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pregnancy rant :(

I feel really sad today about my pregnancy. I'm dreading my baby shower because I feel like im judged by everyone for being young married and pregnant.  This pregnancy was not planned and it was a surprise to my husband and I both because I have thyroid issues/irregular hormones and he was told he was unable to have children. I feel like my baby is a blessing and I love her so much already. I just can't help but feel like everyone else feels superior to me because they're not pregnant or have kids like their better than me. My mom keeps telling me my friends parents probably tell them I'm a bad Influence and stay away from me and that really hurts my own mother would say that even if it's true or not. I honestly can't imagine what I'd do if something happened to my baby but I can't help but feel ashamed and embarrased for being 19 and pregnant. I want to be successful and my daughter is not a mistake she's a blessing but until I finish college I'm considered to be a nobody by my mother and an embarrassment :( I didn't even stop or drop out.
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Well it sounds to me like your baby was meant to be :) I wouldn't worry too much about what others say, if you and your husband are happy for your blessing then that's all that matters. I hope things get better for you sweetie and people stop putting you down
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Your married and your an adult in my opinion tell her to shove it up her butt its your body your husband and your little blessing.
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Don't feel that way I'm 19 and pregnant & I'm in college as well. There's nothing wrong with that at least ur still going and ur married as well. If Anyone is against u or being hateful about it and making u feel bad in my opinion I would just not talk to them anymore and stay away from them because u don't need that stress. I would talk to ur mom and tell her if she's not going to support u that u r just gonna stay away from her 2 cuz that's really hurtful. Ur mom is always supposed to support u no matter what. Ur baby is a beautiful blessing so don't start second guessing urself. Congratulations plz keep ur head up & God bledd
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Bless*
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I got married at 19 and had my 1st at 21yrs and im on #2 now @ 30w0d. Dont pay any mind to them. You are doing what is best for you and your family.
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NOone Can Make You Feel Inferior Without Your Consent......Your Bby Is A Gift From God Don't Let Anyone Dim Your Light.... Don't Stress Just Relax And Live For Your Little One
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Thank you for the very much needed and sweet comments!  It really means a lot to me and improved my mood by and lot :) ♡
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I got married when I was 18 and got pregnant shortly after the point is your married to the man I mean it could of been some guy you just met some people don't know how to handle that I guess but if I was you I would tell your mom to butt out and if people see you the way she says than oh well let them think what they want your baby is you and your husbands blessing...but I personally think it's just your mom trying to bring you down hold your head up high stay positive don't believe everything she tells you... my mom almost ruined my marriage bc my husband worked out of town n she would always tell me she knows he's cheating I was 18 than I told her off and told her to stay out of my life and if he is oh well its not you its me he never has cheated on me now we have had a happy 6 yrs of marriage.... stay strong mommy you can do it goodluck
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Your mom sounds exactly like mine. It's hard having a mother like that. I really get sad when i hear the phrase girls grow up to be just like their mothers because i would never want to be so bitter and be negative and hurtful towards my own daughter. I'm really happy for you and your husband that you have a good and strong marriage
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I'm sorry you have to feel like this. I hate that your first pregnancy isn't going well, and people have to bring it upon themselves to make their opinions notice. No! You're young, and married.... At least you can hold that over others. Most people who are 19 dont know what shoes to math their stupid outfits to go out clubbing.. TO FIND someone, like you did. Please, you're already five... Maybe seven steps ahead in the game. Live your life... And live it well. No one else is walking around in your shoes. :) I joined the military young, and damn it.... I got looks too. Its a huge life decision, and you being pregnant is the same thing. Dong mind them. Enjoy your pregnancy.

Congrats, and good luck. :)
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Match*
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Im from the uk and had my 1st baby at 18 and now due to give birth to my second in 28days and im 20 , all I can say is show all the jugmental people the middle finger and to mind there own bussiness as long as your happy you shouldnt care what any one eles has to say ! Best ov luck x
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I'm 22, married, and 28 weeks +5 with my first (also unplanned). I may not be 19, but I'm getting treated very similarly by some of the people I know in my community- though mostly young acquaintances and middle aged people instead of my small circle of actual friends thankfully. I've even been accused of getting married just because I am pregnant! My mother is also constantly trying to control how I will raise my baby already (especially when it comes to religion) and putting me down as if I have no clue what I should do, even after helping raise both of my much younger brothers. It's super frustrating, but I've noticed that is easier to handle when I find supportive people to talk to.  My husband, my mother in law, and a few friends with kids (some of whom had their children around my age/ younger), have really made it all easier. I highly recommend finding a couple people that you can lean on who understand your capabilities and situation, and possibly outright cutting some of the haughty, negative people from your life. I don't doubt for a minute that your baby is a blessing and that you've totally got this!
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That's good that you have good friends around you that support you :) you're lucky! And moms can be really difficult I have no idea how to deal with mine
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