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Why wont they give me a chance?

I'm 16 weeks and I go in for my first doctor appointment tomorrow. I asked if they could try to tell the gender and they told me I had to wait until 20 weeks. I know its possible to tell now and they could give me the Fetal Cell Analysis, but they refuse to. Is there any way I could persuade my OB to look anyways? Ive had 2 miscarriages and had the FCA with them, and I'm afraid I could miscarry again without knowing what I'm having.
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13167 tn?1327194124
MamaShriver,  it seems to me that you deserve more answers than you're receiving.  Having 2 prior miscarriages at 15 and 14 weeks,  you have real reason to be concerned.  But I'm not sure determining gender is a big issue - in my opinion,  determining the cause of these miscarriages is a much,  much bigger issue than gender.  I think it's probably very low priority in your doctor's office,  in a case where there is a history of puzzling miscarriages,  to determine gender.

Are they cooperating with other tests to insure this pregnancy continues?
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My doctor was the same! They wouldn't do gender until 23/24 weeks. We ended up paying to get the gender At 18 weeks.
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They havent ordered one yet. But I found out I'm having a little girl.
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If you are going to have an amniocentesis anyway, you can request a gender analysis, but they won't do anything invasive just for the purpose of knowing the gender.
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Many docters have strict policys they choose to follow for what they will do. If you can afford it I would do a 3D scan on your own. It's well worth it and you can even get the heartbeat in a teddy bear as a keepsake. I've had 4 miscarriages and was never able to find out the gender with any I understand how hard it is. I hope everything works out for you this time.
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No idea. Havent had any prenatal care this pregnancy and tomorrow is my first appointment there. I already know why I miscarry. The first time I was having twins at 15 and my body couldnt handle it, along with malnutrition. The second time I took a hard fall and my placenta detatched. I just want to know what it is incase I miscarry again.
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My insurance would cover a 3D. But what I dont get is why they wont do a FCA. Thats guaranteed positive gender identification at 10 weeks.
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Thanks for your response. Both miscarriages I had happened after 13 weeks. The first was 15 and the second was 14. I've already had a threatened miscarriage with this one, so I'm really wanting to know what it is just in case. I really hope I can get them to check!
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Pay for a 3d ultrasound then. Your doctor probably wants to wait because things are better developed at 20 weeks for when they look at the organs and what not.
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Usually miscarriage is up until 13weeks unless you have some medical problems.
So ease your stress right there.
Some offices don't do a gender till 20 weeks because they'll get an accurate result and won't have to check again. For example if they check you now they'll do it again at 20-21weeks to make sure it was right the first time. And some don't like to do that. I don't see the problem but all drs are different especially ultrasound techs I have one like that and she gets on my nerves.
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