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porn?? or nahhhh

How should i feel about my babydaddy watching it. I know men do it but  i dnt understand why he would need it if he got me like does it mean he wish he could  **** them.?? Or am I being selfish??
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I say leave him be . Be happy he can satisfy himself. Its going be to a point where ur not going to want to or not be in the mood at all. I rather my man watch porn than go and venture out and get the real thing.
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I just had to say I agree with jessann I never turn down my hubs and I used to be ok inthe beginning with him looking at oorn I even took him to a strip club for my and a friends birthday but when we got engaged and I got pregnant things changed alot for me I dont like him looking at it now and that may seem hypocritical but thats just how I am now and i never turn him down because 1 even when im not feeling the greatest I still enjoy that closeness and the feeing he wants me 2 he makes sacrifices for me y would I not for him 3 I love him I want to please him 4 its not like we have 2 hr marathons so I can stand it. I felt it wasnt right at all about seeming he "owns my body" no hes respecting me by not doing something I dont like so im gonna repspect his wants and needs besides after about 5 mins im usually pretty into it too
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7385901 tn?1402928016
Just trying to show these women a different point of view that might help their relationships! : )  All in good fun!
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7283881 tn?1401875642
I watch porn and if my hubby wants to see porn i have no problem with it... but he kinda doesn't like me watching i guess so i do it when I'm in the mood and he's not around
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Men will always be attracted to other women, regardless of if they are in a relationship or not and to think otherwise is just naive. I see bithung wrong with porn. My husband watches it at least once a week and that's totally fine with me.when I'm in the mood he comes to me first but if I'm not he can sit at his computer and satisfy his need for variety.
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& that's today's society women for ya.
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@Jess-Ann I 100% agree with you , girl let these females be & let them do whatever it is that they do. Your right in my eyes ! No need to bicker with ppl who have their minds made .
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Me personally I watch porn! If my boyfriend is at work in I'm in the mood I surely will turn on some porn lol, But if you dnt want your bf watching porn I think you should tell him how you feel
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Alright ladies let's just calm down ok... seriously y'all getting defensive... the question is your opinion on PORN....

Personally I don't like it.. or like Ny husband watching it fho there are times I want to watch it n I watch it with my husband... I admit my husband is a SEX ADDICT! No he doesn't just have a high sex drive he is full on diagnosed SEX ADDICT!

Now... we all just need to calm down! Ok this is matters of a opinion EVERYOnE has different view we don't need to stress just cuz someone said something that disgusted us or we didn't like its her view their view on this particular subject ok.. :)
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7385901 tn?1402928016
No, what makes my man stay is our emotional and sexual connection. It is unbreakable. We actually get along, care about each other, etc. You know those things that every woman wants. Part of that unbreakable connection is that I actually do care about pleasing him. On the other hand, I am able to talk to my man about anything and everything, get his whole hearted support, advice and still get multiple orgasm! To me that is amazing, and I wish that love for anyone. Don't judge my relationship because you don't like my opinions!

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Lmao^^^
I thought this post was dead already.  
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I believe sex keeps the relationship going, but sex isn't the only way to keep your man interested in you, if that's the case hunny your man just loves your P U S S Y & not you.
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7385901 tn?1402928016
Again, like I said in an earlier post, if both partners are approving of this and their relationship works, then hell whatever. Do what works for you! These are my opinions and I have just as much right to post as anyone else.

The things Im posting are things that are pretty easy to figure out, don't need to be a relationship counselor to do the math. Be considerate of each other in regards to emotional and sexual needs. To me that is important, sadly to some that is not so important.
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It'a quite obvious your lacking something if sex is the only way to make your man stay.
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7385901 tn?1402928016
This is about sexually relationship with your partner, not about emotional relationship. We are the best of friends actually, not lacking anything.
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7385901 tn?1402928016
Dont feel disrespected. That isn't my intent. I have my own opinions, as do you and everyone else.

