fighting during pregnant

[nebabyy]

OK so my bf has a angerment problem & before I was pregnant we always fight... we fight about the stupidest ****!  We talked about not fighting when I'm pregnant because it's easy to have a miscarriage.. but when were at the point were we can't stand each other & we begin fighting he doesn't care that I'm pregnant it seems, he would choke me,  throw me around &or slap me....everytime we fight I threatin him by saying I'm going to kill this baby. ..but I know that's not good to say. This is my first pregnancy & I really don't wanna loose my baby by stressing so much or him accidently hitting my stomach... he always apologiz. Afterwards.  Were currently mad at each other & I really don't wanna fight with him anymore. What can I do?

[bellamommydaddy]

My ex would choke me out and push me around. One time he even held a knife to my throat and I literally thought I was gonna die. After awhile I found out more things about him by his mom. Like about how he went to prison for a class b felony battery causing serious bodily injury on his ex gf. And this is the one you need to pay attention to : the violence and STRESS caused his wife to go into premature labor at 26 weeks. His now 3 yr old has to wear thick glasses because of it. Men like that will never change honey. I've been through it. Leaving for awhile and coming back only makes it worse because then they use excuses for you leaving them to hit you. They desire control and power. It's either the way they were raised or they just enjoy doing it. Nothing is gonna get better.

[nebabyy]

Thanks ladies

[alexx1216]

Didn't the rest of these comments yet, but im in the exact same situation. I just ignore him until he kissed my a s s for awhile i dont take the firt apology cause its always the same thing, cause I hate dealing with sh*t when I shouldn't have too. Idk hopefully if I get this job im looking into this will change completely! Good luck mama. Don't let him run you or take over your mind!

[Shana91]

& a lot of females end up dead or seriously injured from being in abusive relationships. But turn around and make excuses for the same sob thats putting hands on u/them!! U obviously dont care about ur life or ur unborn after all u are threaten to kill it so hey... but if u like it I love it ppl get what they allow themselves to go thru.

[annikins95]

Honestly I could care less if he is taking meds or not. If YOU do not leave him you are the person who is putting yourself in this situation and thus it's your fault even if you are scared. If you are realizing this to the point of you saying you are going to say that you are going to kill that child then you both need help. And you know it just pisses me off that you would even say that weather or not you mean it.

[Estherrr]

Seems like u guys got use to the fighting. If you can get along with out the fighting and can't work it out you both need to stay away from each other before one of u guys really hurts the other person. I know it ain't easy but ur pregnant!

[mysteriousbundleofjoy]

Honestly get your man in check it took me almost loosing my son to realize that what was going on wasnt right dude for real!

[Kayy19]

I use to go through the same thing, one time I was at my boyfriend house n were fussing n I told him I was leaving n going home n he started pushing me up the stairs n I told him stop but he didn't so kicked my foot back to hit him n I guess it hit him n his private area n he slapped my face n made my nose bleed n gave me a black eye, I didn't see him until a month he came by to talk n brought me some food in swore he will never do it again, n so far he hasn't put his hands on me again. But I told him he dosent love me or our bby because he put us n danger. But I do honestly believe he will never do it again. But if he do . I'm gone u dnt need to be in no relationship like that.

[Mreeah]

Schitzophrenia is a serious mental disorder. If i were you i wouldnt be around for that stuff because its degenerative. He has to get it under control before he can maintain a healthy relationship.

[nebabyy]

Thanks you all..  and Yes he never take medication. He says that was "his choice if he wanted to" but personly I think he need medication & we need to go to counciling hopefully. It works..   I'll update u all: ) thanks  again

[mysteriousbundleofjoy]

It doesnt matter eigher way!!! Me and my husband used to beat eachother i would hit him n make visible bruzes.. He would bruze my skull and make my head swell.. Also break ribs.. I broke his arm.. I sent him to anger mangement and  we dont abuse eachother anymore!! We just have awesome sex when were upset with eachother!

[mysteriousbundleofjoy]

It doesnt matter eigher way!!! Me and my husband used to beat eachother i would hit him n make visible bruzes.. He would bruze my skull and make my head swell.. Also break ribs.. I broke his arm.. I sent him to anger mangement and  we dont abuse eachother anymore!! We just have awesome sex when were upset with eachother!

[mysteriousbundleofjoy]

Put his *** in anger mamagement there is NO "accident" if he beats you when hes angry!! NO EXCUSE FOR A MAN TO LAY A SINGLE HAND ON A WOMAM even if YOU HIT HIM IT DOESNT MATTER!!

Trust me i been through this crap! You dont deserve it evsn if you antignize

[henleybaby]

You need to have counciling with him And he needs medication to keep the skitofrinic down and if you don't know what it is it is best to research it and know how to help him fighting is the worst I know a lot about it and arguing and fighting isn't the anwser at all

[Chay09]

Personally its pure stupidity to stay in a relationship where ur getting beat there's no reason ur child is way more important then a man but to each its own. If you like getting beat enough to stay and put up with it enjoy

[raabi001]

I had same sictuation with my first pregnancy and I was super stressed and I had miscarriage.  Buy still things never change. So now I try to avoid stress and fighting bcoz I Dnt Wana lost my 2nd baby

[September14baby]

I know what u mean me and my bf get into fights for the dumbest thing to ever since the beginning of our relationship Now we're going to have three kids together and its worse when we Fight cuz of the kids There seeing us I love my bf to death but it really hard to try to work things out now cuz I think about the kids and how they feel I think you guys should go for counseling And try to work on communicating Cuz that's what me and bf need and we have been together for almost 6 years

[bubbles_baby]

I agree with Erica. I have a restraining order against my child's father.

[ericatoday]

You need to save you and your baby. I'm going going o be honest if you want to stay in the abusive relationship I would suggest adoption at least save your child from seeing it's mom get beat up. I think its your choice to put up with his **** but your baby has no choice and that's not fair. Your baby should have a better life than that. And what if your bf decides to beat the baby. Even if you don't think he can do that he might. Call the cops now and go get a restraining order.

[bubbles_baby]

I was n an abusive relationship found out I was threatening a miscarriage. Needless to say I left his ***. Quick fast and n a hurry. Currently 31+5 with the baby the doctor said I wasn't going to have. Love your child more than that man

[nebabyy]

That's exactly what I said.... now that I am carrying his baby I thought it would stop... but it doesn't n I threatened him before that I will call the police... but I'm too inlove with him to send him to jail... but it need to stop & it s time for me to put my foot down Cause of he doesn't stop me&my baby are gone.  Thanks for the advise I'm blind in this situation

[mitch_14]

That's no reason for him to do what he does. There is never a "good" reason for someone to do that crap.

[nebabyy]

Thanks & I know I always tell him I'm going to leave... turn I found out he has skitsofrinic (REALLY DON'T NO HOW TO SPELL THAT)..SI see Why he does the things he does. I mean I love him so much thATS Why I'm still sticking round.  It's so confusing & stressfull!

[Momtothesecondpower]

Next time he puts his hands on you put him in jail for commuting a felony and if it is you who is the aggressor get some councilig before your little one has to see stuff like that or gets hurt in the middle of it!!