families.... :(

[tay_lily_n_bump]

ok i need some outside opinions because i dont know what to think. heres my situation.. i have 2 children age 3 and 1 from a previous relationship. my partner of almost 10months lives with me and we are very happy. hes great with the kids and does everything he can to help me. we are expecting our first child together. im 10weeks preg. it wasnt planned and i know its all happened fast but i know hes what i want and we are planning on getting married within a year. the problem is when i told my parents im pregnant they went mad. they hate my partner for no reason.hes never done anything wrong to me or them. they dont even know him. my parents are not speaking to me and over the phone said a lot of hurtful things like every chance i get to f*** up the family i take. and why cant i do anything right. they are gutted. and id better get it aborted cause ive lost all my family and my dad has threatened to hit my partner over the head and kill him if he sees him... im 23 and have my own family now. i dont know why they are being like this. i know it was them that supported me the last 2 times because my ex was never around and i got quite ill with both pregnancies(autoimmune disease flares up) but they havent got to support me this time. my partner is with me and has been great so far. are they being out of order or am i just not understanding what ive done to them? theyve made me feel like a terrible person and a complete failiure i feel so down at the moment. i wanted to enjoy this pregnancy with my partner by my side like a normal family but now it feels completly ruined :(

[jwilliams81]

My mom and grandma hated my husband when we first met. Thought it was the biggest mistake and he's a bad guy cuz of some things that have happened. My grandma finally came around not my mom. It's been almost 5 years we got married this past may didn't change anything. If you are happy that's all that matters

[Hhhh33]

I've had a similar problem. My fiancé and I have been together for three years. (All but eight months of my first sons life). He's great with my son, he even calls him dad. We got engaged in October and found out we were pregnant in November. I was super excited! I wanted a baby. But my mother was reallllly upset and we weren't very happy with some of the family responses. He kept telling me who cares, it's you and me against the world so I stopped letting everyone upset me and I'm happier than ever! I can't wait to get big and experience this! They're slowly getting over it and would rather see me happy. So don't worry, as long as you and your partner are happy is ALL THAT MATTERS :)

[tay_lily_n_bump]

thank you all for your comments youve been very helpfull. they have never really liked him but have no reason not to. i thought theyd be happy that ive settled down and not relying on them anymore. my dad will not talk to me at all. hes too stubborn ill give it a few weeks and try talk then. its good to know im not the only one that thinks families are there to help eachother no matter what and shouldnt hold it against eachother. its still a really horrible feeling being told by your parents who youve been close to that youve done nothingbut disapoint them your whole life.. really *****. all these hormones dont help.

[ftmama626]

They have no right to speak to you like that or threaten your partner. If anything they should be happy he's being good to you and your other 2. Rhett shouldn't hold anything above your head like thatbc that's what family is suppose to do is help each other.

[Mzkay03]

they are definitely outta line, i know thats ur family and they have helped u in the past but u cannot let them or anyone else steal ur joy right now or ever..its your life if he is good to u and make u and your kids happy, forget what everyone else is saying...love them from a distance and keep your home happy!! good luck

[emmaftm]

They are wrong to treat you and your partner like that. Also your children are going to suffer for their behaviour because i take it they spend time with your parents? Have they only been like this with your partner since finding out your pregnant or all along? If its been all along perhaps they are feeling pushed out now you dont need them as much?? Tell them you want to talk to them alone as adults to sort this out, no threats, no name calling etc if this doesnt work then leave them be, they will come back with their tail between their legs when they realise what they have done.

[JbSweetpea86]

At the end of the day that's all you need, your healthy little happy family :)

[tay_lily_n_bump]

thankyou for reply. its good to know im not the only one that thinks its unfair of them. we are just going to have to be a strong family unit. my partners family are not around either so its just us and the kids.

[JbSweetpea86]

That sounds like a horrible situation to be in, it's unfair for them to make you feel this way just because they've helped you out in the past, that's what family does? If you and your partner are happy and they have no reason to dislike him then don't worry about them, yes you should be able to get the support you need from them but don't let it get you down too much. Focus on your own little family and im sure in time they'll come around. Sorry I know it's not the best advice but its a hard situation. Best of luck with everything!