I don't feel wrong or a lack of respect in myself. And my hubby never disrespects me either. When I really don't want to have sex, he doesn't force me. Our relationship works very well because our consideration of both our emotional and physical needs within each other.
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Lmao, there's other ways to keep your man interested in you, if SEX is the only way that you keep your man then you lacking other things ^^
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7385901 tn?1402928016
How is "doing your part as a woman" disgusting? Do you really find the thought of pleasing your man disgusting? That attitude is one of the causes of infidelities. I agree, he isn't going to run away because he gets turned down ever once and a while. That is not what I am saying. If you want to keep your man interested in you, then you have to make sure your man knows your interested in him.  That is insurance in your relationship. I have had so man guy friends of mine tell me, I couldn't stick around because she didn't make me feel WANTED! Men are just as fragile as women when it comes to sex with their partner. They want to feel like they are important sexually. Keep in mind, I am not talking about sex with a fling or one night stands. Men in relationships want their sexual needs fulfilled just like a woman. Of course those needs may not necessarily be the same.

One of the things that keeps my hubby happy even when I am not necessarily feeling in the mood is my eager to please him. Oral, hand jobs, etc. It makes him feel important sexually. He understand there are days that I just don't feel good and never makes me feel bad about it either! He is considerate of my need to rest. He knows he will get his. Being good partners means being CONSIDERATE of both of your needs, not just yours. Pregnant or not!

Think of it this way. Your man probably goes and does stupid stuff that he has no interest in doing with you, to PLEASE you because he is CONSIDERATE of your needs. What is so wrong about doing that when it comes to sex?

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7732297 tn?1397446837
I feel completely disrespected the way you stated things jess-ann. Thats no way to treat yourself as a woman , just because your together doesnt mean you owe him your body.
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7732297 tn?1397446837
I dont mind it, then again i dont really enjoy having sex while pregnant so as long as he is just watching porn and not having sex with other women im okay with it:)
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Are u a relationship counselor @jess-ann? Its one thing to state your opinion,  that's fine & dandy,  but trying to stick your view down everybody else throat like that's the RIGHT view isn't cool. There is no wrong or right here.  This isn't a debate.  Its just what you & man are comfortable with.  The end.  
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Yesss I totally agree with @Geekmom1213 !!! Took the words right out of my mouth..
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7385901 tn?1402928016
As I stated above, as long as your CONSIDERATE of your man's needs, he shouldn't go out looking. That doesn't mean have sex every single night.

Some men just need it.. which to me is a sign of a deeper issue.. like addiction for example. In which this doesn't really apply.

But there are other ways to satisfy your man without having to hop your big pregnant self on top of him... lol just saying! One of the things that keeps my hubby happy even when I am not necessarily feeling in the mood is my eager to please him. Oral, hand jobs, etc. It makes him feel important sexually. He understand there are days that I just don't feel good and never makes me feel bad about it either! He is considerate of my need to rest. He knows he will get his. Being good partners means being CONSIDERATE of both of your needs, not just yours. Pregnant or not!
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Just because my partner is horny doesn't mean I'm in the mood... I'm never going to have sex if I don't want to. Anything else would be disrespecting myself and my feelings. "Do your part as his woman"?!?! That's a disgusting attitude - his needs are not more important than mine, we are in a partnership not a dictatorship. Shouldn't he be considerate of my needs? What on earth do you mean by "insurance"? A real man can handle being turned down on occasion - he's not going to leave me just because I didn't f*ck him.
My partner and I have a happy and fulfilling sex life but if he's in the mood and I'm not I don't mind if he watches porn on occasion - he doesn't have feelings for anyone but me, he might get turned on looking at those images but he isn't any less in love with me because of what he saw. Pornography isn't inherently dangerous, if it were then every man on earth would be hopelessly addicted and nobody would ever be in a healthy relationship with a man. The term "moderation" comes to mind. And the term "respect" - he doesn't do it in front of me, because it would make me a little uncomfortable, but keeps it to himself because he's polite.
To the OP: just talk to him, mama. Tell him how you feel and see what you can do to work through it together. Good luck.
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