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pregnancy "competition"

So my friend just found out shes pregnant and I'm super happy for her, we both found out we were pregnant around the same time and our due dates are only a day apart.

I thought it would make us like sisters but instead everything is a competition for her. Like who will have the best baby shower or the most creative gender reveal. She brags she will get more gifts than me and have everything first including her baby. She's being so selfish and I can't stand it anymore. I'm so upset, this turned a best friend into such a stuck up woman.. I don't know what to do. Shes crying about how I don't talk to her anymore making me look bad but I just can't step up and say why.. all I say is I feel too sick to see anyone.
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My friend is the same way. Its so annoying. I just tell her to shut the **** up. Haha(:
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6519447 tn?1391770769
I was friends for 17 years with someone who always competed with me. She was a very jealous spoiled person and none of my family liked her I always stood up for her idk why. Any guy that liked me she would go after she slept with a guy I really cared for when I got with my now husband but what kind of friend does that? A jealous friend! I would be careful around her. Dont share secrets or special plans with her
SHE IS JEALOUS OF YOU!
thats why shes acting this way. Be careful that's all the advice I can give you. I wouldn't call her a real friend. Trust me I know exactly how u feel
I finally ended my friendship with her and she made sure to take my other best friend away when I stopped talking to her they started going out n doing things I didnt care until it started messing w my plans with my friend if I would invite her to do something she would agree then ignore me and I would see pics of them having fun on the nights we were supposed to have plans so I ended my friendship with the other one too. I deserved better and didn't put up w that crap
So yeah just watch your back around someone like her
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Thats ridiculous. I had that with my first pregnancy but it was mainly my sister in laws saying the in laws never did anything they did for me for them. I have tons of friends due around the time I am and I am so happy for them. I haven't had any thing like this happen to me, but if I did it wouldn't bother me. Seems like she has low self-esteem and she is coincided.
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I had that issue with my sister... Twice! Lol this time I am pregnant with my best friend. And I was nervous b/c this is my second baby (my 1st preg was a miscarriage) and this is her first baby... So I wanted to make sure I don't talk a lot about mine and ask her how she is doing. It seems to be going well! We are 4 days apart and haven't gotten on each others nerves! Even went on a weekend trip! I guess I like to try and make sure others are enjoying themselves. I know how I felt with my sister getting preg twice shortly after me everything was more important with her. I guess I'm just as excited for my friends as I am for myself. There are 4 of us friends plus my sister in law all preg!
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Im sorry I would tell her how I felt. My best friend is a month behind me but we became more close then before. We are both excited for each other.
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Baby shower April 5th and I did zebra theme and now there doing it I'm like u ***** but in gonna look at this way I'm a leader and she a follower aha so hang in there I know wgat ur going thru
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Damn I thought I was the only who is going through this! Its crazy how ppl can turn a beautiful thing into such a crazy mess
I'm going through the same exact thing with my brother and his wife.  Were 2 weeks apart.  I'm due May 5th and there due May 20 . Well anyways I thought it was awesome that our baby was gonna be a few weeks apart but hell everything is competition with them. Every time somebody says that my stomach is cute she makes a way where they will give her one too like ***** sit dOwn. Ooh and we have the same docs too and everyone says I have this cute bump and I'm still tiny and she will say ooh welk my baby is bigger no ***** ur just fat that's why u look big. Also they say there baby is going to be cuter then mines I'm like dude why are we in competition its not that serious our babys are gonna be cousin., I'm so pissed u had my
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7691733 tn?1398222340
Ik how u feel my sister in law is due 9days before me
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Tell her straight up until she can learn not to try and turn your pregnancy into a competition you do not wont be around her tell her your sorry it has to be this way but you are looking out for you and your baby by dropping the stress she is adding to your life by making this sime petty competition
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7891785 tn?1397532007
A coworker is a month ahead of me, and my neighbor is a month behind me. Im going through the same thing w both of them! Im so sorry. Itll get better!
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This is your baby and she is having her baby. If yal are good friends, I would not just end the friendship but I would let her know how you feel and go from there. If she takes it the wrong way thats on her but every pregnancy and baby is different, every ones situation is different. What matters is that you and your baby are healthy :)
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I've tried once to tell her how I felt but unfortunately she turned it into this huge thing and pretty much had a tantrum and called me jealous. Every time I tell her I'm happy for her or try to be supportive she always follows up with a snide remark.

I'm sorry but holy cow, being pregnant has made me super hormonal but hers is more than just hormones. She's the golden child of her family, has had everything first. Sometimes I just want to tell her a baby isn't a trophy or a medal you can hang up and sit on a shelf.

I'm sorry for ranting lol, it just bugs me that she feels the need to try and steal the spotlight. At the end of the day though, my fiancé gives me all the love and attention I could possibly want. He is so set to be a daddy lol.
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I know exactly how you feel! My sister-in-law is a month behind me (im 28+2) and always tries to make it like her being pregnant is so much better than me, and whenever her parents ask how im doing and whatnot and comment on how they can really tell how far i am and how my bump is so cute; she ALWAYShas to bump in and talk about herself. I just want to scream sometimes but have to hold it in bc she is my husbands little sister and he loves her more than his other sisters and blah blah blah.
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8296559 tn?1397871519
Pregnancy changes ladies. Some can handle but others are best to stay a distance until it's over. I would come clean with her. Tell her that you feel as if she is turning it into a competitive route.
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3605625 tn?1385017548
My advice in this kind of situation is as much as it irritates you, just smile sweetly and say 'that sounds great' or 'I'm so happy for you' basically just act happy for her and not let it show it gets to you. I know it's hard sometimes and very annoying, but just talk happy about your pregnancy and what you will do, and just reply nicely back to her with anything she says. There will be no competition if you show her there is no one to compete with.
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I can see how that can get annoying. Have you told her how you feel?
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