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circumcision vs. non circumcision

Im having a boy but im debating whether to get my little man circumcised or not what are the pros and cons? Ftm
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It's really all up to you I had my first son circumcised and this baby Will be as well I think it's healthier less risk of infection  I work in the medical field and see a lot of infections in elderly men with uncircumcised penises when my first son was born his father wanted it done as well and I think we all need to be respectful no one is a messed up parent because of circumcision choice a warning to other mommies and mommies to be any discussion on circumcision Or vaccines is likely to get a little crazy lol
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The Academy of Pediatrics is neutral about it. Its really a personal decision. We decided against it for our son after I watched a couple during my nursing school clinical and doing research. Personally I wasnt comfortable putting my little baby through that without seeing a major medical benefit. About half of boys are uncircumcised now, so its not seen as abnormal anymore.
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7677085 tn?1395374075
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That's what I was trying to say to begin with! The risks of std are only slightly lower but there is enough medical benefit (cosmetics side) that it is worth the risk. My hubby never really paid attention to other penises and didn't even know he had been circumcised! He was pissed at first but we went through the lists of pros and cons and he got over it. I asked him his opinion I'd we have a boy and he's all for it.
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There is a lot of misinformation out there. The facts are:
Pros:
Lower risk of UTIs as an infant
Lower risk of contracting an STD
Slightly lower risk of penile cancer (very rare anyway)
Easier to care for and to teach a young boy to clean

Cons:
Pain (which he will not remember)
Slightly more work to keep clean while healing
There are a lot of nerve endings in the foreskin, which is why men say it is so painful later in life, so there is some evidence that circumcized men experience less sexual sensation. Keep in mind that it doesn't mean less pleasure because they have nothing to compare it to.

I am circumcizing my boy because his father is and wants it done. I have had uncircumcized partners that had no issues with their foreskin. It is a personal choice. There are consequences and risks either way, like all choices. Neither is right or wrong.
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Shouldn't ***
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I did a lot of research on this when I had my son and asked a lot of drs there is so many different opinions on this, but in the end it's up to you and the babies father. My hubby is not and he's never had a uti, std or anything wrong with it. He said he was glad his mother never did that to him. As for the one person said that if they are it give them confidents as they grow how does it? You as a parent give your kid confidents. Really it's just a peice of skin that should determine who your son is
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7308144 tn?1395504722
I didn't really care either way but my husband isn't circumcised and he is the one who said yes we should do it because he knows what he went through and doesn't want that for our little man. Each family is different,  each man is different. I know really only what my husband has told me from his bad experience not having it done. He was the first uncircumcised penis I had ever seen and I love it! Hahaha.
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Your Best Bet Would Be To Ask Your Ob. This Has Been Asked Before And There's A Lot Of Misinformation. We Have 2 Uncircumcised Boys. They're 4 And 8. The Only Problem We Had Was My Youngests Father Pulling Back His Foreskin And Cleaning It Too Much.
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7872463 tn?1410179586
It's unnecessary.  It's painful.  There is a risk of serious infection.  There is a risk of complications.  I read something about a baby boy getting circumcised and something went wrong and they mutilated his penis, he never had a normal male adulthood.  There is also the benefit that uncircumcised men have a much longer sex life than those who are circumcised.  For me, I just think it's WRONG to put a baby through that amount of pain. And what if he grows up and disagrees with your choice? Let him have the say.
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I'm not getting my son circumsised. I believe it's unnecessary and I believe it's a religious thing. I believe that if people are getting it done because "it's easier to clean", well then that's just lazy IMO. If my son gets to an age where he understands circumsision and decides he wants the operation, then fair enough.
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Its not a medically necessary surgery. I let my hubs decide. He decided against it. He isn't circumcised so why do the baby. Don't let anyone scare you into it with their horror stories genital mutilation is still exactly what it is!
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I've actually witnessed drs doing circumcisions and the baby is numbed and given sugar water to help relieve pain. I am all for it especially cuz I've seen children who end up having issues with the foreskin eventually being too tight to retract and have to be circumcised at a later age, mostly around 3-5 but have seen a couple teens that needed it too. I think the decision is entirely up to the parents, but I would do it if I had boys
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I get that everyone has an opinion and this woman asked for one but to the woman who said it takes there sexual sensation I think your misinformed. My husband was circumsized and has plenty of sensation. I left the choice for my son up to his dad.

I personally know three uncircumsized males and one had it "fixed" (his words) when he was a teenager and said it was devastatingly painful. I know another grown man who has no problem and is quite pleased with his manhood. The third is my 16 year old adopted nephew. My biological nephews are and circumsized and he isn't and it makes him so embarrassed that he is different but is afraid of the pain.

So as you can see it varies from case to case and can be good either way. Maybe ask your baby's father his opinion... good luck and go with what feels right
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6007249 tn?1394900105
Its so much Cheaper to have them Circumcised at Birth. Plus they Grow up to be more Confident as teenagers and Men. Their Future is in your hands as their Mothers.

I'm having my 3rd son and all my Boys are Circumcised. I can't imagine having to violate my 3year by pulling his foreskin back.

At what age do women with uncircumcised sons start to teach them to pull it back? It looks Painful, and do you pull the skin back every time they poop?Or eevery time you Bathe them?

Its easier to wash and and Go, the penis heals faster than the umbilical cord. The Baby doesn't even know it.
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Its much healthIer to have it done. Less likely for infection uti stds and more.  it isnt just a religious thing... It is a health thing. And it doesnt bleed much or hurt much or affect the baby tramaticlly later in life if you circumcise him when he is 8 days old... Proven fact. No bad mental effects or traumatic memories.
To not get it done... Is fine too. Just later on itculd be dr recommended to get it done and if hes a kid it could be traumatic
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Honestly, it should be your son's choice. There are NO medical benefits, it is NOT easier to clean than an uncircumcised penis, and it is a very painful process. Many argue that that fact doesn't matter because he won't remember the act, but consider a few things: (ignoring the fact that using that argument is **** parenting in my opinion) as a sexually active adult, he will be plenty aware of the  fact that he was robbed of sexual sensation as an infant. He will be aware that he was forced to undergo a purely cosmetic procedure as an infant. Unless the procedure is medically necessary or it is performed for religious reasons, he should be able to make those decisions - it is his body after all.
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I have heard several different pros and cons to this, but from many horror stories of men who are older and needed to have it done for medical purposes, they said it was the absolute worst pain of their lives and wished their moms would have just had it done as a baby... after tons of research and questions to other moms I have decided to go ahead and do it....
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6880636 tn?1393491685
Before u decide u should watch how it's done! I think it's so unnecessary my husband nor my son are circumcised n my husband has never had an infection or std, up to u thou
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Well you should discuss this with the baby daddy. Cause he has a right to have his say. If he's circumcised then he may be for it. If he's not circumcised then why? I'm not going to circumcise my baby. My Dr said if the baby appears healthy and if the penis isn't infected or if there's no complications with the penis then there's no need for it. I won't do it unless it's for medical reasons
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And we are not religious at all :)
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I have to boys and I did circomsize them and it was there father the one who brought it up to do it. I am glad we did it for them and I agree with what doula mommy said its much easier and better in my point but everyone has there own opinion good luck :)
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lmao sorry bt "less risk of contacting stds" umm no the less risk is using a condom! bt yes it usually is more of a religious thing, people try saying it keeps it cleaner bt not being lazy and cleaning it properly will keep it clean.
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*religious
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Honestly its more of a relegious or cosmetic choice i didnt circumcise either of my boys and not planning to do it with this one even my doctor said there is no need to have it done but to each their own.
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