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10541177 tn?1411242619

should i break up with him?

My boyfriend and I have a baby on the way I'm 17 weeks. But I feel stuck with him like I'm having to settle because he lies and breaks promises. Such as he promised to stop smoking weed so he could get a job and he still smoked and failed the drug test and didn't get the job. He also promised me that he would stop giving his mom money for her bills because we need it for the baby but he still continued to do that causing us not to be able to pay my obgyn bill and now I'm having to go on medicaid. Another thing is that he cheated on me and won't just tell me the truth when I already know it. There's just so many things going on. He keeps saying he loves me and making excuses about everything and I'm so tired of it. I deserve better don't I?
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10623188 tn?1412309749
If you're going to leave him.. leave him!! Don't just leave him for a few days weeks or months && get back because he promises you he will change... he already promised that && yet you see nothing... i think you know what to do... && i guess I'm not the only one to say that you're better off without him.. leave him.. get help from on government until you're stable... get support from your parents or a family member you trust && get your life together for your baby... && put him on child support... not trying to be mean just not sugar coating it.. good luck!!
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She's right. You deserve endless support during this time and there is NOTHING that can justify his actions. Plus you're only going to go through more stress when the baby arrives and its going to put a bigger strain on your relationship and the baby is going to be able to feel that stress and as they gets older they're going to realize their mom isnt happy and their dad treats her like dirt. Trust me, you dont want your son/daughter thinking its normal to lie and cheat and not stepping up to responsibilities is okay. Do what's right for you and your baby :)
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Yes u deserve better. Get on medicaid.. Move in with your parents , mother , grandparents whoever and leave his ***! You can do this on your own!!!! He will only make it harder and more stressful for you.
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11234298 tn?1417676547
So many girls go through this and im not sure why, but they do maybe because there young and naive, i mean not trying to be mean and rude but why on earth should you second guess your self being with him ? You should of been left him. Yes i understand if hes the babys father but does not mean you have to stay with him. Everyone deserves the best. You can be happy with out him. Just worry about you and your unborn child. Good luck (:
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