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so many people are desperate..

I see so many people on here who are desperate to givebirth when their dates are close, due or over due. Baby will come when he or she is ready. I don't understand the rush?
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I also want mine to sloooooww down I'm really not looking forward to the birth part. I'd go as far as to say I'm effing petrified!!!
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defensive. I wasn't trying to be negative towards anyone.
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I'm well and truly over the 30 week mark, only a few morr to go, and gained almost forty pounds! So I'm extremly uncomfortable and can't sleep etc. What I mean is I see people wanting their baby put and complaining (which I do to my partner a lot!!) but after seeing a friend go through birth at 20 weeks and it didn't survive, as she went into labour naturally I'm just happy I so far have a healthy baby. It's made me try not to complain so much. All I asked people is why the rush? And everyone gets so
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3208100 tn?1346945010
i am on baby number 20 weeks now with my first i went over due sure it was no fun and i couldn't sleep for the last couple weeks with both of them but they say the last thing to rush is a baby they will come when there ready unless there is a medical issue or to big of a baby i dont see the piont of people wanting them out at 37 weeks.  they will come good luck everyone
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Im 40weeks and always said i wkuldnt be bothered if i went overdue. if it was any other month i wouldnt care as i stkll like being pregnant despite not being able to sleeo however i dobt want him to be born or or so close to christmas. that is purely the only reason i want him tk be born otherwise i wouldnt mind goung overdue
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2020005 tn?1628125976
Rachyou, I think it's totally different for people with complications, too. Both of my pregnancies have been pretty much complication free (except the occasional clumsiness and falling emergency appts haha) I can't imagine having complications, that would make it 10x worse.
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2195822 tn?1341056911
Like I said, I Am being induced on due date and would love the option to go overdue! but i'm not allowed to. I'd rather go naturally really. But I am wanting to go naturally before my due date as I'm being induced, and had a bad induction experience with my first.. I can slightly see where OP is coming from but everyones in different situations. As long as people aren't trying to induce themselves before baby is full term I can't see the harm in a moan , the end hurts haha. :)


Moving on...
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2020005 tn?1628125976
And I believe her PP said she's about 32 weeks
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In addition to the heaviness, fatigue, heartburn, shooting pains in my thighs, and having to haul my big self to  the bathroom every 5 minutes, what I hated most near the end of all of my pregnancies were the dumb questions, especially "Haven't you had that baby yet?"  

We're trying to keep this a safe place where people can feel free to ask any question without fear of ridiculed or insulted. Everyone's experience is diffferent, and even though everyone's looking forward to a positive delivery experience and a healthy baby, the last few weeks are no picnic.  Let's talk about that, instead of the OP.

