What's worse?

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

Being married and a "single mom" Or a single mom?  Not trying to insult anyone I hope.  I just feel like a single parent and I'm married. It *****. My husband gets off of work at 3 then does whatever he wants. He says he's exhausted from work and just relaxes on the couch barely paying attention to our newborn. He will do one simple chore or task for hours which I could do in a few minutes if my baby ever gave me a break. He doesn't cook or clean. I already brought up divorce last night and really meant it. There's so much tension and the mood is heavy when he's home.  I rather be a happy single mom then a miserable married one.

[Melissa_25]

Ive never been a single mom so I dont know for sure but I would imagine it would be awefully difficult. Ive always felt like a single mom because my husband goes into work at 1pm and works until midnight or later sometimes so when hes home he sleeps the whole time. Our oldest son started school this year so the only time he sees him is the 20 minutes in the morning while he takes him to school and then maybe a day during the weekend if his daddy gets a day off. Our youngest is two and she is lucky to see him before they walk out the door before school and maybe a few minutes before he goes back to bed or before he leaves for work but thats it. Im pregnant with our third and weve been trying to make out a schedule for when hes home so he can spend some time with the two that will be home at least. Its hard to make a way for him to see the oldest when he goes in to work before he gets out of school and by the time he comes home the kids are in bed but were trying to figure it out. The plus side is that he works and supports us the best he can and im very thankful for that but I do know and expect the fact that ill be the only one up all night and day with a newborn. If your not happy and dont think you guys can find a way to make it work then maybe your better off alone. Hope the best for you.

[Drewkichu]

I'm the same way. When my daughter was born, he would help at first, then he stopped completely. Our daughter is now 14 months old and he helps out a little more after he went away to the army for 6 months. He's only changed 5 diapers, but I'd prefer raising her my way anyway, since he financially takes care of us.

[hab63380]

I understand how u feel my son is 14mos I was the one that worked after I had him and came home and took care of him .. then I found out I was preg again n got to stay home w my son during this pregnancy but since he's working that means I have him every minute of every day my son's lucky to get 20 mins of his dad's time even though he works 8 hrs a day or  .. iv been really confused on what to do too  because after I have this baby I'm currently 35 wks I will be going back to work and I will be the one taking care of both I don't understand how he just pushes him to the side yet calls him his joy ? It's very frustrating I completely understand what ur feeling because I have been wondering which would make more sense to actually be a single parent or feel like one

[WhiteJasmineRose3]

Your story is inspiring I'm really happy you found a better man. I think I made up my mind to leave him just need to find a way to support myself and daughter first hopefully soon

[mommyoftwo7694]

I had the same problem with my first. He dad didnt work. I did and when I got home I was the one taking care of her. I felt like a single mom amd that he was just a baby sitter. I finally made myself happy and left him. He has not seen our daughter in 2 years by his choice. He just doesnt care about her. I am now with a wonderful man but unfortunately he works 2 jobs and hes only home 6 hours a day and 5 of those he is sleeping. In the time he is awake he holds our new born amd on his days off helps out. He will be adopting my 2 1/2 year old. I still feel like a single mom with him being away but he does it to support us. I say do what makes you happy. If you armt happy your baby isnt happy.