pregnant and scared :(

[soon_to_be_mammy]

Hi I'm Lilly and I am 18, I am also pregnant and scared. I am five weeks and and scared as hell as the father of the baby had told me that he wishes to have nothing to do with me or his child, this now leaves having to the child on my own..... What am I going to do I am do scared......

[soon_to_be_mammy]

Aww right okay..... Thanks for the advice and I am enjoying..... It's mad I know I am only six weeks and one day but I feel huge already :-)

[baby2_on_the_way]

take it one day at a time! Enjoy it! Women are amazingly strong. First things first, find assistance, support from family or friends, a job, and slowly prepare yourself with things you need. Its never too early to start!

[soon_to_be_mammy]

I just doubt myself like

[baby2_on_the_way]

I know it will be hard to let go of the idea of having both parents in your Childs life, but I practically forced my daughters biological father into her life, and his first time alone with her at only 4 months old he sent her back to me with hand shaped bruises all over. It was horrifying. I know this is an extreme case, but he is a grown boy and if he chooses not to be a part of that little blessing's life, then let him lose out. I promise you can do it :-)

[soon_to_be_mammy]

Thank you all for comments of congratulations!, I appreciate them..... Honestly I do and yea I know but he is already with someone else so he ain't having anything to do with either of us x

[Dlo88]

Hi Lilly I know it can be very overwhelming and stressful but in a lot of states they have pregnancy crisis centers I would def try to find one in your area there very helpful and they can get you all the info you need no matter what u decide... Also if u don't have insurance go online and apply for Medicaid for pregnant women... Forums like these are helpful as well.... I wish u the best

[rosey117]

It's going to be a long emotional journey. It's not easy especially when you need and want the support of the father. Jehovah will never put anything on your plate that you can not handle, with prayer and support from your family and friends things will be good. Stay strong and focus

[baby2_on_the_way]

Congratulations! I did it on my own at age 16! Of course with a little support from my wonderful family that is!! When my beautiful daughter was 10 months I found a great guy who she calls Daddy. My daughter is my best friend in the world, and I couldn't imagine having a closer bond with anyone in the world! (accept this little peanut i'm expecting now that is!) Congrats, and you can do it! Shoot for a good job n continue education to ensure a good future for yall

[KTowne]

I agree with anniebrooke, and you never know, the father may come around, this is a whole new world to him, he's probably scared, just as you are, and it takes some time to sort through these things, not saying he's right suggesting abortion, I'd be livid, but give him some time to think things through. Bringing a baby into the world is supposed to be a great time, and it shouldn't be any different for you, so congratulations, and good luck!

[Momeetobe89]

You can do it! You dont need him. Im 29+4 and I will be on my own. But I have my family and friends support. The thought of needing your baby daddy is way overrated! I wish you the best!

[AKGarman]

My 5 year old son is a case of sperm donor syndrome too. I did 4 years alone met a wonderful man and we are expecting a daughter anytime.

[cindy82]

Just dont give up on that baby, I had my first when I was 18 and second when I was 20 to a piece of crap father, so I raised my boys alone. Yes it's very hard but trust me it's worth it. There now 10 and 12 and I wouldn't have changed a thing. There father was nothing but a sperm doner. Good luck

[soon_to_be_mammy]

Thank you emileesmom. I haven't told anybody yet apart from my best friend who saw the stick but as its early days I am not telling anyone. My mate hasssaid she'll stick by me but no one else knows. X

[emileesmom]

Family support will be a life saver! And lean on friends don't stay secluded your pregnant not the end of your life just beginning of different life try to relax and enjoy experience! Show your baby you a strong woman!

[soon_to_be_mammy]

Thank you for all that information AnnieBrooke. It is very helpful and there is no way I am giving my child up... So I adhered your advice and act upon it thank you once again

[soon_to_be_mammy]

Hey thanks  just really scared..... It's like..... I dunno om 18 complete accident and now look at me

[goonie400]

Hello Lilly, its not going to be easy but you can do it. I would lean on friends and family for help. its that man's loss if he chooses to have nothing to do with your baby. I wish you the best of luck. keep your head up

[AnnieBrooke]

1.  Decide whether to have the baby, whether to keep the baby or to opt for adoption.

2.  Get your health care in order.  Do you have health insurance?

3.  If you are firm on keeping the child, get your financial act together.  You will need:
-  A place to live
-  A job (that will not fire you for being pregnant)
-  Family support
-  A long-term plan on getting your education so you can better your life for you and your child

4.  Again, if you decide to keep the child, get your legal act together in relation to the child's father.  This means filing for child support, so see an attorney or a legal aid clinic.  Be ready to do a DNA test when the child is born.