correlation to your post Hawra
I am not guilting anyone just stating the truth, she asked for opinions, life is not always on your side, I'm not belittling her situation, I'm sure she's having a really hard time. And I'm thinking of the baby who doesn't have any choice and say in this, but she is an adult who can make the decisions. I will always side with the defenseless baby! And I stand by my opinion, whether you think it's idiotic or not it won't change. I wish the best for her and her babies.
" it's not his or her fault that you got pregnant " " it's unfair to keep the first baby and not the second " seems like you are guilting to me. Regardless of your opinion there are better ways to say it without being a cow. She needs support not to be belittled
And it's not a baby it's a fetus and it's not even like it's a fully formed fetus yet it's an alien that doesn't even have arms or legs yet.
Deekie, your an extremely opinionated rude person. How dare you use a posters name in vain against there daughters "my beautifulgirls" and say "yeah I bet your "beautiful" daughters are happy" HOW DISRESPECTFUL! Just because someone has a different opinion to you doesn't give you the right to attack or be rude to them. This poster asked for opinions and that's what people are giving her! She obviously knew there would be haters, we don't need you trashing her post making rude comments to others. Pmo!
The joke was the fact that you misspelled beautiful and like I said in the above post you can still voice your opinion and still be supportive and helpful
The joke is your name but I wont get started on that. It's her own fault she's pregnant again, she knew the consequences of having sex. Keep it or dont it's not upto us.
It's no one's "fault" a person gets pregnant, and I never understand why the "blame" is always on the mother. Even if a person does everything responsibly there's still a chance of getting pregnant. Let's face it, we're all adults and abstinence really isn't a feasible option for most people, as humans we're sexual beings. While of course it is not us who will be making the decision the point of this app is to support one another in all situations. Especially if someone is asking for help, it does no good to make someone feel horrible when they're struggling with tough decisions. By all means voice your opinion but as I said earlier, do it in a constructive way that doesn't have to make someone feel alienated for asking their question in the first place.
The decision is up to you. If you feel as though your ready to have another baby go for it. If not there are other options. Do what's best for you and your baby and the father if he is in the picture. Either decision you make you will have to live with and it wont make you a bad person if you pick either to keep the baby or have an abortion. You know what you can handle and will make the best decision for your family. Don't let people make you feel bad for the decision you make. The more people you tell the more influence over your decision you will be giving them. Think of your family first you will know what's best to do. Good luck.
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