Claire
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2020005 tn?1628125976
I've been through it before, 4'11 carrying an almost 9lb baby, I understand it can be uncomfortable, and I'm now 35 weeks pregnant with number 2, also measuring big, and it's uncomfortable, but I don't want my little girl to come before she's ready..honestly I'll put up with any ache, pain, and discomfort that comes with it if she's 100% healthy, (AND I'll admit I'm enjoying the sleep a little haha!) I think for me it's not the occasional oh my god I'm so ready for this to be over (because I am, but I'm not rushing it, there are very few times in life that you'll experience this) it's like AHP84 said, the people that are complaining about it constantly...it gets well I'll stop there, too haha! For me I knew the end was going to be uncomfortable and painful so I can't complain too much, this is my 2nd, I knew full well what I was getting into (call me crazy hahah)
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4402433 tn?1354180698
You will be ready to as soon as you 30 something weeks if not before.
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184674 tn?1360860493
Oh yes, the end can get pretty unbearable, lol. My first pregnancy wasn't so bad; looking back, I don't think I would've minded making it to my due date (he was born by induction at 39+4) or even a few days over. The pains and exhaustion wasn't that awful.
Now my second child...omgosh. That pregnancy was nothing but pain from week five. I swear he must've positioned himelf on a nerve and then later was laying on a few more nerves or something, and he would kick so hard that almost every movement he made was painful from about 18 weeks. I couldn't sleep at night due to a combination of him kicking, hiccupping, severe acid reflux, back pain, BH contractions, and a horrible, horrible issue with leg cramping. Then at 33 weeks, I was hospitalized for four days (over Christmas, to make it worse) for a severe episode of pre-term labor in which I had to have magnesium sulfate for three days straight and steroid shots--and those are so beyond painful, especially the mag sulfate. It weakens and relaxes every muscle in your body and taking each breath is an effort. To be honest, I seriously thought there were moments I would die and I am NOT exaggerating.
I somehow managed to make it to 38 weeks before the doctor offered me an induction due to labor not happening as expected between 36-37 weeks, which was caused by being so heavily medicated to STOP labor and all that still working in my system even though I was taken off bed rest and meds at 36 weeks.
As much as I strongly advocate for women to try to avoid induction if they can, especially before 39 or 40 weeks, at that point, with my second pregnancy, I was literally in tears and begging for an induction at 37 weeks. The pain and traumatic physical stress of PTL for a month straight was the main reason, yes...but also because I knew that his lungs would be mature due to the many steroid shots I had to aid that for him as quickly as possible. But my doctor made me wait until 38+3 anyway. It's just part of the sacrifice and price we pay to have our children...but like the other say, you can't judge how someone feels or what they're going through at the end, because it's not your pregnancy, and you don't know what it's like to go through what someone else is. Every pregnancy and baby is different.
However, I will say that what I TOTALLY understand from your point of view is how some women at the end just seem to go overboard on the moaning and complaining. Yes, it's uncomfortable, painful, exhausting, etc. and I more than understand a vent or two or three of frustration and pity parties. But when all you hear or see from some women literally every couple of hours is the same complain again and again and again...
well, I'll just stop there. ;-)
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2424510 tn?1349961575
My thing u have no idea what we go thru unless u have or currently been there I'll be 36 wks tomorrow and have had endless contractions that go no where no dilation and still nuthin my body aches and have my husbands two other kids here which are a little older but not self sufficient enuff so no we dnt undrstnd ur point of view I noticed that the poster of this hasn't replied yet either how many weeks are u??
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You will understand once you get to that point :)
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2195822 tn?1341056911
And honestly. My first pregnancy was complicated, i had health issues but towards the end, I just felt a little uncomfortable. That was it. This time around , I've had severe referred back pain, a constant trapped nerve, sciatica, gestational diabetes again, pelvic pain, leg pain, headaches, and now at 38+6 I can hardly get out of bed because of the pain. I've been having painful, irregular contractions (not braxton hjicks) for eight weeks now. I've had to cope with all this and a wild, 17 month old child. So as you can imagine, when you can barely walk. Looking after a child on your own, 9-6, 6 days a week is beyond painful and exhausting. I can't sleep unless she's in bed she doesn't nap in the day, and doesn't sleep til about 9;30pm. Like I said above, everyone is in different situations and it's not fair to judge without knowing reasons. I would never want my baby to come before 37 weeks/ term. But even midwives have been giving me ways to induce labour safely from 37 weeks because they know I don't want to be induced on my due date again. Some of us have a really difficult pregnancy, and I don't mean a small back ache or a bit uncomfortable, every day is agony for me. And everyone has the right to moan, its a long time. I'd never however support trying to induce labour before baby is term. Also I had a miscarriage before my daughter so I'm not ungreatful to be pregnant. I am just sick of the pain and exhaustion. It is killing me.
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2195822 tn?1341056911
I'm 38+6 and yes I want my baby out now. I have gestational diabetes and a variety of other health problems and so ill be induced on my due date. Yes I want ny baby now rather than being induced as I was induced on nt due date with my diaghter and had a awful time. Don't judge, everyone's situation is different. Heck I'd rather go over due than be induced again. But for risk of stillbirth baby has to be out around due date. Baby would be healthy in my case if born now so.I.don't see the problem. When people are trying to induce labour before babies organs haven't finished developing eg 35/36 weeks that does annoy me as baby woupdnt be well if born yhay early. But everyone is entitled to Moan. This pregnancy for me has been full of complications and very painful.
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I agree...

My biggest issue is ive been dealing with painful contractions for WEEKS and made no progress, baby is grinding her head into bones in my back. I wake up several times a night with heartburn, cant manage to sleep more than 4 hours a night (im up every 20 to 30 minutes most nights)and i have a toddler to chase during the day. Not to mention my beached whale belly is causing muscle spasms in my back and i spend half of my time nauseated.

Im being induced monday (due to medical reasons of my own) but it cant come fast enough! Once you have had a really rough pregnancy, you will understand where we are all coming from!
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Everyone is different, if ur not eager to meet ur lil one, some of us are. Its something that can't be helped. Even though baby ends up comin when they r ready, its a feelin that's hard to control, so its not being desperate.
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*UNCOMFORTABLE* it can be.
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37 Weeks + 2 Days... I'd want him here now if I wasn't trying to hold him in for one more paycheck & shopping ;) But so far I feel fine just too tired to keep cleaning!
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Unless you have had a baby you will not understand how comfortable it can be to be 8 1/2 or 9 months pregnant and overdue. It gets to the point that you cant breath at night to fall alseep unless your sitting up. You get heartburn from drinking water. You have to pee every 3 minutes. Your vagina throbs everytime theres any kind of pressure. Yes it comes with being pregnant but by the time you get to that point you are ready to be done and meet your baby. Just like previous posts...If you dont like the question simply move on and dont answer it.
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4254325 tn?1355663975
Trust me when I say u will be the same way. The pains, illnesses, anxiety, eating right, waddling, and the clothes issues are one reason. The main reason, at least was for me, u know you will have a baby and u don't get to see, feed, hold, show, or kiss your child that came from your blood and your body. Do not judge these women because until ur there u don't understand.
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4402502 tn?1355342665
I agree. I'm kind of tired of hearing their disappointment, especially when they are early and not at their due date yet. But I'm no where near close so when I get their maybe I'll understand what they are going through. I could just not get it yet.
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4254325 tn?1355663975
How many weeks are you?
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