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dna testing
So my boyfriends mother told him that if he has any doubts about the baby being his he should test the baby before signing the birth certificate. I have not been with anyone but him and I know it is his side of the family that wants proof its his and not him. It breaks my heart that I'm thought so lowly of. But would it be better just to DNA test them to make everyone happy? I am 1000000 % sure the baby is his I havent been with anyone else through out our relationship.
I don't have the extra 100 dollars to throw out there and if I know who the father is I feel there is no point. If they wanna pay for it by all means they can test away but if they make my kid cry they will never hear the end of it
My hubbys family is saying that to..well his dad is,, but the mother has to consent. I won't do it because I'm sure as son as i do,, they will be like ooh you had doubts that's why you did it!
RockRose y put your child through something they don't half to go through just to prove a point if your child's father isn't requesting it its not needed and females claiming there pregnant by people they really arnt isn't the case in this situation!
When the man you love and/or his family doubts that your baby is part of their family too, yes, its very hurtful... Can't even explain how much it kills me to know that he would even question it..
Even though my husband has no doubts, and I know for a fact its his, I still suggested a dna test just to avoid any doubt in the future and just in case something happens and we split up it will have to be some for child support anyway. So why not? In fl its $100 for a cheek swab...won't hurt my baby at all and will put any little doubt in anyones mind to rest. Why are dna tests so dirty and hurtful? Its a reassurance. Would you like to raise someone elses kid for years thinking it was yours then find out one day that its not your blood child? I think not.
I am considering one just to shut his family up. But I can see why she wouldn't want to. If he doesn't have any doubts, then she really has nothing to prove to anyone else.
I'm kind of surprised here. Why won't you ladies do a DNA test, to put this issue to rest? Obviously you all are sure who the father is, why not just prove it? There are SO MANY women claiming to be pregnant by men who are not the father, why not just show what you know?
Thanks everyone:) the more I think about it if they do have doubts that the baby is his it has to be something to do with me. I am not going to lower myself to that. If they have doubts then that's their problem not.mine. I know who the father is and so does he:)
My boyfriend told me that his sister kept telling him he needs to get a blood test and hewas like I'm 1000000% sure the baby's mine I'm not putting my child through that and after that they all shut up about it and they all like me and can't wait to meet our baby boy so moral of my story is if he feels strong about it and has no doubts then he needs to just put his foot down & let them know!
My fiancés family is the exact same way! My fiancé knows the baby is his and we dont ever want to get a DNA test just to torture his family. When we found out I was pregnant, his mom called me every name in the book and his grandma said 'are you sure its yours?' Its aggravating because my fiancé is the only person I've been with for a very long time. Good luck girl. I hope your in laws come around soon. My fiancés mom and aunt are really the only ones who still hate me and think I cheated.
Yeah that's what I say too, let's make them pay for it and they will feel like jack ass3s afterwards. Then they paid for something that we already tried to tell them. Haha. That's fantastic.
I didn't want to say anything until I knew how he felt but when your pregnant, you don't need this rude stressful stuff. If you both feel that you should get it done cuz HE is having thoughts of doubt than do it. If HE wants to do it just so his family shuts up, do it. If HE wants to do it to prove that his family is wrong about you, do it. Others say to just do it and it will stop things but that isn't always the truth. They may still continue to say stuff even if they have proof its his which in that case just means they are either very disappointed or don't like you. Sorry for being so blunt. If you decide to do it, make them pay for it! They aren't cheap test.
Honestly, that's just good advice for any man who isn't in a marriage - get a DNA test. They're cheap, and will give everyone peace of mind.
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Best wishes -
He needs to grow a pair an not be influenced by what other people are saying,even family. You should only take it if HE ask, you dont have to prove anything to anyone else.
Honestly in my opinion, just give them the DNA test. Since you never slept with anyone else you have nothing to worry about. You denying it for them not believing you.(even thought you were faithful) just makes u look guilty. So if they (or he) has any doubts just do it once baby is born. They will feel like a$$es after baby comes back his! Plus they r super expensive so.let them.spend their $ to.find out what you already told them. Haha jokes on them.
I am going through this EXACT issue. His family gets into his head to make him question things and I'm not sure what to do either. I'm about to tell him and his fam that if they're willing to pay hundreds of dollars to pay for the dna test, then bring it on b!tches. lol. I am positive too, I'm not a fxcking cheater. Yeah when I first heard that they questioned it I cried because I was like wow, good to know your family thinks im a slu+...But maybe we should just get the test so they'll stfu. Then they have no excuse because dna tests don't lie lol.. good luck hun.
Well it is really between the two of you, if he feels he needs one to get his family off his back so he can be a good dad then just get one and they will shut up. If he doesn't care what they say/think then don't worry about it.people can be ridiculous sometimes.
What has your boyfriend said to them and you? Anything towards his can't like how he knows its his baby, he doesn't need a test.
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