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hows everyones babys father doing?

ive already had my baby, shes 10weeks old now and sometimes she just screams and cries like someones trying to murder her. sometimes we cant calm her down. i can handle it a lot better  than my husband. if shes in his hands he will start to get rough with her out of frustration. he will get really uppset and angry to the point he has to walk away and he will punch  a wall or something.. it stresses me out and scares me at times. i know he just loves and adores her(when shes not screaming) and i know he gets frustrated with himself for the thoughts and feelings he gets when she cries like that. and im not going to lie, i cant trust him alone with her sadly/:( it breaks my heart. yesterday it happened and i just cried. sometimes i need a break from her too, but now i will have to call someonee to watch her. i find myself wishing this stage over and wanting to fast forward to when she is a toddler but i told myself i would enjoy every minute of when shes born. uhg i wonder how he will be when shes a toddler and throwing a fit. Is anyone elses husband going through the same thing?
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thanks everyone!:) she must be gassy ya she had another random freakout today but we were at my inlaws so it was more relaxing environment
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It will all get better,  I promise! It's new for the both of you,  just stay stron! everything seems to get easier once you have a system down.  But try talking to someone, good luck
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I hope things get better for you guys. It sounds like the baby may be gassy the uncontrollable crying. Get some mylacon drops they should help. I'll be praying for you :) mom of 2 soon to be 3
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I am! Im frustrated sad, hurt depressed etc. I know we will get through it its just the "getting through it" part that *****. And im jsut worried that he will always be like this when shes even older? Thats what im mostly stressed about. Because at every age they cry. It just never stops. And i know they throw tantrums as toddlers. Just want to know how he will be when shes that age. it scares me
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6709254 tn?1389303349
I pray that everything will right itself with you and your family. If you believe in God pray about it. Seeking help is good. Do you two have close relatives that can come over and take over for you guys for a lil while? You know to let you guys rest. Even 5-10 minutes is better than no break at all. Are you close with your neighbors? Maybe they have kids and wouldn't mind coming over to help. Its scary and heartbreaking to hear that you both are stressed...but everything will be fine.
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7826987 tn?1401691041
You poor mumma, even with your crazy hormones you are holding your family together! You must be so exhausted.
councilling is nothing to be ashamed of and i definately say go get help as a couple, with you there too he will see exactly how you are feeling. You guys will get through it :) xx
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i will ask him if he will see if he can talk to someone. he told me he doesnt want to hold her anymore he doesnt trust himself. and that just kills me. im so down right now about this it just hurts me he feels that way with her. in the beggining i had mild post partum depression and had bad thoughts about her but i got over it quickly. so i know how he feels at times. i dont feel that way anymore but i have a slight understanding of what hes going through and it *****
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My daughter did that to at around 10 wks but it stopped shortly after. They don't know how to express there feelings an what they want an they to get stressed just try to breathe an if it gets to be to much put her down like in the crib of bouncer an set away for a few seconds babies can sense frustration it'll be ok
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maybe he.should speak to someone about his anger n how to better control it n then take a parenting class with him of course it's natural for us to become moms but harder sometimes for men n then maybe the parenting class can help him figure out wat to do when she is fussy n crying
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I don't have my baby yet I'm still pregnant but I was watching my friends newborn and he started crying and my Fiancé started freaking out and this isn't his first kid but men just don't really know how to handle newbornjust wait until she gets older it will get easier once the baby can talk he'll no what to do more just hang in there
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no I'm not going thru the same thing my daughter is 10 weeks also but my bf is wonderful at keeping her he actually had to watch her Saturday by himself she gets fussy sometimes but he knows how to calm her i think u should have him seek help to help with his anger n don't let him watch her alone if he is getting to the point of hitting walls his anger is.serious n could be dangerous eventually n don't think u choose the wrong decision by keeping her that was the best decision u.could of made
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yeah maybe well i know if shes crying like that and hes holding her he certainly doesnt make it better, i always tell him that maybe she has stomach cramps and is in pain and just wants comfort but he gets too worked up and mad about it. And hes not an abuser like he loves her so much its just when she gets that piercing cry he cannot handle it! I read online that mother have a like a natural hormone or something that happens when the baby cries that keeps us more calm but men dont really have that. When we talked about it he told me it frusrated him cause he doesnt know whats wrong, and he just wants to fix her but he cant. so he get mad instead.
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7826987 tn?1401691041
Of course you did the right thing by keeping her!
It will get easier, maybe you guys can get some help maybe some anger management for him?
Babys can sense ur emotions maybe shes scared?
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sometimes i question if i made the right decision keeping her. this pregnancy was not planned and he wanted an abortion at first but i just couldnt do that and decided to keep her. but its been so hard:(
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