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The father of my baby plays his video games more than he asks or talks about the pregnancy / planning for the baby. Will he be stuck in this mentality for ever? It makes me wonder if he is even the right person I should I have my baby with. This really *****. I just want him to be as interested as I am or just more excited as I am. He doesn't ask about the pregnancy nor does he touch my belly as it grows...am I asking for to much from him?
In the beginning for the first 5 months my guy was a big video game addict and same thing happend until I got to the point I was done with it he didn't even give me attention at all so I fought and fought till the day i finally made him sell his xbox or id leave him and the baby wouldn't be round him and sure enough he sold his Xbox. Not advising to do that but deff stand up to him and tell him it's not ok!
U have to understand that some, guys don't get that excited till the baby is actually here doesn't mean he doesn't care or he is going to b a bad father he may just b scared n men show their feelings a lot different then woman he isn't the one carrying the baby or feeling him kick he isn't physically n emotionally going thru the changes so he won't b as excited give him time don't force him or he will just push away cuz he is scared I'm for sure once he see his baby n hold him or her for the first time all that will change hope this helps Hun n good luck
My husband didn't get into my pregnancy until ee founnd out the sex then he started asking things and helping me and being supposrtive now that I'm showing he pauses his game to talk to our daughter and rub my belly. Its adorable. He has started picking things out he wants her to have.. lol. Hes already worried about baby gates and she's not even born yet.
A guy doesn't really become a father until he holds his baby. My husband was like this with our first it was bad but I just started ignoring him and he changed real quick. He was 16 then but I didn't get myself pregnant. This timehe would die to be here for me but hhe's deployed since he's a Marine. Give it time I know it's frustrating but guys aren't like women when it comes to babies.
My ex and I talked about getting married and getting pregnant (luckily neither of those things happened) but one day when talking about me giving birth, he said that becoming a dad for the first time was the greatest feeling in the world, and if I were to have a baby, it wouldn't come even close. He only had one child, so I was really hurt that he would be so indifferent about having a baby with the person he "loved" for over three years. I eventually moved on to my now husband and he is the greatest thing to ever have happened to me!
Like what @shell132 said, just because he helped make the child, it doesn't make him a father. If you don't think your relationship is going to work, pregnant or not, I would get out of it. It's going to be hard being a single parent but its better than that extra stress that would be put on you trying to involve someone who doesn't seem to want to be involved anyway. My sister was kind of forced to keep my nephew because she was too far along for termination but she worked most of the kinks out of her relationship with the father and now he's really involved in my nephew's life.
It wasn't planned and that I can admit was my mistake I knew he wasn't the one who I would be with for ever. I just didn't think this is what would come of it.. I guess after him mentioning termination 3 times in the first week I told him I should have taken a bigger step back and really questioned everything.
I can only ask so many times for him to want to be a part of this...what happens if it never clicks?
I tell him new little facts I read on this app but it looks as if it goes in one ear straight out the other... I feel like once the my baby is here I will have a feeling that the baby is more of my baby than his because he wasn't involved mentally and physically through the whole pregnancy...is that wrong?
None taken at all. I totally agree I wish it would just click in his head to be more father like or to be more interested at least.
I think for some guys, it just needs to settle in their minds that they're going to have a baby. Sometimes it actually takes until baby is born. My boyfriend's like that too. He seems uninterested whenever I mention baby things but I know that he's as excited as I am. It's harder for him to show it. I randomly mention baby things anyway, like how he's growing and his movement and stuff.
Remember this just cuz he made the child does not make him a father he needs to grow up and take responsibility no offence
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