need some help

[jbrooke0127]

okay so I am in a HORRIBLE situation. I am very scared and don't know what to do and I would like some advice...I am not proud of this, actually extremely embarrassed and can't believe I did it but I slept with another guy after a night of drinking and it was a one time thing while I had a boyfriend. I took a pregnancy test on May 6th and it was positive. I am not sure if it is the boyfriends or the one night stands...I slept with the guy on April 26th...I have a period tracker on my phone and the first day of MLP was April 6th..when I went to my first ultra sound on June12th I was told I was about 8 weeks and 4 days making my due date January 17th the doctor told me from the measurements my period didn't start until  April 13th (but I know that's wrong because I had it tracked in my phone)..I had my second ultra sound on august 23rd and the measurements came out to be 20 weeks(making the first ultra sound a week wrong) but the doctor said she was keeping my due date the same because she thinks I just ovulated late..I have not told the doctor my dilemma yet because I am embarrassed but that week means EVERYTHING in knowing who the father is unless someone has some advice on other ways to figure this out??

[proudmommy120612]

In your case there is no way to even guess because it was so close both their sperm was living in your body at the same time its no way to tell other than a DNA test which one penetrated your egg first

[motogp93]

Hmm. Yeah that's the tough part. I wish I had an answer.

[jbrooke0127]

Consecutive

[motogp93]

Truthfully, you're best option in THIS scenario is to wait for DNA. You need to talk to your man in regards to this. To me it seems like the one night stand. But I'm not a wizard. Were the dates consecutive or how far apart?

[jbrooke0127]

Yes I slept with my boyfriend before and after the one night stand that's why im so nervous could that ONE time really be when I conceived? and my first ultrasound was transvaginal but would me being a heavy drinker and smoker have anything to do with the early growth? because my second ultrasound the lady told me I was about 20 weeks and the baby was about 10 oz which would be what I thought but when I went to my doctors appointment after the ultrasound she said we are going to just leave it at 19 weeks that's why this ONE WEEK DIFFERENCE is so important

[AimeeLeigh7]

im in a very similar situation so I know how horrible it is and what you're going through me and my boyfriend broke up for a few weeks and I slept with someone else and him a few apart. ive talked to the doctors about it and if the days are close then there's nothing they can do until the babys born and you do a dna test, even scan dates aren't 100%. so dont spend your time stressing over the dates, stress isnt good for you, the only thing you can do is wait unfortunately. my advice is to make sure you tell your boyfriend if you haven't already its better to tell him now than later and to focus on the baby, no matter who the father is thats still your little baby and you love them the same no matter what. be strong and good luck. :)

[delyayle]

It sounds like the one night stand, however no one can be 100% until the baby is born and you do a DNA test.

[SonoTech55]

Sorry, but based on the info you provided,  it sounds like the one night stand is the baby's father.  Sorry to all such a personal question,  but did you sleep with you boyfriend on our around April 27th? Because the seems to be the date you conceived.  Also, was your first ultrasound done transvaginally or was it done on your abdomin?

[kmommy2b]

Id say get a dna test to find out for sure you dont wanna guess on something this important lol

[jbrooke0127]

If you don't mind me asking when is your due date?

[shyloveskai]

My lmp was april 14, and i got pregnant may 1st. Positive test on may 13. Id say you got pregnant from the other guy. But, paternity test will tell you for sure.