If my back hurts girl on top is miserable but for the most part it's not to bad if your back isn't bothering you. You can always stand at the foot of the bed and bend over that isn't to bad and sometimes I lay on my side and my husband lays behind me like spooning
Have you tried girl on top? It might help with the hip pain and make you feel a bit lighter :) Plus, I don't know about you but that's one of my hubby's favorite positions, lol (boobies!) Oh, and you can control the speed/motions more too.