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9442948 tn?1406816451

i don't want any one to hold my baby

I know this sounds wIerd but the thought of some one else holding my baby after he or she is born makes me very upset. I don't know if it's BC I'm selfish our if it's BC i don't trust any one, I'm also very germafobic  and to hold my baby when i don't know if your hands are clean scares me, idk its really bothering me to the point i don't want any one to go to the hospital except my husband. I don't mind if he holds baby. It bothers me even more that my parents kiss babys on the fore head when they baby sit and i don't want them to kiss my baby. I'm really really freaked out and stressed, please any other moms going through this or went through this? I don't want your opinion if your going to be rude or don't know what im going through
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3062962 tn?1406743961
I understand that you don't want your baby to get sick, but if you don't introduce them to germs they will develop no immunity and be sick very often later on. for about a month or two, it's important to have the germx on hand, but you need to work on letting go after that. no kissing is up to you, but so closely policing everyone that comes near baby does baby no good if these people have no contagious illness
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Oh if you don't want them there then just tell your nurse n they will make sure to not allow visitors. :) that way you have enough time to begin the bonding process with your little one
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I'm the same here, I don't want anyone but me and the baby's dad and my close family holding my baby when she's born, I really don't want baby's dads parents to hold her. I don't want to let my little girl go, she's mine lol and I'm only comfortable with my family. I'm dreading giving birth because of this an  I know baby's dads mum will want to come up as soon as she hears I've gave birth and I know that baby daddy will also want his stupid friends to come see baby at the hospital but I really don't want that happening as they hate me and I hate them! Urghh don't know what to do! I'll feel so selfish if it's only my family there and not his even though we aren't together and I know it'll just cause an argument :/
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I M also in stress. I Dnt want anyone to hold my baby or kiss my baby . And o dnt want my husband family at delivery time. I just want my husband to be there
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That was exactly what I was thinking I don't want any one near my bby as well besides my bf and my mom & dad.  I don't want nobody seeing my bby but mw first or holding my baby. Or kissing my babym I feel the same way but it is our babies so we can do whatever we feel like it. Who ever likes it or not!
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9442948 tn?1406816451
I'm not shielding my baby, i don't want to keep people from holding him forever bc i dint want baby to get sick!! It's just for the day baby is born! And the oldest grand parent is 34 years old  so im not worried about that, there's plenty of time for pictures after I Have bonded with MY child
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I kinda feel that way towards my mil...she has diabetes sores on her legs real bad and has had them for 15 years. My mom is a nurse and says they can carry mersa so I don't want my baby around that
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I so understand u .. I hate people touching on my kids o and the kissing on the forehead o lord dont get me started lol b4 I hand my baby to any1 I make them wash and dry their hands then purell lots of it and tell them no smelling or kissing my baby I dont want ur breath all in her face ... my mom tried to sneak a kiss and I yelled lol
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7385901 tn?1402928016
Its good to conscious about the well being of your child but to shield her or him from the world will do the baby no good. The baby needs to be exposed to the outside world and all their kisses eventually. Lol For the first month or so its good to keep the hand sanitizer close but after that, I strongly suggest you let people hold your baby.
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Everyone, specially close family members are going to want to hold the baby. I would just make sure everyone uses hot water and soap and maybe wear face mask. You will have to let them at some point, pictures are very special when they are just born specially with older grand parents. You won't want to miss that special moment of a great grandma hold that baby for the 1st time just because your worried about germs. The baby is going to getget sick at one time or another
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Lmao first timers r so funny. I was the same w my first. Just make ur wishes known about the kissing. But ur guna have to let ur close family hold the baby. If u want their help i.e buying things for ur baby and baby sitting in future u cant b selfish. Their excited to just make them washup. U can even give them masks if ur that paranoid. Goodluck
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When I was expecting my first son I thought the same way but once he got here I realized that he had to start getting exposed (little by little) to other people. If they're sick of course keep them away but other than that it should be OK. Ultimately Its your baby so you get to decide who is around them :)
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9514648 tn?1406655517
I understand your concern but the more over protective you are the more stressful it will be. I think that it's up to you if you dont want anyone to hold you baby, a lot of people will be understanding.
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9442948 tn?1406816451
There's just something that tells me to not let people hold him. It could just be my protective mother instinct idk
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You have to let go eventually. Just give everyone germ-x before they hold the baby and tell them please don't kiss the baby for personal reasons. That's not being selfish you more concerned than anything.
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My older cousin did that with her bby girl the whole nine yards hand sanitizer, on the neck  hands arms, than also wipes and blanket. I thought she was doin the most and everyone else did as well. Anywho her second one was the total opposite  she practically gave her to anyone. I will not act like that wit my child tho. As long as i kno the person tht iS
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I am 34+2 and I feel exactly the same way like I probably won't let anyone besides my fiancé hold my baby for a couple months!
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