Strange question debating it in my head.

[Krysma]

So the father of my baby has been an *** I have posted a few times about things going on. Had not even seen him since September. Then out of no where he showed up at work. And wanted to "talk" (he knew not to come to my house,my dad wants to kick his ***). Well after my shift we talked. He appoligized for not being around and for not focusing on me and his child. Told me he broke up with his girlfriend, told me he wanted to be there for everything  from this point on. Said he was going to focus on me and the baby from this point on. He all but said he wanted me back. I am not the type to give second chances, in a relationship. He messed things up. I am already in my third trimester and now he decides he wants to be around. But now my head is spinning. I was with him almost a year when I got pregnant,and when I did he flipped and ended things started dating and I let him do his thing focused on my baby. Should I give him a chance as in the romance or stick to my rule of no second chances. I want to do what is best for my child. A relationship was the last thing on my mind until I seen him today. I miss being held and told I am beautiful and of course the sex. I miss having that companionship. I am lost at what to do. I do not want to be hurt again,but at the same time I want that companionship. I know my hormoians have something to do with this all. I would just love some advice form you ladies and opinions of what I should do. Sorry it is so long. Have a wonderful evening and any advice would be wonderful

[1st_time_momma]

^^ i'd remember the fact that it is his child too and just because u don't feel like u want to be with him because what he did to u but I'd at least give him a chance to be around for his kid I mean I don't know ur story with him n u but I wouldn't take ur anger of him out on ur child it hurts them in the long run.. Trust me

[kaity07]

I don't think that you should give him another chance, I think that he just wants someone to be with just until he finds a new girl friend.. no offense... but I think that he wont hesitate to break your heart again, so now just focus on you child and forget him.....
But after all you know what is best for you and your child, so think about it and don't take anyone's advice on this so you don't regret it later on...

[MimiMarieKane]

See me and him was on and off for a while even did long distanced relationship. But it didn't work out. But once we got together again things sparked. Then I told him I was pregnant wanted nothing to do with me. Dated someone else. >:/ two weeks before I had her we FINALLY had a conversation . He didn't want me I didn't want him. Even offered to bring him stuff for her when I brought her cause he was not ready . Admitted he was scared. But the DAY she came & I seen him again sparks. Everything was about her and me to him. & it was wonderful :) been together since.

[Liz_zoey]

This actually is very close to my situation. My ex came back around about 2 weeks ago, after being a complete *** my entire pregnancy. I'm 39 weeks tomorrow, and baby could come anyday now. Saying pretty much the same things, that he wanted me back and that he wanted us to be a family and stuff. I'm not interested in getting back together with him at all, because he really showed his true colors earlier on. However, I do want him to be in our daughters life if he wants to be. He says he does, so I told him that we would see how it went with him and the baby, and maybe over time he and I could at least be friends. Personally, I just can't forgive some of the things he did and said before he came back around being nice. I would say see how it goes with the baby, and maybe rekindle something from there. Good luck hun!

[Krysma]

Thank you ladies. That is what I am going to do. Just let things happen and not jump into anything. Right now it is just words he needs to prove he is going to be around for me and our daughter. Thank you all so much for your advice.

[mssamoraeames]

Well this could be the time to really know if he can step up to the plate or not. Of course it's that question in the back of your mind.. will he hurt you again? But.. at this point in your trimester your about to have this baby and really if he is wanting to work it out with you he will do everythng in his man power to provide for you and that precious baby of yours. If he COMPLAINS about changing diapers about helping getting up in the middle of the night or just being that extra stress in your life...reassure him you can raise the baby on your own. But I gave a second chance to my fiance long ago and now we are happily engaged and expect baby number 1. Second chances..in my eyes... a chance to prove you wrong. I remember my love would keep proving it over and over by the love and affection and support he puts in my life. So I only hope he does the same for you and the baby. Good luck

[baby_love2014]

I was gonna say the same thing! I say just take it slow and first see if he's actually gonna be there for your child. First you guys have to rekindle that friendship and see where it goes. I'm a sucker for love,  so I would keep an open mind!

[Summer14baby]

^^^^100% agree

[DreamaMama]

I think youve gone this long I would wait it out and see how he acts once the baby is here. If hes serious he'll be willing to wait. Just take it slow:)