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delivery questions?

Who do you want in the room?
Is it mean to only want my husband and mother there at the hospital?
Are you allowing people to visit while in the hospital or when you get out?
Would it be wrong to kick my in laws and people I don't want in the hospital out?
Is it selfish if I just want the hospital time to be mine and my husband's and daughter's time?
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The hospital where I will deliver as a rule in place right now because of the flu that no one under 16 can visit including siblings so we are not allowing any visitors. I will have my support people for while I am in labor and delivering but other than that I'm not letting anyone visits until we are home and my five year old as time with her sister..
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Im going to tell them that. I would think people would respect my wishes and wait. But like I said  my in laws suck and are rude and don't even deserve to see my baby because they tried to make me miscarry and other bad stuff.
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I only had my mom & hubby in the room while I was giving birth HOWEVER I couldn't stop the fact that my in laws were completely rude & couldn't even wait untill I was cleaned up to come in & see the baby so I would say NO you're not being rude at all. That is your guys' time together! If you want them to see the baby after you have him/her then wait untill you get transferred into your own room to have them visit (wish I would have) also you can tell your nurses to only let certain people in so you won't have that problem all around.
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I am being told that I am selfish and pushing people away bc I only want me and my husband in the room when I deliver and my mom at the hospital. And after like the next day some family can see her but to wait until we get home and settled. My husband has drill the week they say I am due and if so I want just my mom there,but no one but me can hold the baby until my husband does because thats what he asked and they are okay with it. But im selfish and all kinda rude things because im uncomfortable with having people there while I am in labor and trying to bug me and after I have my doctor because I want that time with me and her and my husband if he can make it. Then the next day family can visit.
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I had my fiance and mum in the room with me, my family and friends visited when we were settled on the ward.
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Oh, and you can definitely tell the hospital staff to turn anyone else away. Especially if you live in the US because of HIPPA laws. It's illegal for them to give any information out, especially if you don't sign a consent form or ask them not to let people know you're there.
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Birth is not a spectator's sport or a show. You are the star, and you should only have who you're comfortable with in the hospital during birthing and afterwards.

My husband and I are planning on being the only people present. We're telling our family when we go to the hospital, but we're waiting to tell anyone the baby's born until we've bonded, I've gotten cleaned up, and we've both had some rest. Everyone's been told to stay away until they're invited. So no, you're not being unreasonable. :)
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Just don't tell people your going into labor! Only the people you want in there.. I want my hubby and my mom, and his mom.. Last time it was just us then my sister pop up . but I didn't care I was giving birth,, im not gonna be like let me suck her back up and say get out! Lol not happening unless u have a epidural you might have comfort to do so..
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There should also be something with the hospital to make all your information private. That way they can't tell anyone if you are there or anything about you. Talk to your Dr and see if your hospital offers this. You just have to remember not to post that you are at the hospital on social media because once they know you are there there is nothing the hospital can do.
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I'm only having my partner and mum as for visiting it will only be my partner, everyone else in the family etc can wait til I'm settled at home :)
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I think it should be your time and if that's what you want then that's what you should get. My Dr said to be selfish about this time and I plan to do that. I'm going to let my husband, mom, and mother-in-law be with me. My mother-in-law is a nursery nurse so she will be the baby's nurse. I will not take any visitors until we are home though. If someone shows up that you don't want there then tell your nurses and they should take care if it for you.
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I really just want my mom and husband and when its time to deliver just my husband. But my in laws are mean and tell me I am selfish for that and I don't want anyone showing up and ruining anything or to see what's going on. I am not comfortable with people coming to the hospital while I am in labor or even after. But I get told I am selfish to make people wait until we are home and settled in. I have 30 days to go and idk what to do about the whole hospital and people thing. I am so confused and stressed about it. I don't want my husband's family near me or my child because my whole pregnancy they have tried to make me miscarry and have done everything to split me and my husband up. We are 21 and 22 and married a little over a year and know each other for 8 years and they still hate me and don't approve and I don't think if people treat me bad should be around me or my baby girl. But I get told I am selfish for it.
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Not at all! You should go for whatever you're most comfortable :) I'm having my partner and my mum
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I let immediate family visit in the hospital, but only my husband and mom were allowed in the delivery room. I didn't get any grief about it. You know what's best your family and your situation, so I'd go with what your gut tells you.
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