If he hid it from you, there are issues. My hubby had a psycho ex that used to call him constantly and try to get him to come sleep with her and all that. He told me every single time. He tried blocking her number but she'd just call/text with other phones. We finally changed his number when we got married so we wouldn't have to deal with it anymore.
I consider it emotionally cheating tbh, he's being a disrespectful jerk either way. Confront him about it
I just read this allowed to my husband..his response,"yes it's cheating bc they wouldn't be bringing it up or talking about it unless they were doing it or thinking about doing it" and that's coming from a grown mans perspective.id have a talk with your hubby.the only sex he should be talking about is yours and the only person he should be talking to about it is you.sex is personal and should be between the two engaging in it not everyone else and their mama.
I guess for me it depends.. Was it more talking about sex in general or talking about positions or likes and dislikes? I remember the day I found out I was pregnant I used my bfs phone to text my mom. I saw a text that had a weird title and so I opened it (still regret it) and a girl he used to go to college with sent him a long message saying she wished they would have fooled around and had sex that one time and sorry if that's weird telling you this so late and blah blah.. He replied back saying that's not weird at all, I agree. That for me kind of hurt me most because she knew he had a gf (me) and he disrespected me in a way that made us almost break up that day. We're still together and to this day he has deleted her number and blocked it and I said if you ever talk to her again, I WILL leave you. He's a great bf and loyal but I guess that just hurt me by how he responded to her. He's had 11 partners in the past before he met me..I've had 3. So idk people make mistakes, some worse then others. Lol wow sorry for the long post..
If He's Engaging Then That's Completely Unacceptable. You Have Got To Address The Issue Dnt Let Him Get Away With It. Not Saying Leave Because That's A Decision You Have To Make But He Definitely Has Some Explaining To Do. Good Luck With Whatever You Decide Hun!!!
I guess just be upfront and you need to decide if you trust him or not.
Id be pissed off to be honest thats crazy!
I tried to trick him into telling me but all he.did was lie
Whenever I go through my husbands stuff and find something i don't like I trick him into telling me! That way we are arguing about the issue and not him just arguing about snooping ;) so I would tell him "crap my phone jus died, I need yours" grab it before he says anything and say you need to text your friend fast... Then oh no "what is this?!"
Niqueniq. You are right, he is so secretive with his phone, it drives me crazy. We get in a huge argument if ask for his phone or play around and try to grab it
Chani I agree with u as well. And he totally engages in the conversation. He has me second guessing given my baby his last name
Don't be afraid to tell him as his spouse he shouldn't have anything to hide so let him know that you know
Thanks to all the ladies about your opinion.I totally think you guys are right. Im scared to tell him I know since I found out by looking in his phone.but my thing is if yall talkin about it, you probably met up with her and had sex before
My husband and I would be getting a divorce if he did that!! Only girl that can talk about sex to him is me!!
I guess I consider cheating as being in a romantic relationship whether its going on "dates" or actually having sex and doing these things behind your back. If he is talking to another girl and its inappropriate I just call it disrespectful. Either way its not acceptable and I would talk with him. My husband used to Think it was OK to meet up with an old gf (they were friends for a long time) but I told him that even though I trust him it is disrespectful to me and our daughter for him to continue "one on one" time with her. He agreed and stopped.
You Say That The Female Is Talking About Sex? Does He Shut Her Down Change The Subject Or Actually Engage In The Convo? If He Does Partake Then Yeah Bc It's Disrespectful And Inappropriate For Him To Have Those Type Of Convos With Another Woman.
I would consider it a form of cheating I wouldn't leave but we definitely would be sitting down having a serious talk
Yes. The other partner should NT be talking to another bout sex. NEVER
I personally do consider that cheating he shouldn't be talking about sex with no one but you
I personally do.. I'd leave my husband/bf if he did that. .