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dealing with miscarriage

I had my D&C 2 days ago i am still so sad i was used to beeing pregnant and its so heart breaking,i still think and cry every day..i was 12 weeks and first pregnancy..how did any of u ladies deal  after u miscarriage any advice?
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10751877 tn?1412565758
Im sorry for your loss :/ I had a miscarriage in the beginning of june and it was real shocking and devastating for me . My baby was planned and I ended having a d&c at 12 weeks I had dreams about my baby , I would cry alone without no one knowing ... but I had to be strong for my first son because he needed me! Now im 5wks pregnant and I have hope  that this baby will make it :) Remember that now you have ur little angel watching over you just like I have mine . Keep ur head up ,everything will pass and ur going to be ok :)
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I lost one baby at 20 weeks one at aproximetly 6 weeks and twins one at 12 weeks and one at nearly 14weeks. It is important to talk about your feelings and to acknolage all of them an to understand that none of this is your fault and to know that there are women out here like me who try and use our experiences to help others thru this incredibly debilitating time. Some things common among parents who have lost children is to have candles that they light on special occasions or to plant a tree and get a plark and some even get tattoos. Feel free to send me a message if you would like to talk. I make shore i check my inbox at least once every week
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8654668 tn?1412565128
Im.so sorry..nothing will make the pain go away...but time will help heal..and when ur ready u will have another healthy pregnancy..sorry for ur loss.
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I miscarried in early July, oppted to let nature take its course instead of d&c. It was so heart breaking!!! I was one day shy of 9 weeks. I was so sad and I even lost my job because of the heart ache. I am pregnant again 12 weeks and 3 days, happened right after I miscarried. I vowed to take better care of myself, even left the father because he was setting us up for an unhealthy living situation.


Know that you are not alone!!! And surround yourself with people who care and can help you stay positive
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10515800 tn?1419227034
I'm so sorry!  This happened to me before this pregnancy,  I was so sad I didn't even care about letting my body heal like it's supposed to. I wanted to try right away. I'm glad my husband talked to me, but we only waited 3 weeks. I am now getting induced tuesday.  I won't ever forget the feeling of it... but don't lose hope!! It will happen for you when the time is right!! Good luck dear♡♡
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10515800 tn?1419227034
I'm so sorry!  This happened to me before this pregnancy,  I was so sad I didn't even care about letting my body heal like it's supposed to. I wanted to try right away. I'm glad my husband talked to me, but we only waited 3 weeks. I am now getting induced tuesday.  I won't ever forget the feeling of it... but don't lose hope!! It will happen for you when the time is right!! Good luck dear♡♡
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I'm so sorry for your loss.  I too miscarried (at 17 weeks). It was 17 years ago, but i will neverforget.  It was devastating. You will heal, but there will always be a small piece of you that feels... missing? Take this time to take care of you. Sending prayers your way.

Kellie
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10531551 tn?1412176460
Im very sorry for your loss, but please remember that you have gained a beautiful guardian angel. Iy is hard but remember that when the time is right you will have another baby to have for the rest of your life. Loosing a child is the worst thing a mother can deal with but just dont lose faith and remember you have someone looking after you and your family. Try and get your feelings out, there's nothing wrong with that, its part of coping with this. But after a while even if your not up for it try to go out with your husband or with your friends,  sometimes distracting yourself and trying to move forward is the best medicine.  I know you will never forget but its not about forgetting its about learning to cope and to move forward just like your baby would want you to. God bless you and I will keep you in my prayers ♥♥♥
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I miscarried in july at seven weeks and it was terrible. I have never felt that kind of  heartache  before. I am still very sad for myself,for the baby that had no chance, and for my family. It was hard on everyone. Im still sad but things have to keep moving  forward. I am now almost  seven weeks  pregnant  again and i have my first ultrasound  tomorrow.  You will get through  this. It will never go away but it will gey easier. I wish you the best of luck going forward. God bless
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